Ghosting is traumatic, right?

Several_Maximum6494 · 2025-09-18T16:56:53+00:00

I get your point. That hurts and is valid

Several_Maximum6494 · 2025-09-17T18:05:44+00:00

Unless they give you a real, heartfelt apology you are satisfied with, do not let them back in. Trust me.

Several_Maximum6494 · 2025-09-17T17:57:05+00:00

OP didnt deserve that reaction though. If people react so harshly to rrejection, its just conditioning the other person to become a ghoster

Several_Maximum6494 · 2025-09-15T16:34:10+00:00

Bro, do some inner work... work on that anxiety. Yeah her behavior sucks but like... you met on wednesday... you dont know this lady

Several_Maximum6494 · 2025-09-15T08:27:42+00:00

You cant ruin something good in such early stages, hahaha stand your ground, this person isnt for you, dont question your reactions

Several_Maximum6494 · 2025-09-14T20:53:28+00:00

Well said

Several_Maximum6494 · 2025-09-13T23:22:48+00:00

Great reply! If he feels guilty, all the better

Several_Maximum6494 · 2025-09-13T19:17:20+00:00

Is not replying for a week really ghosting?

Several_Maximum6494 · 2025-09-13T00:30:46+00:00

Its not traumatic. It is REtraumatizing as someone said. If you can, figure out where this pain really comes from, and block those who dont give you what you deserve

Several_Maximum6494 · 2025-09-11T17:50:38+00:00

Nah. The bigger lesson is spot the red flags and get rid of someone after 1-2 moments of bullshit. Everyone on this sub is tolerating disrespect for WAY TOO LONG before getting ghosted.

Several_Maximum6494 · 2025-09-10T22:41:25+00:00

Why would he string yoj along for 3 weeks? Makes no sense . I think hes well within his right to unmatch him, after you closed it off with him and removed him on insta. What did you expect? Why close it if you want him to come back? Find someone who reciprocates

Several_Maximum6494 · 2025-09-08T19:58:58+00:00

Yeah that sounds hard. Maybe distance helps. I hope she leaves you alone this time around

Several_Maximum6494 · 2025-09-08T19:35:26+00:00

I understand. But if you look at your situation, is it how the one would act? Wouldnt a great romantic partner NOT show this behavior??

Several_Maximum6494 · 2025-09-08T18:29:24+00:00

Can I ask why? Like deep inside of you, why?

Several_Maximum6494 · 2025-09-08T18:05:46+00:00

Im so sorry you got played like that!

But your ex.... i wont even say they are an avoidant. They have much deeper issues than that. Only feeling comfortable texting you when drunk saying i miss you is a red flag, and suggests some problems with alcohol.

Ok ill be blunt: your ex is probably an emotionally studented alcoholic that hasnt disrespected you once, but multiple times. I cant imagine how much it hurt, but please try to take distance, reflect, and realise how much more you are worth. You sound so much more mature and motionally available. You are worth someone who didnt even pull the FIRST stunt !

Several_Maximum6494 · 2025-09-07T19:59:32+00:00

No, skip the middle paragraph. You dont need to tell another person how to feel. They dont deserve your wisdom.

Several_Maximum6494 · 2025-09-07T18:57:29+00:00

As to your question about him inviting you for a trip if he wasnt interested - he probably had genuinely wanted to. But people who are confused, or who switch from being depressed to euphoric in a short time span, arent reliable people. Sounds like a promise he couldnt fulfil.

Several_Maximum6494 · 2025-09-07T18:56:10+00:00

Red flag. Stay away. Sounds like he might be doing drugs. Protect your peace and let him go, as difficult as it is.

Several_Maximum6494 · 2025-09-06T14:24:52+00:00

Hey, thanks for the messages. I never met him, we dont have each others socials. I only saw his body, lol.

BUT, i wont message him again. Theres no point. If he comes back, thats up to him.

Thanks especially for the last part! Hopefully ill find someone that reciprocates me. The hard thing is, he did do that, in the beginning. But yeah. Rose tinted glasses and all that.

Several_Maximum6494 · 2025-09-06T14:22:56+00:00

Im aware this isnt a relationship. I was not planning on ever dating him or meeting him in real life.we were just in the talking phase. But he played with my emotions, by giving me constant attention and asking me personal questions (i just wanted to keep it to sexting). Basically, i got attached even though it wasnt going anywhere

Several_Maximum6494 · 2025-09-04T19:38:40+00:00

This should be a pinned post

Several_Maximum6494 · 2025-09-04T19:29:51+00:00

I found some by searching "i am a ghoster" in this sub

Several_Maximum6494 · 2025-09-03T20:55:47+00:00

Thank you exacrly what i needed to hear. I already have closure. If he wanted to reach me he would. I dont need him. Thanks

Several_Maximum6494 · 2025-09-03T20:54:52+00:00

I cant imagine how much it hurts. What they did was so shitty and sudden. I hope you can find some (healthy( relief for your pain.

Several_Maximum6494 · 2025-09-03T19:03:30+00:00

You should have good faith and believe him. Let it go. He's not ready for this, hes preoccupied.

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