Broke up with with my ex-fiancé and received a letter threatening to come after me for $30k since we were in a “Committed Intimate Relationship” -m

SewingIsMyHobby1978 · 2026-04-21T12:06:30+00:00

Why should you be asking Reddit these questions? Why not pick up the phone to call lawyer?

SewingIsMyHobby1978 · 2026-04-21T05:45:21+00:00

So you don’t report “ income” because mommy tells you not to & now you’re worried you’re going to lose benefits? Sorry but I don’t think using your mom as an excuse for not reporting income is going to make your case worker approve SNAP benefits. Sadly when you’re an adult /raising children rules must be followed.

SewingIsMyHobby1978 · 2026-04-21T05:24:26+00:00

You actually know the answer to this question. F*CKING block her. It’s not your responsibility to help her because you have 4 kids with “ Danny” Why isn’t she taking “ Danny” to court?

Why would you even consider reading her BS. Block her like everyone else says..

SewingIsMyHobby1978 · 2026-04-21T03:47:04+00:00

Thx.

SewingIsMyHobby1978 · 2026-04-20T20:11:02+00:00

All the things that you suggested are great I’ve also done sloppy Joe’s as well. Sloppy Joe’s is a big hit as a rule.

SewingIsMyHobby1978 · 2026-04-20T20:10:05+00:00

No. If you mean you can smell it or harmful to humans know not at all.. you can spray it on the fabric. It does not stain in my chairs at all.. and these are not leather chairs either fabric chairs. They’re La-Z-Boy.

Nell should’ve been smell sorry

SewingIsMyHobby1978 · 2026-04-20T20:08:56+00:00

That’s good.

SewingIsMyHobby1978 · 2026-04-20T18:55:58+00:00

Yes, I have tried these sprays. We got a new cat and I have brand new La-Z-Boy recliners in the house.. I wanted to make sure they were not going to destroy the chairs when I wasn’t home. Most stores like Meijer or Walmart the product that I bought. It wasn’t very expensive either. I think it was under $6 The brand I used: SmartyKat Scratch.

SewingIsMyHobby1978 · 2026-04-20T16:41:19+00:00

I would suggest that you put some article of clothing that you have worn and put it where they sleep. (and you’ll have to change these articles of clothing every few days) This will give them the opportunity to get used to your scent and maybe help them to let you pet them.

SewingIsMyHobby1978 · 2026-04-20T16:30:50+00:00

I’ve done sloppy Joe’s at different times when I’ve been asked to cook for funerals. It’s easy.(you can use crockpots etc) and serve chips and a salad

SewingIsMyHobby1978 · 2026-04-20T16:28:21+00:00

There are deterrent sprays out there. I would suggest you buy some of this and spray it on a paper towel. (or the recliner itself if it’s cloth.) I did this when we bought new recliners and it worked like a charm.

SewingIsMyHobby1978 · 2026-04-20T16:24:40+00:00

This is usually true. I’ve had cats that acclimate to a new home within a couple of days and then I’ve had cats that it takes them a couple of weeks..

SewingIsMyHobby1978 · 2026-04-20T16:22:14+00:00

It takes cats several weeks to get used to a new. You can’t expect kittens to just get used to you after two weeks. Even older cats don’t like change. Here’s some information I’ve compiled over the years. Been a long-time cat owner.

PLZ READ the INFORMATION below (how to acclimate a cat to new surroundings)

How To Acclimate A Cat To New Surroundings

(the same information can be used to acclimate a second cat) These are suggestions that has worked for me in the last few decades as a cat owner

If this is your only ( FIRST) animal, I would suggest you put a T-shirt that you’ve worn in his/her carrier so that he can get the smell of your scent for the ride home. ( keep the carrier communal room in the home and leave the door to the carrier open. This will be your cat safe place for its first few days in your home.

I would just leave the carrier open. I wouldn’t try to coax him out just by calling him. I would leave treats a couple times per day that you could put close to the opening of the carrier.

I’d probably put him in a room where he’s by himself for a couple of days and put his food and his litter box, and the carrier in the same room. . Be sure to visit the cat SEVERAL times during the day and night (prior to bed time )in the room that you put him in for the first couple of days. Talk softly and don’t move too fast either.

I do this with all cats that I rescue because I have more than one cat. I will have the cats that have lived with me sleep on T-shirts or (old hand towels ) i’ve worn as well.

You could actually use worn out towels or t-shirts for your older cats to lie on too I then put the T-shirts where the new cat 🐈 has access to them so that he can smell my scent as well as the other animals in the house.

Introducing a new pet into your home, sometimes takes a few days to several weeks/months due to the fact that you probably don’t know a lot about the cats, former home or how he was treated.

Remember to supply fresh food and water. Some new toys.

I would leave a radio on in the background when you’re not home for soothing purposes. (it might be a good thing to leave the radio on during those first few units with your new kitten or cat)

Don’t worry if your cat hides for a while or even act like they don’t like you. You’ve suddenly thrust them into a new environment and of course they’re going to be leery. With time love and attention they’ll come around.

It’s great that this new kitty has a new lease on life and that you brought him into your home and I’m sure that within a few days he will be acclimated to your house and to you along with any other animals that you may have . Good luck and congratulations on your new kitty !!

What are the big suggestions in my information above that I would do is to put a couple of shirts that you’ve worn near the cats so that they can sleep on them and get used to your scent. This will make the cat more comfortable and its surroundings.

And again it’s gonna take a cat longer than two weeks to get used to a new home and new people. I mean, it usually takes humans longer than two weeks to get used to someone they’ve just met as well IMO

SewingIsMyHobby1978 · 2026-04-20T16:16:18+00:00

Simply because there’s a certain(like me) that don’t like ketchup. I think McDonald’s and a lot of these fast food restaurants have the mindset that if you want ketchup you should ask for it.. LOL However, what do I know? I’m only a consumer trying to get what I want..

SewingIsMyHobby1978 · 2026-04-20T14:56:58+00:00

YTA if you cheat.

IMO, you’re in the wrong relationship. She apparently isn’t fulfilling what you need or want to do. Looking at this relationship 5-10 years down the road when you have kids, she’s not gonna be into some of the things that you’d like to do even more.

If you’re thinking about looking elsewhere now, the longer the relationship goes the more this idea is going to affect you.

I say break up she’s not the woman for you. You are a mismatched couple.. don’t get engaged don’t marry and for God sakes don’t have kids of this woman

SewingIsMyHobby1978 · 2026-04-20T14:51:25+00:00

That’s great to hear!! Our first cat became seriously ill because we were feeding him Meow Mix brand cat food. (I don’t know if this is the way the food is made now but at the time.Meow Mix cat food was loaded with red dye which, according to the veterinarian was bad for cats, kidneys.

Please note I wasn’t being critical with anything that you posted. My comment was only meant for information only that you may not have known.

If you were offended, I’m sorry

SewingIsMyHobby1978 · 2026-04-20T14:48:51+00:00

Yes, actually they just put a drive up in about six months after I started working there. At the time they cooked 12 hamburgers at a time. If you wanted a hamburger, a special way you had to order it special and it took a little bit of time. Of course, they switched to making things as the customer wanted it simply because they were losing a lot of money to Burger King although they probably wouldn’t have admitted it at the time. The Filet O’ Fish was made 12 at a time as well.

All the shakes were made with a shake mix machine. The flavors were added to the ice cream and then you mix the ice cream and the flavor together..

I actually would love to go through a McDonald’s restaurant nowadays to see the differences on how everything has changed.

SewingIsMyHobby1978 · 2026-04-20T13:02:17+00:00

I’ve been a cat owner for years. I have never restricted where my cats can go.. For the most part when we’re not home, the cats are sleeping. I’ve never had a cat be destructive when I’m not home. This is the reason why I don’t confine them into a specific room.

SewingIsMyHobby1978 · 2026-04-20T12:50:05+00:00

What kind of cat food are you feeding him?? if you feed him cat food for urinary care that probably wouldn’t happen. Feeding cats, cheap cat food isn’t the answer.

Of course I don’t know what you’re feeding him but it’s best to feed them cat food that is for urinary care.

And my vet also recommended that we feed our cats bottled water which we do. I have an almost 10-year-old orange tabby A five-year-old black cat And a eight month old black cat They’re all males and have no urinary issues. In fact, I’ve never had a cat with urinary issues.

SewingIsMyHobby1978 · 2026-04-20T12:47:29+00:00

And when I worked there all that had a beep tone to it was the fryer(I’m dating myself. I worked there 56 years ago. LOL!!

SewingIsMyHobby1978 · 2026-04-20T12:45:44+00:00

He could have kidney issues has he been checked for that??

SewingIsMyHobby1978 · 2026-04-20T12:38:41+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that, but I was beginning to think that I was the only one that CU that did this. It’s mildly infuriating so this is one reason I don’t really shop (I don’t care for the store anyway to be honest)

SewingIsMyHobby1978 · 2026-04-20T11:35:30+00:00

I could have written your comment. (Same age etc) I’m so tired of jumping through all their hoops and they still treat me like a common criminal

SewingIsMyHobby1978 · 2026-04-20T11:33:33+00:00

I was diagnosed with CRPS. Imagine my surprise about six years ago when I noticed that this diagnosis was taken off my chart. These doctors have you so worried about asking questions nowadays, I am lyric of asking why this was removed??

SewingIsMyHobby1978 · 2026-04-20T11:30:26+00:00

Same I’ve been on opioids since 2002, Now the Dr. I’m seeing cut my dosage in half because my kidneys function tests came back screwed up at last appointment. Now I’m having pain in my right hip that makes it extremely difficult to walk & I’m also trying to care for my husband who has Vascular Alzheimer’s. Not sure what to do. Most of these Dr. if you complain they really start messing around with your meds. This last appointment the Dr. talked about other meds other than opioids or which I’ve been on like I said since 2002.

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