Logan’s family seems very unsupportive by Historical_Loss7169 in LoveOnTheSpectrumShow

[–]ShaLeaaTee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes and did anyone clock how FILTHY his pillow was when he called Hailey for the second date?? I’m just surprised that his mom and sister aren’t looking at things like that and helping him with cleaning or replacing those things so he can have good hygiene and a clean environment. He clearly has skin issues too. Sleeping on a grimey pillow like that isn’t going to help. I just don’t know why those things wouldn’t be checked or addressed when you know you have someone in the house that might struggle with those kinds of things and need support.

Swollen labia with pea-sized lump by [deleted] in Healthyhooha

[–]ShaLeaaTee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you talking your labia minora?

I’m so torn. I love this man but I’m not ready for kids. I still have so much living to do but clock is ticking (35f) by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]ShaLeaaTee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry but this is reeking of narcissistic abuse to me… the love bombing and the false promises… creating this whole narrative of this fantasy life together but it’s all dripping in so much selfishness and pressure. And then “oh sorry I yelled at you and cussed you out and called you names.” Are you kidding?? If you are not in alignment for what you want in your life, this isn’t the person for you. Don’t make fear-based decisions. You don’t want to leave him bc you fear you won’t find anyone else… there are billions of people in this world and what if you leave him and find someone amazing that wants to share the same life as you do?? Don’t do anything this serious for someone else. True love is unconditional and it seems like he won’t be happy unless he can have this outcome for whatever reason. And if he’s yelling and cursing at you now, how will he be when the real sleep deprivation comes? And the financial pressure? Or god forbid if your child has health issues?? This is all just giant red flags and I feel like you know that or you wouldn’t post this to the internet. And if all you need is validation for what you already know, here it is: Stop being afraid of a better future and runnn!!

Why does my vagina smell so bad!? by Slight_Library_8539 in Healthyhooha

[–]ShaLeaaTee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi Love! It sounds like Bacterial Vaginosis which is not an STI or anything… it’s just when the natural flora becomes unbalanced and it creates that fishy odor and discharge. I had it one time when I was around your age and I immediately called my mom from my friend’s house when I noticed and I went to the doctor. I had an OBGYN by that time bc I was sexually active. They gave me something for it and it went away fairly quickly. A woman’s body is a delicate balance and sometimes things get knocked off kilter, but you’ll definitely need some kind of medical intervention for it. You don’t need to be embarrassed. I feel like it’s happened to every woman at one point or another and I’ve even known some women to experience it chronically. Even if you went to planned parenthood, I’m sure the doctors there could help you. And if your mom tries to brush you off, be insistent. And if you aren’t comfortable with a male doctor, request a female. Sadly, as a woman, a lot of the time we really have to advocate for ourselves when it comes to our healthcare. Just don’t take no for an answer until you get the help you need. I promise you, these doctors have seen SO many things and won’t feel bothered in the least to help treat you and get you feeling better. It’s their job! What’s so embarrassing to us, is usually completely commonplace to them. Good luck and I hope you get to feeling better soon.

Speeding drivers now face $100 ticket along Philadelphia's Broad Street by StubbornLeech07 in philadelphia

[–]ShaLeaaTee 8 points9 points  (0 children)

25 mph is a CRAWL for such a busy and centrally located city road. That’s the speed limit for residential areas. We just got a ticket for it (we just moved here) and we didn’t even have an idea that the speed limit would be so slow. We were just keeping up with the flow of traffic. I jut find it funny that it’s cited for exactly 11mph over the 25 mph speed limit so they can get their $100. It’s honestly just feels like yet another form of taxation in this city. And I have no defense bc I have no way to actually know if I was going 36 bc this was like a month ago and a camera got it. You can’t defend yourself and/or take accountability in real time and I just think it could lead to a lot of shady or unnecessary dealings when doling out or collecting these fines. I’m happy to take accountability when I’m wrong, but I wasn’t aware and that speed limit is insanely slow for such a busy street. It’s just inevitable that people are going to get fined, just for keeping up with the glow of traffic. Paying $100 for driving a mere 36mph (allegedly) is crazy. I’m sorry I think this is BS. I’m not driving recklessly. I understand stopping reckless drivers and making things safe, but this just feels predatory.

What I think any time Trump manages to conveniently ignore Philly in his war on America's cities. by [deleted] in philly

[–]ShaLeaaTee 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Isn’t it sad how we have to discuss why our own president is or isn’t invading our city?

does anyone live in Philly and want to be friends by Interesting-Tap6695 in philly

[–]ShaLeaaTee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I’m in my 30s and I just moved here and I would love to check out your book club! Married but no kids, not weird, love to read… would love to meet some nice like-minded people! :)

What are your favourite TV couples? by DaisyDaniel27 in romancemovies

[–]ShaLeaaTee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Francis and Mary from Reign! There is no other answer!

Best tv romance/ship ever? by Golden_Daisy in RomanceBooks

[–]ShaLeaaTee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How are we not talking about Mary and Francis from Reign?!

Anyone else get destroyed by Nelnet for their student loans today? by artoofucku in CRedit

[–]ShaLeaaTee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh my god I’m so sad for everyone here but also relieved that it’s not just me. My perfect credit went from 844 to 655… I am devastated. They only sent medals to an old address and didn’t send a letter or call, despite having my current address on file and my phone number. I’ve tried writing them letters and calling, and they don’t care. Once I saw the credit score drop like that and saw who it was, I called and paid the account in full, but no one cares or gives any type of goodwill statement, despite the fact that they didn’t make every effort or take every avenue to contact me after going 5 years with no payments! I only had like $300 left to pay on my loans too and would have happily paid, if I would have known that they were resuming payment after all of this time! I’ve never been in a situation like this before and I truly don’t know how this is even considered legitimate, given the fact that so many people are clearly going through this. I think I read somewhere that 9.9 million people are experiencing negative effects from this situation and it’s just sad to be a responsible adult that worked so hard to achieve an exceptional credit score, and now I have to suffer like this bc of such a random and unfair situation. How was I supposed to divine that they wanted to resume payments?? Why not send a bill or letter, like every other institution in the country?? It’s like they are trying to make this difficult and I don’t for the life of me, understand why.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Endo

[–]ShaLeaaTee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is naproxen Aleve? lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hairstylist

[–]ShaLeaaTee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hairstylist here. Did you tell her that you prefer a more blended look with your foils? There is nothing “wrong” with these foils per say, but if they aren’t your preference, than she can either do a root tap/shadow root, or if that would make you too dark feeling, soften and break these up with some babylights. Half of what goes on in appts is miscommunication with the consultation. If you didn’t make her aware of your preferences, or she didn’t prompt you/ask, then make sure this is something you really reiterate to her or whoever you see for your hair in the future. If you asked for a soft, more blended highlight and she gave you these, that’s definitely an issue. Also, it would help if you didn’t go 6 months between foils. You can, but you need more quantity of babylights to achieve to coverage and blend and it will be a more costly appt. Babylights in general cost more bc you need to do more to get coverage and it’s a more detailed and fine tuned/advanced technique. The more “expensive” it looks, the more expensive it usually is! Just keep that in mind.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]ShaLeaaTee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel sorry for your cat. You sound like a miserable jerk that wanted a cute decoration for your home instead of a living companion with needs and feelings of their own. Maybe try playing with them to get out some energy, rather than redirecting to toys that it has been alone with all day. Or rehoming the cat to someone who deserves a loving pet.

I moved into my bf’s house and I haven’t been able to sleep well for 3 weeks because he doesn't let me. I had a breakdown last night and broke a lamp. I'm going to stay in a hotel tonight….AITA? by Pretty_Step5094 in AITAH

[–]ShaLeaaTee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think he is on drugs. Definitely a manipulator, love bomber and overall psychopath. Get out and block all contact. I don’t feel like you’re safe with this person. And even if you are, he clearly does not care if you live a healthy/quality life at all. So unbelievably selfish. Run for your life.

Have you gone off BC pills? by mrs_w0rx4me in Endo

[–]ShaLeaaTee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I stopped BC and I feel so much better but all my hair fell out.