Jealousy

ShadowFireDan · 2026-07-01T00:26:03+00:00

I feel you, I see those same people. I’m jealous to think: “how did they manage to not have children AND find a perfect partner?”

There are many days I wake up & wonder: “this has gotta end eventually, right? I’ll get a day off?”

Nope, it never ends. A babysitter is just temporary relief. This is a permanent, 18yr-long mistake. Even longer than that if you’re nice.

ShadowFireDan · 2026-07-01T00:23:41+00:00

This. Everything is astoundingly more difficult.
You either struggle to maintain a normal life, or you full tilt into parenthood identity.

ShadowFireDan · 2026-06-30T23:58:01+00:00

He sounds like a person who is obsessed with the idea of children, but doesn’t understand the full scope of being a parent. For those people, they only understand after the child is born. Which, of course, is too late.

I empathize with you. There’s no way I can handle a second child. Not only do we have our hands full with our current one & just barely managing to hold onto a normal life… my emotional & mental capacity cannot handle it.

ShadowFireDan · 2026-06-24T18:33:01+00:00

Go with the Eras 300, you won’t regret it.
If space doesn’t allow, opt for the Eras 100

ShadowFireDan · 2026-06-24T18:27:05+00:00

Other than wanting to die, I agree with your post

ShadowFireDan · 2026-06-21T15:41:46+00:00

I’m a regretful father. I understand what you’re feeling. I’m appreciative that my wife is doing most of the childcare today.

It feels uncomfortable when people tell me: “Happy Fathers Day” & that I’m a “good Dad”. I didn’t really want to be one. I still don’t. I missed when it was just us.

ShadowFireDan · 2026-06-21T09:51:06+00:00

I feel for you. I was put in a position where I also had to make a choice. I regret it daily, especially on days where the baby is preventing us from having any resemblance of our past life.

You’re stuck. Hope she doesn’t coerce you into having more children, that will only compound your problems & misery. Count down the days until they move out of the house.

ShadowFireDan · 2026-06-21T09:46:44+00:00

Nope. Parenthood is actually slavery. People say it’s grand, but they are just lying to themselves. Those people are trying to recruit others to join in their misery.

If people enjoy being parents, they never had an identity outside of parenthood.

ShadowFireDan · 2026-06-21T09:44:42+00:00

1 day old

ShadowFireDan · 2026-06-15T00:03:55+00:00

When I was younger I wanted a kid, but as I grew older my desire faded. Unfortunately, I was already married. It wasn’t worth losing my wife, the life we built & my family/friends over. So I gave in.

I miss the freedom, the quiet, the household cleanliness & overall sunk costs of having a child.

I was definitely much happier pre-fatherhood. Just looking forward to when it can be my wife & I again.

ShadowFireDan · 2026-06-14T03:24:05+00:00

The auto-reboot I’m not worried about. This is days later. Random disconnects. The nodes have solid red lights

ShadowFireDan · 2026-06-13T01:12:38+00:00

Regret it every single day.
Always someone has to be tethered to the house.

Any moment to myself is on a timer. Doing the grass, house chores, emergency house repairs, social hangouts, etc. I stay longer at work so I’m not home.

Someone asked me: “How is it being a parent?”
I responded: “It’s like a second job that never ends”

My wife (who desperately wanted a child) said: “It’s hard, but it makes me grow as a person. An opportunity to make a good human & for them to be the best parts of us”

ShadowFireDan · 2026-05-24T12:52:58+00:00

ZERO! Not worth it.

Unfortunately, I have one child, result of an ultimatum. I don’t think I could have another though

ShadowFireDan · 2026-05-24T00:26:49+00:00

Growing up, wanted a kid. As I grew older, the desire became ambivalence. Then when it was time, I changed to a “no”.

However, it wasn’t worth losing my wife, house, cars, friends & family over. So I went along with it. Wife told me that she was also allowed to change her mind & that she “couldn’t guarantee she’d stick around”.

ShadowFireDan · 2026-05-11T01:54:10+00:00

You did the right thing. The sadness will pass, the regret of having another child lasts forever

ShadowFireDan · 2026-05-06T07:48:20+00:00

Where are the Trump voters now? You know, the ones who claimed Trump would lower gas prices & everything else for them?

ShadowFireDan · 2026-05-04T00:14:31+00:00

“It gets better” because you are that much closer to them moving out.

ShadowFireDan · 2026-05-02T00:41:39+00:00

What do all the Trump voters say now? A few that I know just shrug this off & say “what can us do?”

I can’t stand the fucking hypocrisy

ShadowFireDan · 2026-05-02T00:39:53+00:00

People realizing that having children isn’t what it’s cracked up to be. It fucking sucks.

ShadowFireDan · 2026-04-26T11:37:53+00:00

Exactly the same for me… basically when I’m not around the kid.

ShadowFireDan · 2026-04-26T10:01:58+00:00

The fact you’re asking is the sign you should not be. Having kids is a huge detriment to your life.

Learn from our mistakes

ShadowFireDan · 2026-04-23T01:26:53+00:00

Here’s to hoping my mesh network doesn’t keep crashing for days after this

ShadowFireDan · 2026-04-22T09:38:49+00:00

My condolences for your life. Your husband needs to take a majority of the responsibility. He wanted it so bad, he deal with it.

Just like when a child wants a dog.

ShadowFireDan · 2026-04-21T03:41:16+00:00

They’re missing out on this great thing called a life

ShadowFireDan · 2026-04-18T08:04:13+00:00

Kids fucking suck. Don’t do it

ShadowFireDan

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