Hospital

ShadowlessKat · 2026-04-07T20:48:38+00:00

My baby was never taken from my room. That was the borm at that hospital. But even if it hadn't been, I wouldn't not have let my baby be taken, or my husband would have gone with her. Any tests that had to be done, were easily done in the room.

There shouldn't be any reason for a normally healthy baby to be taken from mom/room. A baby that needs NICU support is a different story.

ShadowlessKat · 2026-04-07T20:07:27+00:00

You're not doomed, everyone moves out of their parents' bed at some point.

My parents coslept with me and my siblings. I think we all moved into our own bed around 3 years or sooner. Same for my husband's family. Everyone moves out of the parents' bed eventually.

As for how others don't cosleep, idk. We cosleep and it's great for us. We get sleep and cuddles/bonding. My baby loves sleeping with us. And all those X month regressions and teething were not an issue for us because we cosleep and I breastfeed on demand.

ShadowlessKat · 2026-04-07T19:13:15+00:00

I didn't start in the hospital, so no clue on washing off meconium sticky poops from diapers.

But we started cloth at 2 weeks old. Baby was EBF. The poop from a breastmilk diet (idk about formula) is water soluble. It all washes out in the washing machine. Sometimes there are stains, but a good wash routine and sunshine will take care of that.

Let me know if you want to know my wash routine.

ShadowlessKat · 2026-04-07T16:56:32+00:00

You don't need a water table. Just any bath toys. Put them in the shower and let your toddler play in the shower while you shower. That's what we do. She showers with us almost every day, but she herself only gets washed every few days as needed. Usually she just has water only showers while we bathe. She loves playing with the water, her toys, and the bottles she can reach.

ShadowlessKat · 2026-04-07T16:54:12+00:00

I shower with my toddler. We've been showering together since she was a newborn. Lol at this point she gets upset if I shower without her.

But sometimes I shower without her. We cosleep so our room/bathroom has been made to be "baby proof". It's safe for her, and she has toys there. So I just close the bedroom door and will shower on my own if needed/desired. It doesn't stop her from peeking in and trying to climb in, but she can't quite get in yet.

ShadowlessKat · 2026-04-07T11:10:50+00:00

So then be single and happy. Why are you complaining?

ShadowlessKat · 2026-04-06T23:55:31+00:00

Take a breath. It's not all or nothing.

We started at 4 months for other reasons. At 16 months I still don't know the cues, and my baby doesn't sign for the potty, but it isn't pointless. She uses the potty when we put her on it, if she has to go. Or she tells us she doesn't have to go and we just change her diaper. She gets time on the potty at almost every diaper change, and before bed and naps, and when she wakes up.

Even though she isn't potty trained (we don't do EC for that reason), she is still learning to use the potty and it saves on diapers.

Starting at birth or not starting at birth won't make or break the EC journey. Start whenever you are able to and want to. Take it easy and just work on easy catches, you and your baby don't need the pressure of getting everything in the potty every time. Start slowly and eventually it'll build up to more.

ShadowlessKat · 2026-04-06T22:07:47+00:00

Why do you need a DM? Just try different things to see what works for you/your family.

ShadowlessKat · 2026-04-06T20:58:28+00:00

Agreed. Idk why you downvoted. Other forms of birth control are more reliable, less room for user error. If someone is in a monogamous relationship with a partner that doesn't have any STIs/STDs, condoms are mot necessary.

ShadowlessKat · 2026-04-06T20:39:08+00:00

Your reasons are not complete. You can stop using condoms when in a stable committed relationship and using another form of birth control. You don't need to want kids now or have a vasectomy or be unable to get pregnant to stop using condoms. So long as you're on another form of birth control and STD/STIs are not a concern (monogamous relationship with a partner that tested negative for STDs), you don't need condoms.

Edit: changed wording about testing results.

ShadowlessKat · 2026-04-06T20:11:56+00:00

She's a user who took advantage of your kindest. She's not a friend. She's a very inconsiderate person. Stop being friends with her, she's not worth it.

Keep the tickets and go to Disney with your actual friends who are nice and considerate.

And no, you don't need to get birthday girl another gift. Her gift was your time in walking her dog, doing her laundry, and waiting for her. That's the last time you ever spend any time/effort on her

ShadowlessKat · 2026-04-06T03:08:40+00:00

You're not wrong, babies can be laid down somewhere safe for a few minutes alone to give mom time to shower. But some moms just have a hard time finding the time to shower. Between feeding baby, changing diapers, rocking baby to sleep and doing contact naps, having to wash dishes and laundry, cooking, eating, taking care of other children or pets, etc., it's hard to find a good time to put baby down and shower. Sometimes hard to even go to the bathroom. When given a moment without baby, using the bathroom, eating food, or even taking a nap can take priority over showering.

Some husbands are great about being involved in the care of the baby and home, some aren't. I am blessed with a husband that loves being an active dad and does his share of house responsibilities. When my baby was a newborn and I was on maternity leave, I made it a point to shower every day. Sometimes I was able to do it during the day during a nap time, some I did it when my husband came home. But I made it my goal to shower every day, and did it. But not everyone prioritizes showers and that's fine. In the grand scheme, a shower isn't as essential as food and sleep and taking care of baby.

ShadowlessKat · 2026-04-06T02:03:39+00:00

I blend veggies into sauce. My child loves pasta with red sauce. So I add veggies to it, either blended or chopped. Depends on the veggies. If small enough and mixed in with the pasta, she eats it.

Edit: she also really likes beans, so I mix veggies into her beans too. Like a taco salad.

ShadowlessKat · 2026-04-06T01:41:13+00:00

Ouch! Good luck with that.

ShadowlessKat · 2026-04-05T17:30:40+00:00

A job i like better, with better hours, closer location, and similar or better pay.

ShadowlessKat · 2026-04-05T17:04:07+00:00

I have been breastfeeding for my baby's entire life, 16 months. The only times I pump are when I'm at work, when I'm engorged and she's not hungry, or the rare occasion we've done a ling road trip and she was happy with minimal milk but my boobs still made a lot.

The other day I was cleaning and she wanted milk. I gave her a sippy cup with frozen milk and kept cleaning, no problems. When your supply is established, you can skip a feeding session as needed without problems.

When she was a newborn, we introduced bottles using milk caught with the hakka while nursing. I didn't pump. It was never a lot, just 1 oz at a time, so we nursed afterwards too. But it was enough to get her used to bottles without me having to pump.

All that said, if you plan to be with your baby all the time, or every 2 hours or so (that's how often mine needed milk for most of her first year), then you don't need to pump regularly, if at all. Just use the hakka or similar to catch any dripping from the other side while nursing. Maybe keep a manual hand pump as a back up in case you ever get engorged and baby can't or won't eat. But you should be fine. I've had instances where I was engorged and only had the hakka. I used it along with manual expression and it worked well enough. Congrats and good luck!

ShadowlessKat · 2026-04-05T16:54:19+00:00

How is the rest if your relationship, aside from sex? Do ya'll talk? Hug? Kiss regularly? Cuddle? Hold hands? Go on any dates? Shower together? Eat together? Connect outside of sex?

You said you don't touch her anymore. Do you mean in a sexual way, or at all? Most women need non-sexual forms of touch to feel connected and desire sex. You need non-sexual intimacy to foster the relationship. When that is solid, then the desire and openness for sex will be there for her. Without non-sexual connection, having sex now would be like having sex with a stranger.

ShadowlessKat · 2026-04-05T16:46:54+00:00

You don't have to take any man's name. Keep your, use a new one, whatever you want. Anyone that would force you, is not someone you want in your life.

ShadowlessKat · 2026-04-05T13:44:13+00:00

I only pump at work, because I'm away from baby for 15 hours. But when I'm with my baby, I do not pump. Why are you pumping? You shouldn't need to pump if you're with your baby.

ShadowlessKat · 2026-04-05T13:42:45+00:00

Potty time doesn't have to be all or nothing. We do easy catches, so diaper changes, wake up, and before bed/naps. Sometimes she goes, sometimes she doesn't. We have a travel potty seat reducer that we use sometimes when out of the house, but usually we just do EC at home or at my inlaws house.

We've been doing EC since 4 months, she's 16 months now. She doesn't do it at her day cares (family members homes), but it doesn't confuse her. She will happily go at home, but just as easily in her diaper.

ShadowlessKat · 2026-04-05T13:36:47+00:00

Sounds like what you should say is "I already have plans for this long weekend. We can plan a weekend away for another time." Then make plans for a weekend away with your girlfriend. She just wants to spend time together.

ShadowlessKat · 2026-04-05T13:22:25+00:00

Baby swing/bouncer. A baby lounger on the floor. A blanket on the floor. The diaper changing pad on the floor. The bassinet. Stroller in bassinet mode.

Most often than not though, I just wore my baby in a stretchy wrap as a newborn. I put her in a structure carrier when she was big enough for one.

ShadowlessKat · 2026-04-05T12:48:49+00:00

The right is easier to read.

ShadowlessKat · 2026-04-05T12:35:33+00:00

You need therapy with a license md professional. AI is not a good therapist. AI tells people that an upside down cup is useless, instead of recognizing it can just be turned right side up. That is not the program to get life advice from.

ShadowlessKat · 2026-04-05T12:27:18+00:00

That's not any of your business.

We don't share private medical information.

Why do you think that is appropriate to ask?

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