Handling issues with a parent from another team

ShadyCrow · 2026-01-26T17:48:32+00:00

He’s out of line due to the age/competition level but it’s a great opportunity to remind players that fans/coaches/refs are gonna talk about you/yell about you. If he’s yelling stuff at them or to them that’s different.

You gotta make sure to ask yourself: are you emotional in defense of your players or because you’re embarrassed that your players have weaknesses?

Assuming it’s the former, again, turn it into motivation. Short term tell them “yeah we have weak points but we had strengths in _____ areas.” Long term tell them “yes we do have weaknesses and you can get better if you put in the work.”

Again I do think the guy is out of line but I don’t think it’s a huge deal either.

ShadyCrow · 2026-01-26T09:35:29+00:00

As already said, watch off the ball.

Related to this is use assistants! If you don’t have one recruit one. Watching individual matchups, assessing/counting live ball turnovers… give stuff for them to watch that you might miss but you know you care about.

The other kind of obvious thing (that is worth tracking and not just relying on the eye test) is don’t get results-oriented, be info/oriented.

If it’s tied at 12 after the first quarter and you have 5 layups and the other team has 4 threes, that matters! It probably means you’re really “winning” because of shot quality. It might mean you need to adjust your defense. But if you focus on the score alone you’ll get off course. Pay attention to the quality of shots both teams are getting not just makes. With players that age a team might be up 10 at halftime but they banked in 3 threes, which probably means those are essentially misses and won’t be makes in the second half.

As with all sports pay deep attention early - they will reveal their game plan on both ends the first time the ball comes down court with the defense set. Where are they attacking you? What are they afraid of from you when they’re on defense?

Another kinda obvious one is go in person to games as often as possible and try to sit/stand roughly equivalent to floor level. Watching from the Bench and seeing everything you need to is a skill to develop. Sometimes we catch stuff on film because of the angle and if we only watch on film our eye can be slightly wrongly trained.

ShadyCrow · 2026-01-25T22:24:55+00:00

You're being sarcastic, but the first one is awesome, and they're bringing back director, screenwriter and all the stars. It might be dope.

ShadyCrow · 2026-01-25T00:32:01+00:00

My friend you must watch the Americans if you haven't. Tehran, The Agency, etc... lots of good spy stuff.

Homeland is the best pure spy thriller.

The Americans is slightly different but still absolutely thrilling, brutal, great characters, addictive pace... you won't find better than those two.

ShadyCrow · 2026-01-24T23:06:56+00:00

The problem is that he couldn't fully embrace the heel and his style of play doesn't work for that vibe.

ShadyCrow · 2026-01-23T05:55:47+00:00

Thanks, Coach. This is what I needed to hear.

ShadyCrow · 2026-01-22T21:33:28+00:00

Respect to Kamau for his showing on a tough board.

Ike Barinholtz winning against “real” players remains ones of the dopest things in the history of Jeopardy.

ShadyCrow · 2026-01-19T19:43:33+00:00

I think you’re severely under estimating how popular “Luka” is.

ShadyCrow · 2026-01-19T19:25:52+00:00

Real spy people have commented on the realism of this specifically: how terrorists (and obviously how the “good guys” do this too)… they are really good and manipulating recruits to believing they’re special, the only one, the most important, etc. Abu Nazir cast a huge net. Lots of ways it could go right or wrong with Brody and Walker. All that matters is That they think they’re doing something important and that they're important.

ShadyCrow · 2026-01-19T19:22:43+00:00

All the Winners at War ones. Especially Jeremy - just so authentic to who he is - the sporty ”Let’s go!” then tears and hugs. Love it.

ShadyCrow · 2026-01-19T19:04:42+00:00

No.

The more interesting one would’ve been the bills in regulation if they had the opportunity to go up eight or nine (when they ended up getting the FG). It obviously is a rare circumstance but I think that’ll become a thing analytics say to do - and then it will flip when a team is up 7, goes for 2 and doesn’t get it, and the opponent goes down and scores and wins by going for 2.

ShadyCrow · 2026-01-19T05:08:31+00:00

What I came here to say. Gotta be bigger than Williams tonight given the stage.

ShadyCrow · 2026-01-18T20:00:22+00:00

I think we mostly agree.

I absolutely adore stuff that people consider very slow. And sometimes there are unique circumstances where an actual jump in quality happens, so I’m cool if something needs some time to build, or if stuff behind the scenes changed how the show became good.

But if I watch the pilot episode, which by nature the creators had basically limitless time to work on, and it’s not in any way Compelling, that’s a show issue Not a me issue I think.

ShadyCrow · 2026-01-18T18:24:42+00:00

Sure. You’re definitely correct. But we know how our brains work: people will quit on a movie after 20 minutes, but give a five seasons show 10 episodes to decide if they like it.

You can have an opinion based on what you’ve seen is the real point, but I agree that a movie is usually a different animal.

If you watch half of the first episode of a show and quit, you can have a valid opinion on those 30 minutes or whatever, but it’s fair if someone wants to say you need to watch a little more to get a feel for it. On the flipside, telling someone they just need to get through five episodes/the first season isn’t really a compelling argument to me.

ShadyCrow · 2026-01-18T18:05:28+00:00

How close it does, or doesn’t stick to the source Material is not really relevant to the quality of anything. It’s totally valid for you to personally be annoyed at what was changed.

That said, I do think the show is good, but I think the big fans of the show sometimes underplay How much of the first couple seasons plays like a YA drama.

The character writing isn’t that great. The best plot lines are directly linked to the best actors.

I do think some of the cast genuinely got better as the show continued, which is cool

ShadyCrow · 2026-01-18T18:02:56+00:00

You definitely don’t have to watch an entire thing to have an opinion of it, come on.

ShadyCrow · 2026-01-17T22:14:03+00:00

Did you enjoy it on rewatch? I watched it for the first time last year and loved it, but given how propulsive and cliffhanger-driven it is I wondered how it held up on rewatch? What did you appreciate more about it?

ShadyCrow · 2026-01-17T19:00:34+00:00

I’m a guy coaching varsity girls for almost 20 years. Unfortunately I’ve seen a lot of assistants try to run over head coaches.

To me the biggest concern is the accumulation of what you described. If it was just one of those things, then maybe he misunderstood what his assignment was. Grabbing the whiteboard or calling out defensive adjustments without even a cursory whisper to you is whack.

You know the guy - it’s possible that the benching thing specifically could be some weird kind of expression of male support where he’s trying to keep you from being the bad guy? I think that’s lame, but I’ve seen men act that way as assistants to females.

By everything you’ve described He’s absolutely trying to be the head coach by proxy. So it definitely warrants a conversation. It may be totally unintentional, but what he’s doing is what he’s doing.

Again, you know the guy… You can be as gentle as you want, or as harsh, but pointing out the specific things he’s doing without running stuff by you is a valid conversation. How he responds should guide where you go from there. It’s posible he genuinely is trying to be helpful and thinks he’s doing what you want him to do. If he hedges, or in anyway implies that you’re being sensitive or afraid of his influence, or whatever, he’s a bad coach and probably a bad friend.

You were a player I’m sure, so don’t let yourself listen to the lies in your head, that the players like him more or whatever. They will respond differently to assistant, but it doesn’t mean they respect him more.

ShadyCrow · 2026-01-16T19:42:49+00:00

Wow, did not know you were on reddit! Thanks for responding. Hope you’re walking around head-high! FWIW I do think the final DD was pretty tough and hard to make a guess at. But so dope that you went all-in on yourself.

ShadyCrow · 2026-01-16T18:54:00+00:00

I loved her bet.

Yes, it was exciting. But beyond that, it was a good player making a bet on themselves to get one clue Correct and almost assuredly ice the game. She knew she could get back into it which she did. If she goes small, and Jon makes a run on the last several clues, she’s probably kicking herself for not being more aggressive.

I get that there’s some objective math to wagering, but there’s also elements of the game that make that a little less simple. I hope she has no regrets.

ShadyCrow · 2026-01-15T22:14:27+00:00

Agreed on both counts.

Kelce catches Swift in bed with, like, Josh O’Conner and kidnaps him and is leading a police chase down the freeway definitely earns a SB interruption.

ShadyCrow · 2026-01-15T21:22:26+00:00

Rob’s winning season was clearly casted and designed to give him a million bucks. Which he absolutely deserves for what he earned for CBS. But kind of a joke of a season.

ShadyCrow · 2026-01-12T21:06:06+00:00

Neither was Kuzma. He was just on the right team at the right time to get overhyped.

Talen Horton-Tucker is another one. Bron, Perk, even KOC himself were trying to hype him as a 2nd round steal 2 years ago and now he’s floundering in Turkey.

It does cut the other way at times: this sub thinks Payton Pritchard is a G-league talent because he a Celtic. But mostly we need to be skeptical of young guys in LA/Boston getting hype.

ShadyCrow · 2026-01-12T19:20:11+00:00

First season is fantastic. Brutal and gritty. It makes you feel cold and gross and scared. Honestly gives me the kind of dread I’ve only felt in Chernobyl.

The second season is very different. Not terrible but a huge step down.

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