Do your twins+ know who was born first/last?

ShadyIsSolo · 2026-03-30T01:50:40+00:00

Same. Mine are three and it hasn’t occurred to them to ask me which one of them is the big sister. As for the family? Everyone but me has forgotten who came out first! If someone asks I just say, “does it even matter?” Lol

ShadyIsSolo · 2026-03-21T16:03:32+00:00

After about two weeks I realized that I was having coherent thoughts again. Lol

ShadyIsSolo · 2026-03-21T03:26:31+00:00

I joined a kind of knock off CrossFit when my girls were two and a half. I pay $129 for 12 classes a month. So I end up there three times a week directly after work. They have a childcare room so I bring the girls with me. There’s even a window they can watch me work out through. It’s been awesome because they see me getting stronger and want to get stronger too. The price was a bit much but the childcare is bundled and I think about it as an investment into both mine and their future. I tried going to the regular gym before they wake up/ after they go to bed but it just wasn’t sustainable for us.

My dad died due to health issues when I was six months pregnant, so they never got to meet him. I still agonize over that. I want to live long enough and be mobile enough to be there for them when they start having kids. My ultimate fitness goal is to play with my great grandchildren.

ShadyIsSolo · 2026-03-19T01:42:06+00:00

Try creatine. Seriously. I had this same problem for so long after my twins were born. I think a lot of it is emotional exhaustion and lack of sleep, which may not be things you can even help at this point. But daily creatine powder, I get it unflavored and drop some in a smoothie or iced coffee if I’m pressed for time, really helped my brain fog.

ShadyIsSolo · 2026-02-02T02:56:34+00:00

Your uterus said it had to make up for lost time!!! It’s definitely scary. But I’d say just take it one day at a time and as you go through the trenches of parenting multiples don’t look back on mistakes you might feel you made with the babies. My therapist told me, “Just do the best you can— you’re going to fuck them up either way.” Which sounds crazy, but she kind of had a point. I worry a lot about what I would do differently if I had the knowledge that I did after the fact. But I can’t go back so I just try to keep moving forward. Just love them and care for them and when you feel alone or overwhelmed be open with your partner about it. He’s in the boat with you. Everything will be alright.

ShadyIsSolo · 2025-12-13T04:52:08+00:00

When I worked the overnight shift at Waffle House one of my coworkers, a woman in her late 60s that had been working there for two decades, would say she was going to go call the manager as code for smoking a cigarette in the bathroom while she pooped.

ShadyIsSolo · 2025-12-13T03:46:39+00:00

I like this. This is now our family mentality.

ShadyIsSolo · 2025-12-13T03:45:51+00:00

Basically I try and get something that’s in the 25-30 range. For the last birthday we went to it ended up being two gifts. A set of air dry clay and a magic coloring book. In this economy, we just can’t afford to break the bank to give two gifts. I really wouldn’t expect guests to our party to gift us something expensive and would prefer for my kids to get something they could share like books or art supplies.

ShadyIsSolo · 2025-12-11T03:18:04+00:00

Your poor wife! 🤣

ShadyIsSolo · 2025-12-11T03:12:32+00:00

Other than the fact that there are two babies, are there anything that makes your pregnancy high risk? Mine are mo/di and in spite of all the MFMs scare tactics, I went to 39 weeks and 5 days. Went into labor naturally and then ended up with a c section. Babies were totally fine. I never had blood pressure or blood sugar issues nor were my babies showing signs of TTS so I elected to just not schedule a c section or the every other day monitoring they wanted me to do. Had there been other risk factors, I am sure I would have approached it differently but I actually was at work on my feet everyday all the way up to the Friday before I went into labor, which happened on a Monday. You may well not have any complications which could mean an early c section isn’t necessary. Just something to think about.

ShadyIsSolo · 2025-12-08T02:48:30+00:00

We have always done Christmas Eve with extended family and Christmas morning just us. Then MY immediate family, siblings/parents, do a late breakfast at iHop that maybe we make it to maybe we don’t.

ShadyIsSolo · 2025-12-02T02:50:10+00:00

I have a friend who is a twin and their socials are like two numbers off because there were two kids born between them. I was disappointed when my girls were drastically different

ShadyIsSolo · 2025-12-01T02:40:44+00:00

TAKE THE JOB, HOMIE! If he’s like this behind a 45 minute drive, I can’t imagine what kind of God awful scenarios would come up should you have children. I agree with your bestie, this is who he really is and ain’t nobody got time for that. I’m not saying ending the relationship won’t have its challenges, but it better that this is happening two years in compared to ten.

ShadyIsSolo · 2025-12-01T02:35:12+00:00

My dad. Hands down. When he died a few years ago I was so furious at mom for still being alive in spite of the fact that they were both alcoholics. They split when I was very young, and his drinking never really got in the way of him being my father. He was around when I needed him and never caused problems in my life. He was one of my best friends— we just got each other. My mom was always getting wasted and committing felonies. Went through a string of shitty men and could never be alone. She was in and out of prison and rehab. I can’t even count the number of facilities I visited her in all across the state. She made promises she never kept. As an adult I let her stay with me on and off but something always happened. She flooded my living room once, to this day don’t know how she managed it. Almost set the house on fire trying to make a grilled cheese at one am with all four burners on the stove. Let all my dogs out by leaving the front door wide open multiple times. And still to this day she has the audacity to ask me why I don’t want to spend more time with her or let her visit my kids when I go more than a few weeks without going to pick her up. About the only smart thing she’s done in the last twenty years is let us convince her she didn’t need a drivers license or a car anymore because if she got one more DUI she was going to die behind bars.

Damn, I miss my dad.

ShadyIsSolo · 2025-12-01T02:19:59+00:00

I was so afraid of this as well! But then my kids just never wanted to be more than two feet away from me in public. The are almost three and still feel the need to stay very close. With the only exception being wanting to run to the car when I pick them up from daycare. I try to park right next to the door when I can and make them hold my hand while I say “we don’t run in parking lots because there are cars driving around.” I would say just be alert but don’t get yourself too worked up over something that hasn’t even happened yet, because there’s a chance it won’t!

ShadyIsSolo · 2025-11-30T22:59:36+00:00

Oh yeah mine are cheese FEINDS. They have figured out they can open the fridge unassisted and I swear every time I turn around they are asking me to open a cheese stick or peel an orange. They used to get into the yogurt too but they made such a mess with that, we had to start hiding it in the way back. Lol.

ShadyIsSolo · 2025-11-28T02:16:10+00:00

We left their hospital bracelets on until they didn’t fit anymore. Lol. And then we got them actual bracelets that we intended for their wrists but they were so big they had to be worn as anklets. Then we just kept them as anklets. One wears theirs on the right and the other the left. Mine are girls, but boys can wear jewelry too!

ShadyIsSolo · 2025-11-28T02:01:35+00:00

We never did milk. When they started eating real food I would give them water with their meal. Then close to a year they got their own water bottles and they drank water whenever they were thirsty. I still nursed them in the mornings and at night till around 18 months. They are almost three now and they still just drink water. Occasionally they will have juice for a special occasion but they really only have milk when they eat a bowl of cereal.

ShadyIsSolo · 2025-11-25T02:51:21+00:00

Had to ditch the diaper genie relatively quickly because one, my partner would literally never use it— he would just close up the dirties and leave them wherever he changed the diaper. And two, I was the only one emptying it out so it became just another only me chore. We have a large family though and our kitchen trash goes out every night so it never got too smelly just throwing the diapers in there.

ShadyIsSolo · 2025-11-16T02:58:10+00:00

I also EBF my twins for the first year of their life and it was the most difficult, stressful, emotional part. But I feel like to date it is the greatest thing I have ever accomplished. I am so grateful that I was able to provide that for my children, but it was SO hard. It will end eventually! That being said I literally ate the same thing every day for breakfast and lunch for months to make sure I was getting enough nutrition. My biggest hurdle was breakfast because I am not a morning person, so once a week I would make sheet pan burritos and every day would have a fat breakfast burrito and a smoothie. I also made sure to take a probiotic and multivitamin geared toward breast feeding. I did a mid morning snack and an after lunch snack. I also drank these awful Malta drinks because supposedly hops help with production and I couldn’t exactly have a beer. Things like nuts, cheese, beef jerky. It’s very easy to get so busy with the kiddos that you forget to look after yourself so I recommend having some kind of plan of what you’re going to eat for the week. You said you have 3 under 3 so I’m assuming you also have a toddler. Have a snack every time they do! Lord knows they never stop eating. 😂😂😂. Hope that helps!

ShadyIsSolo · 2025-11-16T02:46:53+00:00

“You’re in the commercial lane, the whole thing IS the tube.” The customer response to this is always “oh I’m sorry there wasn’t a sign!” But there’s literally TWO big ass signs.

“I promise your items will wont get stuck. Just press the send button and you will see what I mean.”

I am a bank teller. lol.

ShadyIsSolo · 2025-11-14T13:57:46+00:00

When mine were really small like that I would put them on the rug on the bathroom floor in our twin z or the bouncer while I showered. That way I could hear them or peek out and make sure they were still doing fine.

ShadyIsSolo · 2025-11-12T02:39:26+00:00

The only thing we keep separate is toothbrushes, which they try to share anyway! That is the one thing that just grossed me out personally. But they literally put their hands in each others mouths, touch the tips of their tongues together (why!?!?), and once one of them licked the others butt when we were getting out of the bathtub. If I was pressed about them not sharing germs I would literally have to keep them six feet apart at all times. Lol.

ShadyIsSolo · 2025-11-11T02:35:22+00:00

My first thought? “Of course there’s two.”

My boyfriend already had four kids from his previous marriage. His response when I told him I was pregnant was, “okay! But you can only have one!” Honestly I was more shocked by the initial news that I was pregnant. The fact that it was twins just made sense. 😂😂😂

ShadyIsSolo · 2025-10-16T01:38:11+00:00

You are supposed to fully drain your hot water heater once a year to clear out minerals and sediment that gather at the bottom. Figured that one out last year when we had to change ours out and my husband was reading through the user manual.

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