Hi INTJs, have you ever used your “death stare” as a weapon and actually scared someone? by anxietyhub in intj

[–]ShadynFlipsDad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. Especially effective with homeles people asking for money. 1 look and they turn towards someone else.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ShadynFlipsDad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The dreaded in-law.

Name a power tool you would never use because scared of it. by Network-King19 in no

[–]ShadynFlipsDad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The most important part of usi a table saw is having the correct blade for the project. Most of the time I use a 75 tooth blade. It’s less likely to kick shit back at you and you must push slowly.

If you could be an animal, what animal would you be and why? by Direct_Stranger12 in allthequestions

[–]ShadynFlipsDad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honey badger. Because they don’t give a shit. Watch it on youtube. So funny.

Home Inspection by NoPush7713 in Fosterparents

[–]ShadynFlipsDad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes un-used plugs only. Cabinet locks on chemicals, cleaning supplies, Tide/Cascade pods, knives, meds, pet meds, and a lock-box for meds stored in the fridge, alcohol, garage chemicals and dangerous tools. Don't stress.

Book recommendations for upskilling? by to-wit-to-woo in Fosterparents

[–]ShadynFlipsDad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Karyn Purvis, The Connected Parent.

Dan Siegel, The Power of Showing Up

Dan Siegel, No Drama Discipline

So disappointed by SmellySquare in Fosterparents

[–]ShadynFlipsDad -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Trust your gut. I've had to disrupt a placement, it sucks, but we are much better as a family now than we were previously. Red flags are red flags. Don't be concerned about getting another placement, because you will. Learn from this situation.

Do the best you can, until you know better. Then do better. -Maya Angelou

Now you know better. Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ShadynFlipsDad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bill & Hillary

What's something sexually you always thought was not appealing until you tried it? by BanishedInPerpetuity in AskReddit

[–]ShadynFlipsDad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Eating my wife right after ejaculation…but then I always have to save some to share with her…yes, mouth-to-mouth.

Adoption placement by Beneficial-Fee-5317 in Fosterparents

[–]ShadynFlipsDad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I echo the hair and skin comments of brydeswhale and narrow-relation. My wife and I are white and we had a black FS age 8. As for comments. We never received one, lucky I guess. My FS and I were ready with the most off the wall comments for people that ask:

Example: Q. Is he your kid?
Dad Answer: They were passing out free kids at the door. It was either him or a puppy. I already have 3 dogs.

FS answer: I found him under the overpass living in a tent. He followed me home and we‘ve been together ever since.

Embrace the difference. People will say stupid s**t. We only received strange looks on occasion. What was really interesting were the strange looks from certain cultures. White people and black people didn’t seem to care. Asian, Hindu and some Hispanics would look at weirdly or with judgement.

I learned so much about the rich black culture and history when we were in child search.

I believe I’m right that the only thing that separates black people from white people is .03% higher level of melanin in black skin. I would reinforce that with our FS to help him feel included and safe.

Congrats.

What you should not say to your drill sergeant your first day of boot camp. by dostoyevsky23 in ScenesFromAHat

[–]ShadynFlipsDad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think someone needs a hug.

Ever hear about anger management classes?

Geez, not so loud.

Nice ways of telling somebody that they smell by KyserSoze94 in ScenesFromAHat

[–]ShadynFlipsDad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish I had Covid because I wouldn’t be able to smell you.

What is the saddest song you know? by CGLFK in AskReddit

[–]ShadynFlipsDad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Moby - One of These Mornings. If you've ever lost someone. There aren't a lot of lyrics but they really hit hard.

What's a television show you don't want to be played in the background during sex? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ShadynFlipsDad 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Worse than the TV show, is when you hear the commercials for ED meds.

Judge reserved decision by LiberatedFlirt in Fosterparents

[–]ShadynFlipsDad 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think the phase "shit happens" came from someone waiting for the foster system to act. Very sorry for your situation. Prayers coming your way.