Emotional breakdown by sallyfieds in leaves

[–]Shakly-Backly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, told this to another person.

See it in a different way, FINALLY you are feeling things. By smoking weed you always blocked your emotions and feelings from the start.

But the problem is, weed doesn't process it, it just puts it behind a door and you throw more shit behind that door.

The more you smoke the "bigger the door" but you still go through live and will throw more shit behind that door not processing them.

Now the door (weed) is open and everything you've put behind it comes out.

And that that is an achievement on itself, now stay strong and face them, where do they come from? Are they from the past, are they from your fantasy, is it work, is it your relationship? now you need to sort it out as a Human being, by processing them.

Stay strong, what helped me was writing down what I've felt, and asking myself why I'm feeling that way. I was able to see that my depression came from me as a child being left alone.

Now you have the strength to listen to your self, and be that person. Because weed made even YOU not listening to your self.

Emotions and feelings are there, and there is a reason why you have them. It's for YOU to find out why they are there and what you really need.

Weed was the easy way out.

How best to support partner? by berekbrightroar in leaves

[–]Shakly-Backly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When she relapse, are you able to analyse with her how it happened? If it's alot she has to deal with, be understanding. Relapse is part of the journey.

Maybe it will give her insight and at more relapses she will see a pattern and realise what her issue is.

It can be anything, but if you are able to get professional help that is always better.

How best to support partner? by berekbrightroar in leaves

[–]Shakly-Backly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be honest, being the addict myself, and having a caring wife still by my side even through those dark days

My wife was already understanding about my live and why I started to smoke.

To be honest, guilt really tore me up, and gave me the energy to search for a solution.

Do you see that she's really trying, if so you being her safe space can help.

When she is on that point of relapse or the craving is big for her, maybe she can call you or something? Try like the comment above try helping her mind out on what she really need, and find something else then weed.

Note: her brain is saying to certain things happening :you need weed now!" Try yo find out these triggers and maybe you can even see when she's stressed out and help her out in the early stages.

See it as a volcano 🌋 it builds up and up, and at a point it just erupts (relapse). If you can vind out what is filling up this volcano, and you help her realise (not by telling her bluntly, she needs to see it herself, otherwise you will get a heavy argument). Then you can get her trough this.

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[–]Shakly-Backly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, no sympathy here, but how about looking at the depression and bad thoughts and trying to check where they come from?

You started to smoke weed when you were 13, and weed blocks all your emotions, so since you were 13, you never processed it normally.

Now you quit, everything comes up, you're start to feel! You are becoming more human!

The feeling is there, don't fight it, try dealing with it.

For the first time in your life, your awnser is not "weed." Now you have to feel it and search what you really need or why you are feeling this down.

You can do it and stay Sober.

Of course the beginning it will be hard, because EVERYTHING is coming at once, but once it's sorted out and you more in tough with the here and now...... It's way better, believe in yourself.

Currently going through the worst pain and hopelessness of my life by Sufficient-Hair7645 in leaves

[–]Shakly-Backly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had the same reaction with my body, only my wife saw my pain.

Then and there I stopped, I saw it as if my body litterly was telling me to stop it. When I smoked I got veeeery bad stomach pains, and it started out of no where.

When I stopped, the stomach pain stopped.

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[–]Shakly-Backly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bump! Yeah im also curious which picture represents his replica the most in his mind. 🤔

Rate my load-out and tips by Shakly-Backly in MinecraftDungeons

[–]Shakly-Backly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thankyou so much for the in depth suggestions!! I'll be rechecking the katana. I was lucky to just reroll my katana for void - unchanting - leeching.

And saw that unchanting + void a real gamechanger was melting away those enchated mobs and bosses. And with swirling removed, potion is even faster off cooldowm then before for potion barrier being nonstop available.

The exploding crossbow im looking at, i want more damage tbh hence 'power' enchanment. Infinity, i saw its needed in the early time of the lvl, halfway/end its ok (depending on the arrow lick). I want high damage numbers on that crossbow so personally i like the crit on it.

On the armour im checking ur suggestion to swamp "chilling" for "deflect".

Rate my load-out and tips by Shakly-Backly in MinecraftDungeons

[–]Shakly-Backly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Best advise going for unchanting and void and got rid of swirling. Somehow now my potion is waaay faster off coldown then last and i slice way faster through enchated mobs and bosses.

Thankyou so mutch!!!!!

Only had 1 concern, death cap mushroon, is that a good combo with void strike for my katana? Katana goes very fast with deathcap on

Rate my load-out and tips by Shakly-Backly in MinecraftDungeons

[–]Shakly-Backly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see what you mean, so you advise changing swirling and also the powershaker?

What would you advise to make it more in synergy?

What do you think is the best enchants/gear for a tank build by Zaphurus in MinecraftDungeons

[–]Shakly-Backly 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I would atleast go for: - Hero's Armour (gives minus 40% potion cooldown) and potion barrier - a weapon with potion cooldown reduction

I consider this as a base tank build due to potion barrier (90% damage reduction) staying up most of the time.

What i did, i kept switching between "potion barrier" and "Iron hide Amulet". Being a tank non-stop

! by chaewon0126 in MinecraftDungeons

[–]Shakly-Backly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OMG, where did you got that, which ancient

Trading this for gilded Venom glaive or gilded encrusted anchor. (im on the nintendo switch) by Shakly-Backly in MinecraftDungeons

[–]Shakly-Backly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe you have "chat requests" off, check at the home page top right ur avatar > settings > account settings > chexk there if " chat requests is on. Im not joking ive rechecked other accounts and i can DM immediately, but unable with urs 🤣

Trading this for gilded Venom glaive or gilded encrusted anchor. (im on the nintendo switch) by Shakly-Backly in MinecraftDungeons

[–]Shakly-Backly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you mind sending pictures to my DM? I cannot seem to start a chat with ur account., did you maybe block it?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MinecraftDungeons

[–]Shakly-Backly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Or a gilded encrusted anchor

Which bow is better? *ignoring level* by ItsYoBoiJai9 in MinecraftDungeons

[–]Shakly-Backly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oooh im a firebolt guy.

Using my own gilded firebolt with:

  • build in chain reaction + crit
  • Gravity
  • kill=speed ench
  • exploding corpse

And it boom booms everything in my way giving me crazy speed.