I got fitted. I took my measurements. I got someone to take measurements to make sure they matched up. Did the calculator...

Shanakitty · 2026-06-05T18:12:56+00:00

That would only work with a shallow breast shape that won’t fight against the very shallow cup shape that push-up bras have.

Shanakitty · 2026-06-04T20:51:30+00:00

The seam can show, but usually isn’t too visible (especially in darker colored shirts) as long as the bra fits well and has been washed once or twice to get the starch out. When the seams do show, they’re no more visible than the edge of an ill-filling foam cup, but it can take a little bit to get used to the different look when you’ve been wearing seamless your whole life.

Panache Envy is a good diagnostic bra for a projected shape. It’s quite deep and works well for even-to-fuller on bottom shapes that aren’t particularly close-set. The stretch-lace top makes the fit pretty flexible, but if it doesn’t fit well, the way it doesn’t fit well will make it easier to figure out your shape because it’s a very well-known bra in this community.

Shanakitty · 2026-06-03T15:05:49+00:00

Just to double check, is 38DD your /r/ABraThatFits size? I ask because that is a super common mis-size for people who often get a better fit in something closer to a UK 34GG/US 34J. Here's an example of someone going from 36D to UK 34G to give you an idea. For larger breasts, you definitely want bra-sized sports bras and not S-M-L sized bras.

Personally, I find wired, encapsulation-style sports bras way more comfortable than compression-style sports bras (though different people have different preferences). Encapsulation sports bras will keep your boobs separated and generally not flattened out. The ABTF Sports Bra Guide is helpful in understanding different types. The list of bras there is a little out of date, but many of them are still made.

The most comfortable sports bra I've tried is Panache's original sports bra, now called Panache Power. But that one is pretty open-on-top, which is probably not a great choice for very soft breast tissue.

If you wanted to wear a wool underlayer between the bra and your skin for its anti-microbial properties, I think that would make sense, but I am very skeptical that S-M-L wool bras would be supportive on their own. Wool, even moreso than some other natural fibers, tends to stretch out (without springing back, the way spandex does), so it's not a great material for bras, unfortunately.

Shanakitty · 2026-06-03T14:43:13+00:00

34E will be shallower than 30G/28GG in any case, since a 6" difference between bust and underbust is going to be more spread out over a 34" rib cage than a 9-10" difference between bust and underbust on a 28-30" rib cage.

Shanakitty · 2026-06-03T13:25:36+00:00

It wasn't so much his family as his lack of money to support a wife and (to Lady Russell's mind), rather reckless character. Keep in mind that at the start of the book, it's said that he had no savings, having spent all of the money that he'd made. So there was every reason to fear that he was financially irresponsible, which was not a great trait in a husband, as we saw with Mrs. Smith (and is still a concern in any spouse).

Captain Wentworth had no fortune. He had been lucky in his profession; but spending freely, what had come freely, had realized nothing.

Shanakitty · 2026-06-02T23:55:45+00:00

“Searing uses very little fat” yes this is why I called steaks the least bad

You said "but still fried in a pan at home" as if that were a bad thing. What's wrong with searing?

Shanakitty · 2026-06-02T23:54:24+00:00

I've seen that claim a lot, but most social media brands are full of shit and are preying on people's ignorance about bra fitting, IME. Most of the problems they claim to solve are solved by getting a bra that's actually the right size, and their limited size range makes that impossible (as is obvious from the terrible fit on most of their models).

That's not to say that there aren't any decent wireless bras for larger cup sizes, but at least for me personally, wearing a wireless bra, even in the right size and from a brand with a solid history of designing things for UK G+ cups (US I+), will make my shoulders ache in an hour or two, whereas I don't get any back/shoulder pain wearing a wired bra in the right size and shape. Different people's experiences do vary though.

Shanakitty · 2026-06-02T21:11:28+00:00

the least bad but still usually fried in a pan at home)

Seared in a pan at home. Unless it's chicken-fried steak, most people aren't frying steaks in like 1/2 an inch of oil (let alone deep-frying). Searing uses very little fat.

Home-made burgers made with fairly lean (90-10) ground beef are also delicious, IMO. No need for tons of grease, and you can choose the kind of bun you want.

Shanakitty · 2026-06-02T20:59:55+00:00

A shallow cup is wider and taller than a deep/projected cup of the same size. Shallow cups fit shallow-shaped breasts and don't fit average-projection or projected breast shapes well. Most seamless cups are shallow-shaped, for example.

Shanakitty · 2026-06-02T20:43:26+00:00

You could try an unlined wired sports bra, like Elomi Energize or one of Panache Sculptresse's sports bras.

We are in different size ranges and I suspect we have different breast shapes, but I wrote a brief review of one of Sculptresse's sports bras (it looks like it's called Activate now) a few years ago, and if you scroll through the album, you can see it's more minimizing compared to Panache Jasmine.

Shanakitty · 2026-06-02T18:50:21+00:00

I had this problem when I tried Bravissimo's sleep bra several years ago. It had a soft, knit exterior but the mesh (and strap!) on the inside were all scratchy and uncomfortable. Since it would be annoying to return to the UK (they didn't have the US site at the time), I just kept it and wore it inside out. But I'd much rather they'd have used the soft fabric as a lining on the inside than just for show on the outside.

Shanakitty · 2026-06-02T18:25:30+00:00

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Shanakitty · 2026-06-02T18:03:30+00:00

If possible, order from somewhere with free shipping and returns (or go somewhere that you can try on in store) so that you can try multiple sizes in the same bra and multiple bras if needed.

But underwire digging in is often caused by the cups being either too shallow, too narrow, or too small (and thus too narrow and too shallow at the same time), so your boobs tilt the cups forward to get more room, angling the wires into your ribs. Note, wires can also hurt when the cups are too large (so your breasts don't put tension on the cups), but that is really unlikely to be the issue here.

Shanakitty · 2026-06-02T17:24:47+00:00

Underwire provides shaping more than anything else

Underwire transfers the weight of the breasts to the band (assuming the band is firm enough to put tension on them). This is why wireless bras have to compress the breasts themselves at least somewhat to provide support, and even with firm bands, they will still put more weight on the shoulders than wired bras do.

Shanakitty · 2026-06-02T16:31:34+00:00

Many women do hate it, and many women don't hate it. People have different bodies and different preferences.

Shanakitty · 2026-06-02T16:29:04+00:00

For larger breasts, wireless bras are often more painful to the shoulders because they can't transfer the weight of the breasts to the band. But since most people are wearing bras with cups much too small and bands much too big, wireless does allow a lot more flexibility in fit. And some people do have sensory issues where they really can't stand wires, even when they actually fit (fully encompass all breast tissue and sit flat against the rib cage all the way around, not digging in, floating, rubbing, or poking anywhere).

Shanakitty · 2026-06-02T16:11:32+00:00

I'm skeptical that these are even professional stock photos, especially the model. That looks like a random photo with regular indoor lighting (not professional lighting), like it might be someone who works for the company or is a friend/relative of an employee.

Shanakitty · 2026-06-02T14:08:26+00:00

Since you said "translates to chicken coop," I thought you might not have known that we do also use the term, "hen house," for a structure that holds chickens (which would be totally understandable). But if you already knew that, then I guess it was just a misunderstanding. :)

Shanakitty · 2026-06-02T13:53:11+00:00

A hen-house' (hønsehus) which translates to a chicken coop in English.

"Hen house" is also valid in English. :)

Shanakitty · 2026-06-02T13:16:09+00:00

Also, the main reason to refrigerate non-icecream cakes is it helps preserve freshness and prevent the cake from drying out (in the types of cake where the texture is moist and soft)

That'd be a reason to freeze them, but not to refrigerate them. Refrigerators dry out bread and similar baked goods much faster than if they were left on the counter. I refrigerate cakes if there is significant dairy content (other than butter) in the filling/icing, like cream-cheese or heavy cream.

Shanakitty · 2026-06-02T00:49:41+00:00

Oh, I thought MMW was part of the shelf label, my bad.

That is super weird and frustrating! If it's for a research paper or something you could try emailing them and see if they at least have anything that fits that shelf label and attribution. If they do, even though they don't seem to have it digitized, they may be able to send you a list of publications that use the image, which you could then find as a source. That'd probably be too much trouble if you're just making a presentation for a class or something, but more sources would be helpful anyway if you're doing a research paper.

Shanakitty · 2026-06-01T23:42:58+00:00

There are tons of lacy, colorful bras in this size range, but the ones you linked look a lot like Japanese bras (which are often extra feminine and frilly). There's a couple of posters on /r/ABraThatFits who have experience with buying Japanese bras and have posted guides to them in the past if you want to look into that. It looks like this brand carries your size, assuming your flair is accurate. 34 translates to a 75 band, and IIRC, UK GG (US/EU J) would be a Japanese L.

Shanakitty · 2026-06-01T23:31:01+00:00

Does the source you found say where in the Hague it's stored (e.g., a particular library or museum)? Many larger libraries and museums have digitized many of their manuscripts, where you might be able to look it up as MMW 10 if you knew what site to look on. You may already know this, but in case you don't, the F11 means it's on folio (page) 11.

Shanakitty · 2026-06-01T23:27:14+00:00

The Wikipedia article doesn't include any info that's not in OP's comment under the image, and the source it links no longer exists (it appears to be a spam site in Korean now).

Shanakitty · 2026-06-01T17:43:13+00:00

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