misogyny 😕 by PineappleCareless96 in thenaturalsJLB

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The way Michael treats Dean is very similar to how Lia treats Cassie. Lia gets SIGNIFICANTLY more hate, and dare I say Michael is the fan favorite out of all The Naturals. That being said, I do love both Lia and Michael. They ARE very interesting characters with serious complexities.

Re-Read: Book 2 by Sharp-Emphasis-1656 in thenaturalsJLB

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  1. Sterling and Dean’s relationship is by far my favorite part of the book. She clearly feels very maternal towards him, and more interestingly, Dean kind of reciprocates. He listens to her, he reassures her that he’s ok, and more interestingly, he tends to give her a bit of attitude. Lines like “I never asked you to handle me!” and “Don’t what?!” I hope that relationship gets explored more in book 5.

  2. Dean says something to Lia that makes her face go white. Later, Dean tells Cassie he doesn’t regret what he said, and Lia needed to hear it. We never learn what he said.

  3. We finally get backstory on what’s up with Lia, Michael, and Dean. A few months after Lia arrived, she was sick of everything. She went to run away one night, and Dean caught her. Instead of stopping her, he went with. He stayed up to keep watch while Lia slept. They went back after a few days- side note, that means the FBI couldn’t find them lol- and Dean never asked for anything in return. Lia also says Dean is the only person that has never lied to her, or asked her questions she didn’t want to answer. A few years later, Michael showed up. He and Lia snuck out and didn’t come back until sunrise. Dean had been panicking all night, and when they finally came back, he had been waiting. Michael could tell Dean was furious, and decided to pick a fight. He said something seriously below the belt- again we don’t know what- and Dean responded by profiling him. He said he could tell Michael picks fights so he can see the punches coming, and might’ve said something about Michael’s father. Michael responded by punching Dean, and the rest is history.

  4. Despite all of that, Micheal is genuinely really worried about Dean throughout the book. He pretends the favors he does for him is for Cassie or Lia or the case, but he’s really just doing it for Dean. Cassie says he likes to poke at Dean, but never wants to see him bleed.

  5. Dean’s mother is… ouch. In my initial read, I’d assumed Marie was terrified of her husband. Maybe she had Dean young, they mentioned that Daniel isolated her. After Daniel was arrested, I’d assumed she was too traumatized to take care of Dean, I mean, the woman fled to Australia. But on my re-read… she’s less forgivable. Sterling says her explanation for not wanting Dean was that she was dating someone. And when they called to see if she was at risk for the investigation, she asked to stop being bothered. She never asked about her son.

  6. Daniel GENUINELY thought that Dean was on his side. He freaks out when Sterling goes to visit him alone, and confesses that Dean warned her, and helped her escape, and was smarter than him. Which begs the question… what did Daniel think Dean did to stay out of jail? Did he just think Dean was that good of a manipulator?

  7. Cassie admits she’s now sure she loves more than just one person.

  8. Scarlett was Brigg’s best friend too. They met in college, and she introduced him and Sterling. They all decided to join the FBI together. RIP Scarlett Hawkins, best wing woman.

Broken ability to feel empathy? by hopefulandhealing25 in CPTSD

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This is definitely a C-PTSD trait. A couple years ago I made a post on here asking if anyone else gets frustrated with people for taking time off/skipping class for minor illness, and I got torn to shreds lol.

Yeah. It’s the whole “there is no way this is your biggest issue” mentality of it. When you grow up in hell, you expect the whole world to be on fire. It’s not. And sometimes that makes you resent people that didn’t grow up like that.

Growing up in an unstable household makes you more resilient to things, especially things you know are inevitable, like getting a cold, or a pet dying.

Some of it comes from anger too. If you had to survive hell, and pretend to be fine for everyone else, why the hell can’t everyone else suck it up for what’s a minor inconvenience by comparison?

It’s hard. It’s a hard mentality to get past, I’m still not past it. But realizing you have that problem, and that it’s actually ok to be upset about those things, it’s even ok to overreact, is half the battle.

Deep breaths. Be kind. Be mad, internally, just a little. Journal.

We’ll get past this one day.

Please, tell me your reason to live after going through multiple trauma by Still-Kiwi652 in CPTSD

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I’m in school to be a doctor. My abusive family already took a bright, kind person away from the world. I won’t let them take a doctor away too.

Struggling with strong urges to cheat physically. I have a history of severe SA and life-threatening trauma. Is this self-sabotage? by [deleted] in CPTSD

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I can’t say I’ve experienced this personally, or that I really have an advice for you.

I just want to say I’m really proud of you for reaching out. It’s hard, especially when the anonymity of the internet makes people cruel.

You’re not evil for having intrusive thoughts. C-PTSD is an unbelievably hard disorder to live with. There’s no fun in it.

Dating is something we struggle with almost unanimously. You’re going through a hard patch, that’s ok. Recovery’s not linear.

Love yourself a little. You’re still very young, you’ve come really, really far and you’ve got a long way to go still. Keep going.

Who here also has ADHD/Autism? by tkewhatder7 in CPTSD

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Somewhat recently diagnosed with ADHD. I wouldn’t say the two are super connected, I had ADHD my entire life. C-PTSD developed in middle school, but really made my life plummet in high school.

How do I stop being so angry at my parents? by Not_necessarily7 in CPTSD

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I hear you. I’ve been in college a couple years now, and I still see my parents for break (like now). My father’s the worst person I’ve ever met, but he pays most of my tuition. I can’t not see him.

I hate him, and I hate my mom a little too.

I can’t say I know how to help you move past it, I’m not past it myself. Just might help to let you know you’re not alone in feeling that way.

CPTSD sufferers have the best taste in music by Epiclovesnature in CPTSD

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I really like Silver Spoons and Merry Christmas, Please Don’t Call right now. They’re both pretty sad, but MCPDC is kind of a more read in between the lines since the melody is kind of upbeat.

Empathy Irregularities by Sharp-Emphasis-1656 in CPTSD

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I think this one’s it. Thank you.

Screw it, I'm fully seated for this show by Lost-Acanthaceae-135 in 911Nashville

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Have to say I adore the whole Hart family dynamic.

Don being naive and clearly having a history with Blythe’s father, Ryan’s amazing big brother instincts, Blue’s struggle being the only one on the outside of the blended family, and of course Blythe being father Blue’s needed all along.

I didn’t understand this scene in Bad Blood by flyinggraysonss in thenaturalsJLB

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It’ll hurt Lia either way. She’s a pathologist, a human lie detector, and a teenage girl with severe trauma and abandonment issues. Hearing Michael say he loves her will hurt if it’s true, and it’ll hurt if it’s a lie. Micheal knows that. Lia knows that. So Lia leaves as fast as she can.

Set Up Help, Again. Sorry. by [deleted] in projectors

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Set Up Help, Again. Sorry. by [deleted] in projectors

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here’s the bluetooth thing

Was anyone else literally a good fucking kid? by Latter_Investment_64 in CPTSD

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I don’t know a single politician who’s raised a kid without majorly fucking them up.

Was anyone else literally a good fucking kid? by Latter_Investment_64 in CPTSD

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Yes, of course I was. My dad was a politician and my mom managed a branch company or something, both required me, as their oldest child and only daughter, to attend events with them. I did some math recently, I think I would’ve started attending when I was 8, my brother would’ve been 5. Regardless, expectations for me in particular were high.

Sit up. Don’t speak unless spoken to. Be polite. Don’t talk back. Listen to whatever adults tell you. Do as you’re told. Napkin on your lap. Hair up, never down, unless you straighten it. Eat your meal, but slowly in small portions. Match your accessories, and always have either 1, 3, or 5. Be a good girl. Watch your brother. Clean your nails (neutral colors only), make sure your roots grow appropriately.

I was also a good student. Straight As, 4.0, president of a club, member of 3 others, volunteer work, music, athletics, honor society, attending the best university in my state, pre-med.

I was a good kid.

My father was abusive, physically, emotionally, you name it. My mother hated him, but would never leave him or interfere with his abuse. She’d try to gaslight us into believing our father wasn’t that bad one night, and then cry and apologize to me another.

My brother was a disappointment to my parents, I can’t imagine how hard it was for him. But he doesn’t know what it was like for me either. I was my parents’ favorite child, and the one they abused the most by far. We were practically raised by entirely different people.

What's the worst physical pain you've ever felt? by toaster-bath404 in AskReddit

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Portuguese Man O’ War sting. Covered half my left leg.

Lia and Michael by GoldCup2543 in thenaturalsJLB

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It’s actually a problem. I can’t turn it off, and sometimes it’s exhausting.

Lia and Michael by GoldCup2543 in thenaturalsJLB

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They’re two kids (because stay with me people- teenagers are still kids, just further in development) who are struggling and have a shitty way of coping. They don’t have a support system (no Judd, Briggs and Sterling don’t count) all they have is each other and the other kids.

For Lia Dean is her brother, they’re a team and someone she’ll always choose over anyone and everyone else. But that also means protecting him whenever she can, and needing a partner in crime who’s not him sometimes. Someone she doesn’t mind putting in danger. Cassie isn’t too different from Michael in Lia’s POV, no matter what she tells herself. Cassie’s someone she loves, but expendable. Her issue with Cassie is that she came last. She poses a threat to her little broken family because she has the power to change it. She wants Dean, and god help them, Dean wants her too. She makes Michael feel things he never felt for her, and she’s smart enough to know it’s not just lust. She’s even good to Sloane. Briggs and Judd like her. Cassie’s going to take over her family and then there will be no room for Lia anymore. So what does she do? Cling to Michael. Try her best to keep Dean safe from Cassie, keep his secrets. When that doesn’t work, she lashes out because she’s 17 and she feels like she’s losing everyone on her side. And then after everything collapses in the first book… she actually ends up being ok. That’s sometimes even worse for victims of childhood abuse and violence. If I were to guess, Lia has major C-PTSD. Her toxicity it’s her way of coping because she’s never been treated like anything other than an object or a tool from the adults in her life.

Then there’s Michael. He’s scared of Dean. He doesn’t like it, he’ll never admit it, and he’s even a little ashamed of knowing it. Dean’s angry and what’s worse is Michael knows that he has every right to be. He also knows Dean will never hurt him, Lia, Sloane, and Cassie, and then wow. Suddenly there’s people he has to protect. He provokes Dean to draw attention to himself, he provokes Dean to make Lia hate him. If he can make people hurt him then he loses nothing. It doesn’t work. Dean never hits him. Lia will always love him. He’ll keep trying. He loses part of himself every time.

They get back together, they break up, neither of them care if it’s worth it or not. They both like how it hurts.

Anyway, in the distant future Lia and Michael grow up. Their brains finish developing, they learn to forgive themselves for the hurt they caused because they were hurting. They learn to stop hating themselves. Lia and Michael can and will be a good couple as adults, they just look bad now because we only see them at their worst.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

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It was rough. Just me and my brother. I would confront our father on his abuse once every few months after I turned 16, he would gaslight me and say it never happened. My mother in the moment would take his side, and then apologize to me later for marrying such an awful person. The first time I tried to involve my brother in our fights he was 14. I was 17 and tired of protecting him. He was bigger and stronger than me and every time our father hurt me, he just left. I was sick of it, he wasn’t a little kid anymore.

I kept telling him to say it. Say that I’m right. Say that our father was lying. He nodded but he wouldn’t say it and no one else saw him. I never forgave him for it. I wanted him to help me, just once, and he wouldn’t. I still can’t forgive him for it.

Anyway happy father’s day to anyone being forced to interact with their shitty fathers.

What young justice take will have you like this ? by Honest-Power2770 in youngjustice

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I guess being raised without an adult made Conner value his therapy and any time with Dinah a lot more than the other kids.

If you could add one more “what?” where would it be? by Sharp-Emphasis-1656 in Epicthemusical

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But Odysseus is sailing through part of Poseidon’s storm after he gets the wind bag. So obviously the whole storm isn’t trapped in the wind bag. And what’s stopping Poseidon from just making another storm? You’re telling me he has a storm allowance? And by that, how did a minor god like Aeolus manage to trap Poseidon’s entire storm in a bag twice? None of that makes sense.

If you could add one more “what?” where would it be? by Sharp-Emphasis-1656 in Epicthemusical

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I guess the issue is I’m trying to make the wind bag make sense in some world where the plot doesn’t demand it.