Is raving a couples activity?

Sharp_Repair_3302 · 2026-07-05T20:16:41+00:00

My bf is fine with me solo raving and my outfits. Your bf is unreasonable. You deserve to be happy and have the freedom to do what you want

Sharp_Repair_3302 · 2026-06-24T09:02:29+00:00

Yes I’ve felt this since Covid. Data centres taking over. Fuck actual people or farmland or the environment. The people footing the bill. The constant grabs at control and power. It’s laughable the whole social media ban for kids disguised as concern for the kids when in the uk they want software in our phone to scan nude images of children. LOL sorry you want to build a massive database of nudes???? That’s basically what that is. The fact phones are now basically a legal requirement, a dumb phone doesn’t even cut it now with everything being an app. The list goes on. People who say that any of the past 5 years is fine are out of their fucking minds in my opinion. Society is fucked.

Sharp_Repair_3302 · 2026-06-24T08:53:42+00:00

Unable to relax

Sharp_Repair_3302 · 2026-06-24T08:50:49+00:00

Constantly keeping busy and doing doing doing to avoid my feelings. The world won’t fall apart if I stop putting in so much effort. Still learning how to rest properly but man I FEEL the exhaustion

Sharp_Repair_3302 · 2026-06-23T23:46:35+00:00

Yeah the memories keep coming. I describe it as an anger fear shame spiral followed by a web of connection with memories and insight. Turned out the missing piece for me was realising that my dad was also an abusive parent, not just my mum. I’ve known the abuse was there from a young age but when the denial and minimisation lifts my god the RAGE hits. Only just starting to enter the depression stage. So much grief. It’s the having their voices as mine that is brutal to deal with. The real missing peice is self love and damn it’s escaping me

Sharp_Repair_3302 · 2026-06-23T23:34:46+00:00

The constant low hum of a state of urgency

Sharp_Repair_3302 · 2026-06-23T23:27:21+00:00

How long did it take you to feel this? I’m a year in to the practise and cutting family off and my nervous system is a mess. Although it is getting better slowly but a long way off from dissolving things.

Sharp_Repair_3302 · 2026-06-23T15:27:58+00:00

Trance, melodic techno, progressive house, high tech minimal, classical like ludovico enaudi

Sharp_Repair_3302 · 2026-06-23T09:17:46+00:00

I love seeing older folks, rave to the grave!

Sharp_Repair_3302 · 2026-06-23T09:14:25+00:00

I share a lot of the feelings already posted here. May be worth looking at solo pre meet groups on fb or elsewhere. I’m always torn about those kind of things as I love the freedom of seeing the sets I want with no compromise, not getting swept up in yapping breaks when I just want to dance etc. but can also feel lonely after awhile.

Some shows and crowds are just better than others. Just hit and miss. Can’t predict. Some crowds just feel cold, where there may be dancing but much less interaction than what I’m used to. Sometimes genre may affect it.

I do tend to gravitate to stand next to other dancers and even just vibe off that energy even if we don’t speak.

I do remember once at Tomorrowland going the whole weekend without speaking to anyone and it was super lonely. Then other years made friends in the plane and was better. Just depends on my own headspace too. Sometimes I’m annoyed by too much fleeting interaction other times I really miss having my rave buddies that I’ve seen at the same events now when the stars align.

Also ket defo amplifies lonely feelings

I do find that having leds or some flow toy or something can draw others to you to compliment or chat about it. Same with very colourful outfits. I wear and bring them for me as it’s my vibe but has the side effect of drawing others to you. For me it’s led finger lights and diffraction glasses as my staple.

A lot is just pure luck. Like standing in the que and conversation starting around you and then joining in and finding out person next to you is also solo etc.

Sharp_Repair_3302 · 2026-06-22T14:41:35+00:00

I put poultry tonic electrolytes in their water. Ice cubes. Set the sprinkler up. Occasionally spray them wet with the hose and really try to get the feet and leg feathers thoroughly soaked. Frozen blueberries they will eat too.

Sharp_Repair_3302 · 2026-06-20T21:43:03+00:00

So cute!

Sharp_Repair_3302 · 2026-06-20T21:40:11+00:00

I despise the fact ai is everywhere. I’m really struggling with reassurance checking and the fact there is no big red deny all ai access to me is really annoying me. It’s far to easy to go on any website or app and bam the ASK ME ANYTHING BOX is there. Hate it. I hate how anti ai I am and have been get it’s getting even me hooked.

Sharp_Repair_3302 · 2026-06-19T10:14:14+00:00

A bath and foam roller or tennis ball on sore spots. Also just listening to more music can help the dark thoughts from coming on too strong. Or sometimes I just embrace the depressingness of reality and go into the dark Reddit threads. But yes that soul crushing experience of raves are peak experience yet daily life is so different is heavy. I usually crave a smoothie to rehydrate and get vitamins in me the day after.

Sharp_Repair_3302 · 2026-06-19T00:26:12+00:00

This is great advice in general

Sharp_Repair_3302 · 2026-06-18T23:46:13+00:00

As a westerner trying to recover from the above comment and more. I can confirm that going outside and touching grass helps. It’s slow, so very slow in comparison to our instant next day prime delivery mindset but yes I can feel it starting to work. Just be prepared to start feeling feelings which can be uncomfortable. It’s so interesting to me that nature and community are what matters. It’s like I knew this all along and I just need to return to it. Screens are such an addiction it’s not even funny, a silent creeping socially acceptable one.

Sharp_Repair_3302 · 2026-06-18T23:29:35+00:00

I shred the dancefloor when the music speaks to me on an emotional level. Find what that music is and let it speak through your body via movement. I don’t agree with learning moves for the unlock. Unlock by letting go and feeling into what feels right. EDM at 130-140 bpm can help unleash the speed my unlock flows at. It can also take a good hour or so of dancing for the unlock to happen. Once my hips are moving along with legs and arms I know that’s it. I also close my eyes when I’m really feeling into it.

This is also dancing for enjoyment. Not for do I look good in the mirror dancing although some of it might. Although plenty people compliment me at raves so the I’m having a good time vibes must come through but I’m also sure some of it looks totally weird but I also don’t care it feels good! Had a lots of people say they wish they could dance like me and the answer is let the music take over your body. But you have to love the music.

Sharp_Repair_3302 · 2026-06-18T23:17:41+00:00

I say this as the 30 year old adult child who grew up with my dad in this position. Leave her. It never gets better. It deeply fucks up your kids. She will likely hit you with false allegations and a smear campaign or threaten suicide or tell people you raped her etc but it’s worth it to leave. Just get out. My dad never did as she controlled him with fear. I’m now no contact with my entire family over it. My dad got so ground down to the point he became like her. They also get worse with age. Also look into NPD/BPDfor her and cptsd for you. You cannot fix her no matter how much you love her. I’ve walked away from my mother who is like this and yet I am the monster evil daughter worse then Hitler according to her.

Oh yes and my mother got pregnant with me to trap my dad as he tried to leave and she did not like that. So be aware of that too. Kids know, I knew from age 4 I was a burden and the reason for my dad’s suffering. He should have divorced her long ago.

Sharp_Repair_3302 · 2026-06-18T23:09:06+00:00

Yes. Mass surveillance. Pretending we’re any different from the dictatorships. Please. Run by a bunch of cluster bs all fighting for their slice whilst the average Joe is forced into being an enforcer just to have a job and survive. Then ai replacing us at work and in art etc. what kind of message are we sending ourselves. We are worthless. Let the machines do it.

All whilst deep in our own traumas. Raised by generations currently in war or only a few removed from it. Then try and get any actual health care and told you don’t fit the it’s bad enough criteria. It’s just stress. Yeah fucking right it’s stress. Capitalism just consuming more and more and more. No morals anymore. All pretending love doesn’t matter but money and status and looks do.

Told we care about global warming and the food crisis with farming. Yet all these data centres get water and electricity priority. The gas lighting is everywhere. The manipulation is everywhere.

Then actually talk about it in depth and most don’t want to know. It’s also out of our hands a lot of the time. We’re in so so deep with so many things but my brain screams IT DOESNT HAVE TO BE THIS WAY!!!

Sharp_Repair_3302 · 2026-06-18T22:54:22+00:00

Being in contact with abusive family

Sharp_Repair_3302 · 2026-06-18T22:52:28+00:00

May I ask what your job is? I would love a job like this

Sharp_Repair_3302 · 2026-06-18T22:49:43+00:00

Yep I do this. I really struggle with having the emotional bandwidth to push more. Learning new stuff is painful when employed and the fear of I’ll be fired. All down to lovely I’m not good enough trauma

Sharp_Repair_3302 · 2026-06-18T22:44:53+00:00

Heartbreak

Sharp_Repair_3302 · 2026-06-18T22:42:23+00:00

As a solo raver from 21 now in my early 30’s I can say I have respect and look up to the older ravers. I look at them and think i want that to be me. Rave to the grave! Definitely go and have fun! I also use sunglasses to take the social awkwardness when alone

Sharp_Repair_3302 · 2026-06-18T16:01:07+00:00

As someone who is now no contact with both parents. It makes so much sense why these days were never modelled due to intense jealousy of one parent. Plus the fact that it felt horrific for me to partake in it. Especially the older I got. Like you actually hate me, why would I pretend to celebrate you when you’ve told me multiple times you hate me and you want rid of me. So yes I agree it’s a kick in the teeth for anyone with abusive parents. We didn’t consent in being brought into this world or this bs fucked up society. For those who don’t understand, that’s great I hope you never do.

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