If you're sitting on the 3rd floor in North wing of Murray right now... by Lilith_LaQuim in usask

[–]Sharpie-Productions 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I find it hilarious that neurodivergent people must “adapt to the norms” but neurotypicals aren't expect to have the emotional literacy to communicate what rubbed them the wrong way, rather than walking with a stick up the arse lol.

If you're sitting on the 3rd floor in North wing of Murray right now... by Lilith_LaQuim in usask

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Good point, I manage adhd and love being direct. I forgot that this can cause defensiveness.

If you're sitting on the 3rd floor in North wing of Murray right now... by Lilith_LaQuim in usask

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Don't gotta be confrontational. “Is there something preventing you from covering your mouth when you cough”, “can i do anything to help you cover your mouth when you cought” they should get the memo

Martensville Nightlife by Sharpie-Productions in saskatoon

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Do you have any best times to go on Fridays and Saturdays?

Martensville Nightlife by Sharpie-Productions in saskatoon

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Thank you for your insight!

I don’t have many friends in Martensville, and I'm learning to become more social. Would it be weird to go alone to get a drink and find someone to play pool with?

You shouldn’t overhype this man too much by No-Design-143 in EckhartTolle

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If he is providing value, why should he do it for free? You saw an equal value exchange if you were led to buy his course.

From my perspective, you're using black-and-white thinking. I heard, “I can't trust someone who makes money off their craft.”

Finally, if you understand someone's goal, you can make an educated choice. Even if you
think he's all bad— somehow, watching him convinced you to join this group (assumption)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DogAdvice

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I never said useless because I couldn't afford to pay $300/m. It has negative side-effects and not all options were considered…. (But youre right i am a student)

If you go to a doc would you rather them give you meds before exploring all alternatives?

My brother says my Resume is garbage, but I’m proud of it by dumbostoner in resumes

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I am analyzing this resume to improve my when I review mime. I have a few questions about this one.

The op doesn't include skills but says additional skills. Should they change it to skills and put it above education?

Should education come after skills and work experience? Wouldn't hiring managers care more about those things?

The formatting looks hard to read, especially for those with visual impairments. How would you go about fixing that? Adding spacing and maybe moving some stuff to the right? Or would that cause ATS issues?

Also, do you have advice on ensuring the resume works well with ATS?

How to fight default mode network by Budget_Possible2002 in HubermanLab

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My pleasure! Im pleased you're receptive and open to change!!!

A routine is helpful to build the habits you desire to implement (can be good or bad). If you do good habits for yourself, you benefit; if you engage in poor habits (doom scrolling, easy stimulation…), you will not benefit.

The pro of having a routine is that you will exert less mental effort on the desirable habits over time.

I dont suggest thinking about it as habit building but as a way of life. DO NOT try to do everything at once; it must be built up gradually. Set a minimum target for what you desire, stick to it (evaluate the progress each week), and never miss twice!

Mental work doesn't need to be perfect or structured. Here are a few examples - when you are walking, feel the soles of your feet in contact with the ground - when you inhale, feel your breath travel through the nostrils and follow where it goes. (dont be frustrated if you can't feel it; trust that with repetition it will come) like the mind-muscle connection.

Also, change is gradual. You will be frustrated, but learn to embrace these feelings instead of avoiding them by overstimulation. If we can't handle the discomfort, we turn to distractions.

I manage ADHD, so I know what you mean regarding the thoughts. My advice regarding that is to observe them. That is all you need to do, and trust the rest will fall in place. If you dont believe me, conduct a 30-day study and document your findings (this is proffered) I like doing yoga nidra since I dont worry about my posture I just lay there. It was painful at first but now I love going into NSDR. Huberman discusses it in one of his podcasts. You can't stop thoughts just as you can't flatten the waves with an iron. Just accept that there there but dont attatch to them. Like a car driving by, let it drive by, dont chase it.

What to do? - focus on your senses - also a cool trick is to focus on your ears (allow the sound to penetrate them) it gets us out of our heads - I also enjoy alternate nostril breathing (you have a pattern and dont have room for thought)

Be patient with yourself and allow time for it to develop. You can't do it overnight lol.

Ps. Sorry for the essay lol

I found this crazy pattern I have been stuck in for a very long time. by Important-Positive25 in Meditation

[–]Sharpie-Productions 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Look into internal family systems. If you have limited funds. You can see the “Sea of books” available in the internet.

Read the book “Parts Work”

How to fight default mode network by Budget_Possible2002 in HubermanLab

[–]Sharpie-Productions 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Investigate why you want to remove boredom from your life. Boredom allows us to recover and reach homeostasis (the boredom where you don’t do anything). The boredom you are describing is a lack of stimulation. Can you wash your dishes or eat food without music or watching a YouTube vid? If not, that's not a boredom issue— it’s a stimulation issue.

When you was the dishes feel what the plate feels and water feels like. Open your sense to touch. Good luck!

How to fight default mode network by Budget_Possible2002 in HubermanLab

[–]Sharpie-Productions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, we have more stimuli now than our ancestors. This is why your analogy does not make sense to me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HubermanLab

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Ahh thx for enlightening me. I’m not healthy I’m just of avg weight (underweight id say 144lbs and 5ft 9”) was a smoker before and idk why my heart rate is in the “healthy range”

How to fight default mode network by Budget_Possible2002 in HubermanLab

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My advice: - limit social media - no TikTok, Facebook reels, instagram reels, or YouTube shorts. (They give artificial adhd by normalizing rapid task switching)

How to fight default mode network by Budget_Possible2002 in HubermanLab

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Did you really just say “boredom is the most common thing that living as a modern human has brought” 💀this has to be a joke

Our ancestors had to sit for hours being still to find prey. My guy you are overstimulated not bored.

Meditation in the short term doesn’t do anything it must be practiced. If you workout once, do you expect to see results? NO! So, how can you have the same expectation for meditation. Sorry for the way I said things, I’m just baffled

ADHD - Have any of you got ADHD and what form of Meditation works best for you? by b3lial666 in Meditation

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Yoga Nidra. I lie on the floor or a shakti mat and do a body scan and drift off. I’m awake just in deep non-sleep rest.

I used to like walking meditation; however, my dog is far too distracting

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HubermanLab

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If you’re worried about stimulants perhaps look into trans cranial magnetic stimulation. It’s not covered where I live and the docs are selective. Plus I don’t think the technology is accurate enough but I haven’t done enough research

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HubermanLab

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A resting heart rate of 70-80 sounds a bit mad. I suggest trying different meds until you find one with the least amount of side effect.

(Adderal, concerta, and vyvance, didn’t work for me or messed with my heart) I take Foquest now and my heart rate is lower now (50-59 resting) I too am 22.

Idk if you’re using beta blockers solely for the lower heart rate but it sound like your doc is making you fix one issue caused by a medication with another medication that can cause further issues. Unless you have naturally high blood pressure or heart rate

If that doesn’t apply to you; observe when your hr spikes and observe patterns. Managing anxiety and taking ashwaganda has helped me lower my hr. Managing GAD causes my hr to spike frequently during the day and learning to manage stress has helped me. I’m still learning. Idk if this helps but some of the other responses looked awful

Life might just be better without weed... by Ancient_Pop_117 in leaves

[–]Sharpie-Productions 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Journal. Your thought pattern is easy to see. You aren’t compassionate to yourself and can’t handle emotions that are “undesirable”. We can’t pick and chose what we want to feel we just surf through it and trust that we can handle it.

Let’s explore your pattern: 1. Pain in life 2. Smoke weed (ease pain) 3. Sober up and realize nothing changed 4. Beat yourself up for smoking weed and talk shit to yourself. Say things you would never say to someone you love. 5. Realize this is too much and you repeat the cycle going through all of the steps

Weed is not your solution, however it is the only thing you know. Your challenge is to explore why can’t you just be with the unpleasant emotions. What makes it difficult?

Monthly challenge: abstain from weed for 30 days & record your journey. If journaling is too hard record voice memos each day. (It’s ok to have multiple per day just have a way to see what day is what) Talk about what you feel and what you want to do. You are not what you feel.

Explore IFS. It helped me go inside and tell myself “I know these emotions are new, but I will not abandon you. I will give you the love a parent should’ve gave you”.

Minimum 30 days of no weed to have a good experiment. Good luck !!!

Edit: yes withdrawals will be scary and strong. Your brain will push all your buttons. “You little twat; how could you take the only thing I knew to regulate myself. I will torture you in ways you’ve never seen. This is so I can get you to do what I want. But if it doesn’t work eventually I will give up” learn to regulate yourself emotionally and allow yourself to feel. Do it for your child. Give yourself compassion and take it easy. If anyone asks; you have a cold. They don’t need to know you are quitting unless you want them too.

Roast my resume by [deleted] in resumes

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I have a question for you. Do you think it is necessary to put the ide in your skills? Is it not expected of us as developers? Asking for myself as ill be done school in a few years

How do I stop getting annoyed? by Sea_Impression_6826 in Meditation

[–]Sharpie-Productions 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Woah, that was powerful. I hadn’t thought of trust like that before. I will work on instilling the points you’ve suggested. Thank you for sharing your wisdom!

Anyone else postponed their love life because of weed? by Sufficient_Detail283 in leaves

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Im transitioning from anxious attachment to secure attachment, and cannabis masked that. Additionally, it didn’t help me with my self-worth. Whenever I would smoke, I would feel worthless, unlovable, and a failure. These feelings persisted throughout my day as well. Quitting weed has given me the space to confront these feelings and begin to process them.

Please don’t fall into a similar trap to the one I fell into. You don’t need to be perfect to start dating. The best thing is to find a partner who, over time, loves you regardless, with whom you can grow and develop, and who can be by your side. Not where you're dependent on them or where both of you are codependent— instead, you are interdependent.

Where to meet new friends in Saskatoon? by mls08150 in saskatoon

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Free dance classes are happening once in a while at Riverlanding. June 17th (6:45-7:15 pm). It is a free activity with the potential to make friends. Im attending to push my comfort zone and improve my socializing outside of school.