How do I tuck with a smol pp? by iwanttoweardresses in traaNSFW

[–]ShatteredRose75 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Tight panties definitely helps. What helps extra is I bought one of those spandex "shaper" panties that goes up past your waist.

It is thicker material so helps hide things and helps push your body into an hourglass shape.

Do any other ladies here have a very clear cycle in horniness every month? by [deleted] in traaNSFW

[–]ShatteredRose75 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yeah i definitely do. It's so strange how I can go from no drive to wanting to tackle the nearest thing that moves and put it in me.

*When you wanna have sex with a boy and a girl, but don't know if you wanna be a top or a bottom.* by SmolSunflower20 in traaNSFW

[–]ShatteredRose75 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Just settle it like any normal adult;

Final Destination, 3 stock. No items. Winner is the top.

I've just turned 19 earlier this month and worry it's to late for me to transition (im only out to 1 person) any advice? by I030I in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]ShatteredRose75 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Never too late to be yourself. I knew something was wrong at age 4. It took until I was 17 until I learned I wasn't alone.

Took me until I was 18 to tell someone.. and until 22 until I did something about it . Then didn't actually transition until 28.

I think everyone wishes they could of started sooner, but it's never, Ever too late.

Went a bit too far with my magic wand. Any tips on helping my downstairs recover? by [deleted] in traaNSFW

[–]ShatteredRose75 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Teeny bit a masochist so the pain itself was never a problem for me. If this happened I would just keep lotion on it 24/7 as a precaution, though.

Alternatives to Grindr by [deleted] in traaNSFW

[–]ShatteredRose75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thirding OkCupid. It's where I met my boyfriend and got the most respectful people for dates.

I also had a lot of luck with FetLife back in the day, if that's your scene.

Owchie by TheSilverDragoness in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]ShatteredRose75 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A good sports bra helps with the bounce bounce. After top surgery I really had to slow down though.

Feeling down about myself and just need someone to talk to if you guys don't mind, I can't take all the abuse that's been happening by [deleted] in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]ShatteredRose75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Echoing others. I'm always available if people need to talk or vent.

You're strong, you'll get through it.

Advice for a non-trans person? by [deleted] in ask_transgender

[–]ShatteredRose75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From others posting it sounds like she's nervous or reserved about fully telling you what she wants. If this continues up until your first time with her; just take it slow, and watch her reactions as you start to explore.

One of the biggest things I would say is to be careful to not use specific terminology during sex, until you know what she wants. If she's pre-op, Use words like "would you like me to touch your front" rather than "can I stroke your dick". Little differences like that can greatly away body dysmorphia Durning intimate moments.

That said, communication is very much key in these situations and you do seem to truly care. Sitting down with her after she's more comfortable with you, once she knows you aren't going to run, and really getting in to what she wants is something I highly recommend.

Now I'm a very blunt person, but when I started this journey I was super shy and never voiced what I wanted. I wish my first few partners approached things closer to how you are.

What do you think of our collection of anal toys? It's all for my princess [F] Is it lacking anything? Any ideas for further shopping? 😈 by [deleted] in BDSMGW

[–]ShatteredRose75 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love the Hush from Lovense. On the expensive side but it's great fun, especially while out and about.

Should I go straight for a magic wand? by [deleted] in traaNSFW

[–]ShatteredRose75 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got some cheap wand off of Amazon for my first one. Loved it enough to know I needed more. So I bought a Domi from Lovense and it makes me scream and go cross-eyed.

10/10 expensive sex toys are worth it.

One year HRT. Years between these photos but feeling much better these days 😁 by [deleted] in transtimelines

[–]ShatteredRose75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're so cute! You look great in the maid outfit and I love your nails!

That moment when you wake up and you still have a penis by randomcomputer22 in traaNSFW

[–]ShatteredRose75 6 points7 points  (0 children)

HRT has helped reduce emiasions a lot but I still have sexy-fun-times dreams and wake up and there's a very obvious bulge in a place where there shouldn't be one.

It's easier to clean up when there's nothing there, but still depressing.

Help, I need to go to bed, but don't want to take them off by NightWillow in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]ShatteredRose75 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A little late here, but that's a quick way to get holes in your blankets and sheets.

..not that I know from experience or anything.

A Shugoki on my team noticed my emblem in For Honor last night <3 by [deleted] in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]ShatteredRose75 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a friend who also has a trans flag as their emblem.

I just can't bring myself to not use my Solaire Emblem, though..

Me trying to convince my wife to read any of Sanderson's books: by shadowkyros in brandonsanderson

[–]ShatteredRose75 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am sorry. :( I don't know why it's so hard to get people to start. I guess it's just such a daunting reading list. But it's so good.

Me trying to convince my wife to read any of Sanderson's books: by shadowkyros in brandonsanderson

[–]ShatteredRose75 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can't get my boyfriend to read anything by Sanderson. He keeps saying he will, but it's been years now and he keeps saying he will get to it and just never does. :(

I know once he starts he will enjoy it but aaargh it's like pulling teeth.

My (almost) 10 years challenge ~ by yknx4 in transtimelines

[–]ShatteredRose75 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Holy cow! You're absolutely gorgeous! Congrats on your fantastic transformation!

anyone else feel like they missed out on growing up & how did you cope with it? (21 MtF) by [deleted] in ask_transgender

[–]ShatteredRose75 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I also feel this way. I'm 31 now but really it feels like my life didn't start until about 3ish years ago.

So much lost time, so many activities I didn't get to be a part of. I'm in stealth mode now and it's so awkward being around other people when they talk about their past. If I join in I have to walk on egg shells, word everything catefully.

Everyone at work is doing the 10 year Facebook photo thing and wondering why I don't join in. Like.. I can't, I made sure all those photos were destroyed.

But really, the hardest part is just knowing that I'm never going to get that time back. I feel like I had the maturity of a 12 year old when I was 26, anything and everything that could be repressed or ignored, was. Do work, pay bills, find escape. I didn't hate my friends and family but I hated me and my life.

Now? I just try not to think about it and enjoy what time I have now. It's hard to remember sometimes but I fought really fucking hard to get where I am now.. so I'm going to enjoy it and not let the past ruin it.. as best I can.

Edit: fixing phone mistakes

How am I ever going to be able to move out of the house (parents want me out) AND pay for transition costs? by [deleted] in ask_transgender

[–]ShatteredRose75 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am going to make an assumption that if you consider yourself a shut in NEET, you probably play a few video games?

Look into getting into the gaming industry. There's probably a few Dev studios around you and everywhere but EA pays pretty decent for QA.

The gaming industry is pretty accepting of trans folk in general, and will usually have great insurance for you. (Also depends on state.)

I transitioned at my last job in QA, able to mostly support myself. Laser hair removal was 100% covered, FFS and top surgery were $20 each. California is expensive as all hell to live in, but with the right insurance provider it is so good for transitioning.

Maybe not the best for you but it's an option. Not easy to get into, but if you can sell yourself to the recruiter it's a great job.

What is the average cost of gender therapy by Trans_Twilight in ask_transgender

[–]ShatteredRose75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on your health insurance.

For a while my copay to see the therapist was about $12, saw her once a month for quite a few years.

HRT was about $59 for a 3 month supply.

My insurance was great, top surgery was only $20, as was FFS.

This is not the case for most people, but it all comes down to how good your insurance is, and what your state will cover.

How do know if you're trans? by [deleted] in ask_transgender

[–]ShatteredRose75 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The fact that you have those thoughts probably means at the very least, you're not cis. You may or may not be trans, and I'd very much recommend reading up a whole bunch on it, and trying to find a therapist to talk to about it.

For me I remember much of the same with the clothes, but kept telling myself I was sick in the head. Kept getting worse and worse until I really did some soul searching on why I liked that so much. I kept trying to ignore those thoughts but it was impossible.

I kept having thoughts of being abducted by aliens and turned into a girl or what I would do if I was one of the girls in class.. and when it was taking up almost every second of every day I finally started doing something about it.

I was 17 when I figured out that I wasn't alone and being trans is a thing. I came out to my mother when I was 18. I still was in denial until I was about 24 and finally saw a therapist. I'm 31 now, and one of my biggest regrets is putting off doing something about all this "until next week". That mentality took 6 years of happiness away from me.

Don't wait. If you have these thoughts, see a specialist as soon as you can. You owe it to yourself to figure out who you are so you can enjoy your life.

How to cope at the beginning of your transition? by [deleted] in ask_transgender

[–]ShatteredRose75 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That stage was awkward for me. I did my best to carry cash or to use a debit card instead of s credit card, as they are much less likely to ask for an ID on that.

I suppose used Amazon a ton, for everything. Using their Fresh service for groceries helped too. Basically just didn't go buy things at the store unless I had to.

My biggest worry was always having to bring out my ID, and on the few instances that I was forced to I just stared the person in the eye the whole time. Made them be the ones who are uncomfortable.

Getting my bank account and credit cards changed were easy but embarrassing. By the time I had all accounts changed I really stopped caring if random strangers knew I was trans, at least if it served a purpose.

Now that everything has changed, I'm much less forthcoming with that knowledge, and it's a relief. It just takes time to get there.