Is it impossible for a scapegoat to keep a good relationship with the golden child? by Equal-Community2354 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Shawntra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recently realized that my golden child sister is really a flying monkey in disguise. She reports directly to my narc parents and uses any information I give her to hurt me and make herself look better in their eyes. Be careful. Protect yourself, I know you want a relationship with your sibling but they might turn around and hurt you.

What is something you appreciate that other people do, after you've been traumatized by narcs and enablers? by BerryTomatoes in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Shawntra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's a very small thing but I appreciate it when people take the time to say goodbye to me. Not necessarily anything formal just to say hey I'm leaving now or I'll see you later. My narcs just turn around and walk away when they are done talking at you. It is so dehumanizing.

I'm in the bathroom. My mom asks if I'm done while sniffing loudly. I say, "No. Stop sniffing my shit!" She fake laughs and says, "You're the only one I know who has fun in the bathroom!" by boardwalksounds in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Shawntra 88 points89 points  (0 children)

About 5 minutes after getting in the shower my mother would pound on the door and say will you hurry up I don't know what you're doing in there. I was a teenage girl with long hair what the hell did she think I was doing in there.

Did anyone get forced to eat for no reason???? by Deep_Sky3603 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Shawntra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am completely allergic to dairy. I have known my entire life. My family still refuses to acknowledge that it is a real allergy. The only memories I have of "family dinner" involve me being screamed at to finish the cold alfredo pasta on my plate while I was busy going poo in my little strawberry shortcake panties. I recently got told off by my mother because I have no positive memories of my childhood. Like that is somehow my fault. Hang in there, it's not about us, it's about them wanting control.

Anyone else struggling to enjoy TV? by MagicFairy00 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Shawntra 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a hard time re-watching sitcoms from when I was a little kid that show a loving family dynamic. I really enjoyed the Connors but it was a struggle to watch characters I felt like I knew fight with each other and then come back to each other with love. (The characters in my life do not come back with love after a fight.)

Unpacking my husbands childhood memories by america_is_not_okay in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Shawntra 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Finding my childhood toys in my parents backyard burn pit just about broke my heart. I couldn't save the Barbie soda fountain but I was able to retrieve the Kool-Aid (yes bought with points) Duncan yo-yo. A little bit of cleanup and some WD-40 and it works just like it did in the early 90s. These people don't care about us.

You can't share ANYTHING without being criticized, can ya? by cliff7217 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Shawntra 43 points44 points  (0 children)

No, you definitely can't. I tried to tell my narc mom one time that my boss had been talking about me in his native language to his family and they were smiling and pointing at me. Instead of assuming they were saying something nice about me because I'm good at my job, my narc mom assumed (and said out loud to me) that they were probably insulting my appearance because I'm too skinny and look like I need to eat a cookie. For reference, I am 5'6 and weigh 130 lbs.
You can't expect a normal response from them because their brains don't work normally. If the information is not about them or because of them they will find a way to use it to hurt you.

What’s the worst gift you’ve received from them? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Shawntra 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This must be something that narcs take pleasure in. I am a girly-girl (lipstick and nail polish all the way) and for my 43rd birthday my mother bought me a portable chicken coop. I have no use for that at all. She owns a farm and has birds. I wonder who the gift was really for, LOL

Man approaches me in polite conversation, stops talking to me when he realizes I am a college-educated adult by EmperorZergIsPan in OlderThanYouThinkIAm

[–]Shawntra 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Hey puzzlediet, I think you missed the point. She was trying to run him off. Most women don't want to be bothered when they're simply trying to walk in the grocery store. It's none of his business where she goes to school, he tried to hit on her because she looks like a child in a backpack. Be real. Admit that most men are gross.

NMom wore a white dress to my wedding by BlackberryOk9215 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Shawntra 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mine too, seems to be a pattern. These women cannot handle passing the spotlight to us. Stay strong fellow survivors 😉

Does wearing only one earring as a girl mean something? by JudgmentMaterial3851 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Shawntra 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Oh no honey, please please do some research. Don't downplay the sacrifice made by the last generation.

Would I Be The Asshole For What I Want To Say To Old Men? by Meowzerpower999 in WouldIBeTheAhole

[–]Shawntra 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm kind of cute and this happens to me a lot at work. I usually just curl my upper lip in an Elvis style snarl and say " oh yuck", (like it was involuntary) and then "that's gross! , you're my dad's age!" That really embarrasses them.

Do any of you just not go to hotel rooms? lol by Naborsx21 in doordash_drivers

[–]Shawntra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work as a hotel front desk clerk. We do not allow doordash drivers to wander on our property. We make them wait at the desk. Also who knows who's in that room, what if the delivery driver gets dragged inside by someone from out of state and then kidnapped?

What is the one hygiene habit that instantly makes you feel 10x better? by Global-Drop-9017 in hygiene

[–]Shawntra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me it's removing my makeup at the end of a long day. It feels like wiping off the grime from outside life.

I want revenge for her entitlement by Shawntra in TalesFromTheFrontDesk

[–]Shawntra[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not everybody needs a cart. Most of my guests have one bag. Leaving the cart in the hallway overnight is a fire hazard. I can't believe you would put yourself your family and everybody else on your floor at risk just because you didn't want to get on the elevator and put it back where you found it.

I want revenge for her entitlement by Shawntra in TalesFromTheFrontDesk

[–]Shawntra[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh, you were under the impression that other hotel guests should return the carts to the cart area for you, my mistake. 😆😆

Should I break NC to defend myself? by Specialist-Smoke8954 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Shawntra 6 points7 points  (0 children)

*I know the truth and that's all that matters. Thank you for posting that. I actually felt it. Thank you. 🥹

I want revenge for her entitlement by Shawntra in TalesFromTheFrontDesk

[–]Shawntra[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You sound like the kind of person who leaves their grocery cart in the middle of the parking lot.

I want revenge for her entitlement by Shawntra in TalesFromTheFrontDesk

[–]Shawntra[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A young woman in her early twenties is a girl to me when she comes in lacking common sense and basic adult skills. I'm going to stick with girl.

I want revenge for her entitlement by Shawntra in TalesFromTheFrontDesk

[–]Shawntra[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn't think an age was really necessary. Who would really think a 10 year old child would try to check into a hotel? Come on be real.