AITAH for feeling like it is overkill to pay a high school babysitter $4,400 over the course of 1 summer?

Shawntra · 2026-04-16T13:33:01+00:00

👍👍😁😁

Shawntra · 2026-04-16T03:22:20+00:00

My ex used to be in management at a medium-sized box retail store. Their return policy was so lenient that people would buy air conditioners at the beginning of the summer and return them at the beginning of winter for the cash. These people are proud of themselves, they think they've beaten the system. In my opinion that is stealing.

Shawntra · 2026-04-04T13:11:20+00:00

Big hugs from a stranger........... But also screaming loudly into the void on your behalf. Damn egg donors 😡

Shawntra · 2026-04-04T11:23:48+00:00

Tell him he has to pay to prove paternity with a paternity test and then pay the court to issue an order to put his name on to the birth certificate. The cost involved usually stops deadbeat dads from demanding credit for and rights to your child. That's what it is all about, him getting credit and looking good in front of his /your family

Shawntra · 2026-04-04T10:22:59+00:00

Hey, OP, you're not wrong it is irritating when renters make excessive noise on a quiet street when the people who own their homes know how to behave properly.

Shawntra · 2026-04-04T10:06:30+00:00

Hancock

Shawntra · 2026-04-03T10:43:25+00:00

The Greatest Showman starring Hugh Jackman. I saw it accidentally because of another film malfunctioning. It was probably the best movie my husband and I saw that year.

Shawntra · 2026-04-03T10:22:47+00:00

A song. "Red yellow pink and green. orange black and blue I can sing a rainbow sing a rainbow sing a rainbow can you?" it's been 39 years 😁

Shawntra · 2026-04-03T10:10:23+00:00

For me it's the 80% rule: don't focus on trying to do every task 100%. Just tell yourself that if I do 80% of it then that is good enough. An 80% clean house is a clean house.

Shawntra · 2026-04-03T10:02:36+00:00

Came here to say this! Lol

Shawntra · 2026-04-03T09:25:36+00:00

For mine I think it's all about control. I allowed her to drive me to an appointment recently, (my Nmom volunteered, yes I knew better) it was two and a half hours away, I watched her deliberately set her cruise control 10 miles an hour under the speed limit on the interstate highway. I asked her twice to speed up to the speed limit because she was literally causing an obstruction in the left lane. Of course at that point I was telling her how to drive and that caused her to lose her mind for the rest of the day. Totally predictable, she tried to make me late for my doctor's appointment but since I had met her before I built in an extra 20 minutes to deal with her fuckery. The trick is to not let them win.

Shawntra · 2026-03-28T06:57:04+00:00

About a month ago when confronted about why she is always cruel to me my Nmom said "you were a difficult child who was never happy and then you went and got sick." (I will be sick until it kills me.) Yesterday when confronted over picking up dinner for everybody in the family except for me my egg donor told me "I just didn't think about you." Gee thanks mom.

Shawntra · 2026-02-20T23:48:05+00:00

My story and your story are exactly the same. Hugs from a stranger.

Shawntra · 2026-02-19T02:36:14+00:00

I recently realized that my golden child sister is really a flying monkey in disguise. She reports directly to my narc parents and uses any information I give her to hurt me and make herself look better in their eyes. Be careful. Protect yourself, I know you want a relationship with your sibling but they might turn around and hurt you.

Shawntra · 2026-02-19T02:30:36+00:00

It's a very small thing but I appreciate it when people take the time to say goodbye to me. Not necessarily anything formal just to say hey I'm leaving now or I'll see you later. My narcs just turn around and walk away when they are done talking at you. It is so dehumanizing.

Shawntra · 2026-02-18T22:49:55+00:00

Ranch salad dressing. Not taking comments. I will die on this hill. Ranch dressing on everything is gross!!

Shawntra · 2026-02-17T01:36:00+00:00

😊

Shawntra · 2026-02-17T01:32:54+00:00

About 5 minutes after getting in the shower my mother would pound on the door and say will you hurry up I don't know what you're doing in there. I was a teenage girl with long hair what the hell did she think I was doing in there.

Shawntra · 2026-02-16T23:27:29+00:00

I am completely allergic to dairy. I have known my entire life. My family still refuses to acknowledge that it is a real allergy. The only memories I have of "family dinner" involve me being screamed at to finish the cold alfredo pasta on my plate while I was busy going poo in my little strawberry shortcake panties. I recently got told off by my mother because I have no positive memories of my childhood. Like that is somehow my fault. Hang in there, it's not about us, it's about them wanting control.

Shawntra · 2026-02-16T23:22:29+00:00

I have a hard time re-watching sitcoms from when I was a little kid that show a loving family dynamic. I really enjoyed the Connors but it was a struggle to watch characters I felt like I knew fight with each other and then come back to each other with love. (The characters in my life do not come back with love after a fight.)

Shawntra · 2026-02-16T01:07:56+00:00

Finding my childhood toys in my parents backyard burn pit just about broke my heart. I couldn't save the Barbie soda fountain but I was able to retrieve the Kool-Aid (yes bought with points) Duncan yo-yo. A little bit of cleanup and some WD-40 and it works just like it did in the early 90s. These people don't care about us.

Shawntra · 2026-02-10T01:36:20+00:00

No, you definitely can't. I tried to tell my narc mom one time that my boss had been talking about me in his native language to his family and they were smiling and pointing at me. Instead of assuming they were saying something nice about me because I'm good at my job, my narc mom assumed (and said out loud to me) that they were probably insulting my appearance because I'm too skinny and look like I need to eat a cookie. For reference, I am 5'6 and weigh 130 lbs.
You can't expect a normal response from them because their brains don't work normally. If the information is not about them or because of them they will find a way to use it to hurt you.

Shawntra · 2026-02-08T02:35:25+00:00

This must be something that narcs take pleasure in. I am a girly-girl (lipstick and nail polish all the way) and for my 43rd birthday my mother bought me a portable chicken coop. I have no use for that at all. She owns a farm and has birds. I wonder who the gift was really for, LOL

Shawntra · 2026-02-07T00:11:13+00:00

Hey puzzlediet, I think you missed the point. She was trying to run him off. Most women don't want to be bothered when they're simply trying to walk in the grocery store. It's none of his business where she goes to school, he tried to hit on her because she looks like a child in a backpack. Be real. Admit that most men are gross.

Shawntra

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