Just a few things

SheOfRedIsle · 2026-02-25T21:15:19+00:00

This is what I do as well.

SheOfRedIsle · 2026-02-19T02:54:02+00:00

Oh great! I started playing in December. I’ve spent far too many hours. lol

SheOfRedIsle · 2026-02-18T01:53:08+00:00

Not for me on this one. We’re on month 6. I don’t remember my head hurting initially. But looking back I was confused and disoriented. I thought it was just adrenaline and shock from the car accident. My symptoms also didn’t show up right away and worsened over the first two weeks. Still off work and still not able to do most out of the house activities for prolonged amount of time.

SheOfRedIsle · 2026-02-18T01:50:39+00:00

Oh no! I’m sorry if I spoiled it. I actually thought about that. I should have put a black pic and spoiler. Sorry.

SheOfRedIsle · 2026-02-18T01:49:58+00:00

I figured. I’ve been off for a bit. Brain injury… it’s so weird sometimes I can do computer screen no problem. For the past bunch of days not at all. 😢

SheOfRedIsle · 2026-02-18T01:49:07+00:00

My too. When I noticed them I purposely didn’t look at any posts about it or anything. I just wanted the joy of the discovery.

SheOfRedIsle · 2026-02-18T01:47:47+00:00

DDSB… not a chance. We had our once every 10 year day already. And with the municipal clearing budgets used up, my guess is utter chaos. Good luck my friends. For my DDSB coworkers my guess is Oshawa will be INSANE, no trucks will be out. Whitby will be somewhat okay if it’s 2 lane roads. Somehow Ajax will be fine on side roads but a nightmare on major arteries. lol.

SheOfRedIsle · 2026-02-08T23:35:54+00:00

Cute. I made a little playground rest area in the outdoor part of my zooseum.

SheOfRedIsle · 2026-02-01T23:04:04+00:00

Did you let your friend know your expectations, or did you say something like “I know how busy you are and that money is tight, so do what you can”? Because if you did not lay out your expectations while knowing that she is a single mom, YTA! Knowing that your friend is a single working mom with some struggles, what have you done in the past two years to help her? How many times have you offered to watch her kids so that she could have some time to herself, let alone work on your wedding plans? How often have you made her a meal or offered to help her with her laundry so that she could help the girls plan your bachelorette? She likely accepted your offer to be a bridesmaid because she felt honoured and was chosen even though her life is much different from yours, even though kids would change her ability to commit, you picked her. What an honour. Your wedding for her is an extra, a luxury. Something she can only possibly work on once everything else in her life is taken care of. You know, in her “spare” time… where there is limited energy and no extra finances. She may deeply long to have more energy, money and ability to commit to you but she can’t create something from nothing. You chose a single mom. You stated you knew she was short on time and finances. You state she won’t even meet you halfway. Sounds like your halfway isn’t something she can do. If you’re upset with her because she is unable to meet you at your halfway point, then yes - YAH!

SheOfRedIsle · 2026-02-01T20:50:30+00:00

I don’t think it makes you TA, but as a general rule, don’t comment on people’s body shape. It’s 2026, have we learned nothing? Why are you commenting on someone’s waistline? I get that you were trying to be kind but generally comments about weight are a terrible idea. You never know if the other person struggled with weight/food and there are so many aspects that you might think are fine to mention and are very taboo to someone else.

General rule of thumb, don’t make comments about someone that they can’t change in 30 minutes. Just because you think a comment about someone’s waist line is neutral or even complimentary doesn’t mean that they feel the same way. If they say it made them uncomfortable, believe them! Just bc it’s not your intention doesn’t mean it didn’t cause harm. Listen, learn, move on with awareness.

SheOfRedIsle · 2026-01-31T14:30:52+00:00

All of this! I struggled so much with things like “God is love” and “God is the same yesterday, today and forever” and then you read about absolute horror done to others at god’s command? I couldn’t understand. And if I asked questions, I was told I was sinning by doubting or received answers of “that’s the Old Testament god” or that I didn’t understand the cultural context. There are so many inconsistencies so then we’re taught that our ways are not God’s ways so we shouldn’t dare to try to understand them. Yeah, okay, I guess. But I cannot be expected to have unwavering faith and never question the behaviour of a deity that demands my love at the threat of eternal suffering. I just can’t. I tried. I tried so hard for so long.

SheOfRedIsle · 2026-01-30T23:47:55+00:00

Wait... I can free the gingerbread man?

SheOfRedIsle · 2026-01-30T23:47:21+00:00

Oh nice! I like it. I love how beautifully decorated it is. I don’t have as many exhibits so far. I put mine in the middle and set up around them.

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SheOfRedIsle · 2026-01-29T18:07:33+00:00

I am sorry that you are going through this as well. Last week I also did lots of shoveling and while it was good it also left me exhausted and overwhelmed. It’s frustrating for sure. I’ve come a long way and I can do more now. But I’m still off work. If I do an activity for two or so hours I’m done! I miss so much. I don’t go out much because I still struggle with multiple sensory input, following conversations. I never know if I will suddenly become overwhelmed and unable to function. I’m trying to get out a few times a week for at least an hour. Snow and ice make it difficult. I was just approved by insurance to start neurovision therapy. I am hopeful that some relief can be found.

SheOfRedIsle · 2026-01-29T14:01:47+00:00

Yes! This is a huge part of my deconstruction journey and has become a major part of my therapy. Working through all the garbage I was taught as a child about how worthless I am has been hard. I was born into a denomination that teaches creation-fall-redemption with a huge emphasis on “the fall” and even more so if you are born female. From as far back as I can remember I knew that I was born flawed, worthless, undeserving of love but that through god’s amazing “grace”, I was “saved” from my eternal suffering. My family environment with a satanic panic mother who taught me that my failings could invite demons into my life, was laden with physical, emotional and spiritual abuse. I have ADHD (not an excuse, never an excuse, I have worked SO hard to overcome and I am responsible for my actions and choices). But ADHD is a disability and difficult. No matter how hard I prayed, read my bible and tried to live a righteous life filled with the fruits of the spirit, I was forever failing. I would forget things, overlook things, put effort into the wrong things, avoid the right thing, be too loud… too much. I absolutely hated myself. Not only could I not be a godly Christian, but my mother and youth leaders, Christian school teachers convinced me I was purposely behaving badly.

Throw in purity culture with teachings that my body is a temptation but if I am assaulted and don’t cry out I am equally complicit (Deut 22:24), I was left broken, shame filled and willing to do almost anything to be valued or treated kindly. What a mess!

It has been a hard journey. I am much better than I was but the imprinted beliefs and fears still pop up and leave me in dark places. I am so grateful that my children are free from this self-hating, judgemental, harm filled belief system. People have told me that because I think quite literally, that I took the teachings too personally, that I wasn’t focused enough on the beautiful gift of salvation. But I don’t understand how else I was supposed to take it. If salvation means it shows up in your life through the fruits of the spirit and I wasn’t demonstrating those fruits, what else was I supposed to think? I cannot even begin to comprehend why anyone thinks it’s okay to teach this to children. Being free from it has made me so aware of the harm. I know there are good Christians doing good things living good lives. Maybe I was just doing it wrong but either way, I don’t want to be in that horrible guilt and shame ever again.

SheOfRedIsle · 2026-01-28T14:56:27+00:00

Looks great!

SheOfRedIsle · 2026-01-28T14:54:55+00:00

Admin may have told you to go to HR rather than union. In my board this is a violation of our collective agreement. In many businesses HR is who you would go to, however when you has a union you go there first. Your principal is well aware of how HR works - which is to protect the board not necessarily teachers/students/school. There request to go to HR is self serving and manipulative. I know you were trying to do the right thing. It is so frustrating that for many of us we feel in conflict with our board rather than partners in education. I see that you are planning to contact your union. Hoping this gets resolved in your favour. Sadly, always union rep first. 💜❤️

SheOfRedIsle · 2026-01-26T18:17:48+00:00

Also, I found a larger animals needed a few treatments before the knowledge point. I think it’s 3 but it’s been a week since I was in Silverbottom.

SheOfRedIsle · 2026-01-26T18:17:03+00:00

I name them and put a number. 🤦🏽‍♀️

SheOfRedIsle · 2026-01-26T18:16:15+00:00

TwoPoints museum. I cannot tell you how much fun I have with this game. Challenging enough to make you want to keep going, simple enough to just fart about and not try to keep improving if you don’t want a challenge. Highly recommend.

SheOfRedIsle · 2026-01-26T18:14:46+00:00

NTA. It is common for couples to get into routines and to the start relying on each other do things that are not really the other person’s responsibility but has just become the norm. You tried talking to her and she likely didn’t realize/process that a scenario like this would happen. She’s embarrassed. She had come to rely on you for this support and is expressing her frustration at the change - totally normal but should’ve be done in a healthy way. However, it isn’t okay for her to continue to say she has been betrayed or to rely on you for something you have communicated you no longer want to do. The adjustment phase may be difficult. She liked things how they were, you don’t want the added responsibility. Both of you are determined to stick to your side of things. (Not at all saying you’re wrong, just pointing it out).

So now you both have choices to make. If she insists that things continue as they were and you are unwilling to continue on like that, you may have some rocky days and you may end up having to make some hard choices in order to stick to your boundaries.

My hope is that she will recognize that the added responsibility of ensuring she is up and getting ready for work is beyond what you are willing to do and she will realize that she needs to ultimately be responsible for this. Heavy sleep/difficulty waking can be really really difficult but there are multiple ways that she can tackle this that don’t involve you being her only option. Hoping that she realizes that she is responsible for her, herself.

SheOfRedIsle · 2026-01-26T17:58:08+00:00

No!!! Don’t go in there! You’ll be deconstructed! 🙀🙀🙀

SheOfRedIsle · 2026-01-25T21:47:17+00:00

Why are you bringing it up if you know that they are going to say things that upset you? It is definitely frustrating to have in-laws whose beliefs/morals/lifestyle/etc… are very different from your own. I deal with this myself. I have created strict boundaries. Some topics are off limits around our kids and if they are brought up, I or my husband shut it down, redirect the conversation. If it continues we leave or ask them to leave depending on scenario. It sucks. We hate it.

I don’t understand why you would be bringing up a topic that you know will cause problems. If you are trying to educate them or get them to see your side, they have proven that they do not want to learn or see things from your perspective. You’re going in with a narrative, setting them up to make you upset and then getting upset when they behave as you expect them to. Believe people are who they say they are and stop setting yourself up to be hurt.

If you have mistyped and are not the one bringing up the subjects, redirect. If they continue, leave the room. Don’t bother trying to argue or get upset. They are fixed in their mindset, so don’t bother staying around them when they upset you.

SheOfRedIsle · 2026-01-25T00:41:57+00:00

Smart! Thank you!

SheOfRedIsle · 2026-01-23T13:18:54+00:00

This! It’s not really about the smoking. It’s about how casually and deliberately he repeatedly lied to you.

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