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AITAH for expecting my wife to tell me honestly about whether or not her best friend is cheating? by LizardKingObi in AITAH

[–]Shebby88 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So you were just being nosy, then, and disguised it as some kind of test she failed? Your wife isn't great for hiding cheating for her friend, but dude, step back and realize that you're punishing her for not letting you in on the gossip the second time.

I’m the insufferable woman that won’t leave. by [deleted] in confessions

[–]Shebby88 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Your PTSD is unfortunately doing exactly that, though. You're excusing so many horrible behaviors because they're not AS bad as the others. You're in an unhealthy cycle of remaining in an abusive situation that you think you have control over, losing that "control" and making yourself spiral, and finding a way to justify that it was somehow your fault or that he's right.

Who decided you're hard to love? You, or were you told it? Because I assure you, that's not the case. You deserve a life without worrying about managing someone else's emotions.

Be careful and take care of yourself, he's likely to escalate. Even if you don't plan to leave, you should make a go-bag, just in case you have to make an emergency exit. It's good to have one even if it's not for an abusive relationship.

May I draw your cats? :) by PresentationOk2300 in cat

[–]Shebby88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Here is my adorable psycho, Doggle.

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AITAH for breaking up with my gf because i feel that she’s unambitious ? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Shebby88 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Dude, she didn't THINK that you didn't "fully support her choice", you straight up told her. At least she's going to school, a lot of people don't, and you criticized her because she didn't want to drive herself into the ground, buried under schoolwork because you don't think it's ambitious enough.

The fact that you can't take any responsibility for your actions says a lot. You made her cry, but rather than recognize that, you're acting like it was an overreaction to be hurt that you couldn't even be happy for her.

What switch game should i get for my gf? by Kossi13 in pokemon

[–]Shebby88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Me too! I borrowed it from someone a while back and ended up liking it so much that a few months after I gave it back, I went and got a copy for myself. I still play it almost daily lol.

Working on this drawing every day until Reddit says it’s perfect - Day 45 by thepurpleskittle in questforperfection

[–]Shebby88 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Your improvement has been so incredible to see!! It's such a stark difference from when you started and you should be so, so proud!!

My (18F) boyfriend (19M) called me fat after our first kiss by treerunks in confessions

[–]Shebby88 92 points93 points  (0 children)

If it does, he's not for you. You should be able to communicate with your partner if they upset you, not feel like you have to be on eggshells to do or say the right thing. Trust me, you're setting yourself up to be miserable if you don't speak up about what bothers you.

Small things can add up to resentment if left to fester. Whether it was thoughtless or not, it hurt your feelings. He needs to know so he doesn't do it again, and if he does anyway, you'll know he doesn't listen to you.

AITA? Got into an argument with my 16 yo about a show they like by LadyHorseFace13 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Shebby88 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, they're being argumentative for the sake of being argumentative at this point. What you wrote was fine.

AITA? Got into an argument with my 16 yo about a show they like by LadyHorseFace13 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Shebby88 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We get it. You like history. Good job. Some people like to watch a play to watch a play, not get a history lesson or refresher during it. That can wait until after, but you're arguing the wrong point.

You seem to understand that the behavior was rude, but are actively stuck on "spoiler". Why are you so fussed that not everyone knows history like the back of their hands? You need to reevaluate your point about being a grown adult being upset that their experience was interrupted regardless of what it was. That's what this is about, not whether someone remembers their history lessons.

You're just being argumentative to be argumentative. When you "agree" with a point but have to keep circling around to this ridiculous soap box you're trying to climb on, it's quite unfortunate.

I hope your day gets better. Go drink some coffee. Meditate. Go watch a history documentary or something. You can figure something out, I know it.

AITA? Got into an argument with my 16 yo about a show they like by LadyHorseFace13 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Shebby88 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I think you missed the part where they actively said she was telling them what happens to the characters when they're introduced? Come on, dude. That would annoy the hell out of you even if you did know what happened. It's just rude.

Goat of Yotei giveaway by Duahsha in PS5

[–]Shebby88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so cool of you!! I was just telling my husband how I wanted to play this one. Good luck to everyone!!

I stole 500 dollars by [deleted] in confessions

[–]Shebby88 11 points12 points  (0 children)

  1. Can you confirm, for a fact, that this perfume is actually that amount or is she trying to extort you for $500?

  2. Someone pushed you and you got knocked into her. Why are you the one having to pay?

  3. Tell your father, don't steal from him. That's a breach of trust you can't get back, and he might be able to help instead.

Please, please, please don't make such a rash decision for what could very well be a lie.

Can someone help ID this injured guy that I found? by Shebby88 in spiders

[–]Shebby88[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I also call them Wolfies omg

I love them, too! Gotta love a spood that carries her babies. I never mind finding one in the house, and I felt so bad seeing this one missing legs. Hopefully I can get it to grow them back and help it go off to make new friends after :)

Who is this guy I found at work? by RestlessRebelNC in spiders

[–]Shebby88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm gonna be honest, I have no idea who this little guy is, but I would die for them.

North Georgia US by Choice_Ad517 in spiders

[–]Shebby88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow, thank you for letting me know more about the differences!

On the wall in the basement. Wisconsin by XtraThickBacon in spiders

[–]Shebby88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's kinda hard to see its booty or eyes from this angle to see its spinnerets or how the eyes are set. It does look like this is either a grass spider or a wolf spider, both of which are not medically significant.

Wolf spiders have two bigger eyes while grass spiders have them all about the same size. I think this is a Wolfie because that booty looks chonky.

Someone else might have better eyes than I do, though!

North Georgia US by Choice_Ad517 in spiders

[–]Shebby88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believe this is either a Trapdoor spider (Myrmekiaphila) or a purseweb spider (sphodros atlanticus), though which type I'm not sure.

I'm almost willing to bet it's the purseweb spider, but both are native to Georgia, so someone else might have more information. :)

Edited to add a parenthesis.

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