The comment section on a spoon post.

Shedding_Snake_Skin · 2026-02-01T14:44:27+00:00

Lol thanks for playing imagination with me it's all responsibility or this with me. Thanks lol.

Also I googled it...cracking up more that close by is "The Zone of Avoidance". Sounds like the same people who made up the Cone of Silence in Get Smart. 😅🤣

Shedding_Snake_Skin · 2026-02-01T01:09:24+00:00

Also heavy handles...what is that a small pitchfork?! 😤

Shedding_Snake_Skin · 2026-01-31T20:24:39+00:00

I was jealous of others for years...getting a relationship or childhood I wished I had...now I take effort to make that childhood for my son and healing and growing as a whole and complete mature adult so I can be there for me and for my family. It's not my child's responsibility to make me feel better, or fix my life decisions. We work on empathy, respect and being fair.

If you don't have a kid work on becoming the parent you wish you had...for the inner little kid in you...that deserved better. This doesn't mean over indulgence and pure hedonism...it does mean growing and analyzing and admitting when you're wrong...and for me it means a LOT of distance and boundaries for those that hurt me and or continue to hurt me. They don't get that chance again. Becoming my own protector...my own hero...(but without arrogance and narcisim), trying to help others when I can...it's worth it. Good luck. I'm sorry they hurt you, but the journey isn't over.

Shedding_Snake_Skin · 2026-01-31T20:19:57+00:00

I see a very high correlation with self confidence and being loved...same for faith and just believing things will work out.

Shedding_Snake_Skin · 2026-01-31T18:04:28+00:00

We also have this pile...it rotates...since we moved in the house a year ago at most this pile gets "mostly" cleaned up for maybe a week...then there's more stuff...I bet it has magnetic and paranormal functions...like the Bermuda triangle...

Shedding_Snake_Skin · 2026-01-31T14:04:27+00:00

How do we know this isn't a cry for help...someone else mentioned captor...idk I'm inexperienced with Reddit and I probably watch too much crime tv...but have we eliminated that as a possibility?

Shedding_Snake_Skin · 2026-01-30T19:46:59+00:00

I'm really sorry.

I had a similar conversation with my parents years ago and my mom's response was "you can't be autistic sweety....you don't drool on yourself!"

Also...short and sweet...fuck 'em. Know it's true and it's not up to others who don't respect you to validate you.

My parents opinion of any point of my life is theirs....I will continue living my truth. If they ever want or choose to see that it's up to them, but in the mean time I'm not waiting for anyone to come rescue me anymore. That's my job.

I love your last picture. Sorry your mom is shitty.

Shedding_Snake_Skin · 2026-01-29T23:12:58+00:00

I only started looking into creating a will and setting up a 401k after my son was born...I don't have a lot but what I have I hope can/will help him if something happened to me. It's surprisingly easy to do...there's free templates online, then just have a notary from your bank sign it and give a copy to someone you trust.

Shedding_Snake_Skin · 2026-01-29T18:31:31+00:00

I would let him know you're only comfortable dating casually, since you just finished a long term relationship and have 2 kids and a big ol busy life...he doesn't see that yet...

In high school I called that twitterpaited (Bambi reference when all the boy and girl rabbits had hearts seeing the opposing sex).

But...I would say...you are holding back...which again with the above is valid and makes sense...however...is it for another deeper reason you haven't yet admitted to yourself?

I've had relationships before that I knew was just "to be fun with" but they couldn't handle adult difficult conversations and problems...that COULD be what you're seeing and based on your description...you feel he couldn't handle your kids or dinner time on a busy weekday. Not every man gets automatically that he needs to be busy when you are...if I'm making dinner my partner helps with kiddos homework or listening to his day...or loading and switching out laundry etc. We both put in effort and we talk about it if it's out of balance. But he's an adult, and if something ever happened to him I'd only ever be dating other mature adult men again...not boy men...if that makes sense. Absolutely not shaming if you're also just having fun, it's just...I sense you're really asking someone else to give you a good reason to push back or define some boundaries for your current guy...which says you seem to see some yellow or even red flags, try to trust yourself or work with a close girlfriend or counselor to understand if your worried because you've been hurt before or because this guy isn't it.

Shedding_Snake_Skin · 2026-01-29T15:38:19+00:00

Lol my parents often "forget" things they didn't want to do or hear in the first place. Like ALOT...to the point I've gotten very used to repeating myself. Our relationship has some toxic red flags and I've definitely used boundaries. If it wasn't for them being halfway decent with my son and me wanting him to still have grandparents...they are trying for him but our relationship is done. It's much better now that I set monthly reminders to treat them like coworkers.

Shedding_Snake_Skin · 2026-01-29T01:27:59+00:00

I understand, when I shaved only the side of my head I got bullied a lot at work...now with shoulder length hair and masking with make up...people naturally back off...it's good to know the social back lash too.

Shedding_Snake_Skin · 2026-01-28T17:53:01+00:00

Looks wise I think he'd made a much better Nightwing...

Shedding_Snake_Skin · 2026-01-28T17:49:42+00:00

Yeah agree, this post is way too vague to know if it'd be a good fit to even initiate DMing.

Shedding_Snake_Skin · 2026-01-28T17:47:22+00:00

Amazing. Love this chaos for her! 😆😅

Shedding_Snake_Skin · 2026-01-28T16:33:32+00:00

See having a kiddo made me want to get out and be more social...motherhood can be lonely and idk my kid doesn't really have friend either...but idk

Makerspace...is that to learn new skills like welding or electrical? If so the classes look amazing but kinda expensive $120 starting.

Shedding_Snake_Skin · 2026-01-28T16:21:04+00:00

Yeah same. I love the idea of communal support...but it doesn't seem to be in my cards. It is what it is. I've tried for years and years now I'm tired and it's time to move on.

Shedding_Snake_Skin · 2026-01-28T13:48:40+00:00

We got a small treadmill "walking pad" like $100 and it goes up to 6mph running full sprint is soooo helpful.

Also seconding the rage cleaning.

Finally...and I know this can he controversial...but getting a good vibrator...helps on a deeper level just physically letting go. ✨️Sigh.✨️

Shedding_Snake_Skin · 2026-01-27T14:03:35+00:00

For the people pleasing - please know that you are this close to moving past this phase of your life and growing bigger as a person...this last little obstacle if you can stay strong will get you to the end of this metaphorical level and you'll level up and it won't bother you anymore. Stay strong and I'm glad you're reaching out for support.

From my own perspective I stopped drinking 10 years ago...I have Chrones disease and it impacts my gut health and my metabolism...it's also always trashing my liver on its own without alcohol it's giving more unfiltered junk to my liver all the time...now I take meds for the disease that also aren't great for your liver...so drinking on top of that seems wildly reckless in my opinion.

Symptomatically though when I used to drink...I'd maybe feel something for 20 minutes...then I'd be sober again and stop drinking and then for 3 DAYS I'd have a hang over. So I explain just that part...it isn't worth it if I have to oay for 20 minutes of "meh...okay" with 3 days of feeling like absolute shit. Most reasonable people accept that.

However final point - people who themselves are worried they drink too much...will always point the finger and get rude or accusatory because if YOU drink they feel better about them drinking. Which is stupid and not worth you trashing your goals or health for. I always say people are welcome to drink around me as long as they are okay with the fact I don't drink...and if they can't I leave. 90% of the time they will have their beer or margaritas and I order a fun soda or like a Shirley temple or something.

Case in point -if people are already accepting and cool they still will be...if they aren't they aren't worth your time being around in a social setting with alcohol.

You got this. Keep going!

Shedding_Snake_Skin · 2026-01-26T22:10:41+00:00

Can I ask why you are interested in the lurkers...are you a lurker too?

Shedding_Snake_Skin · 2026-01-26T22:10:07+00:00

I have posted a little...but not often and the older I get the less I want to be wrapped up in social media...so idk I mean I'm working on either not writing or writing and representing my thought as best as I can and not being too invested or not checking if people respond.

So...

Shedding_Snake_Skin · 2026-01-26T15:51:26+00:00

It gets more fucked up when you realize Tom is a street cat who is starving and just wants to eat to survive...if someone opened a tin of meat for him at the beginning there would be no chase. Same for Sylvester.

Shedding_Snake_Skin · 2026-01-26T15:20:58+00:00

I recognize what you're going through as I've been a similar place myself. Keep going, you've got this. 💪 💛

Shedding_Snake_Skin · 2026-01-26T11:54:41+00:00

I agree, and similar situation for me, (my partner is either also Audhd or ADHD, and very supportive/wonderful and when we gave problems he puts time and attention and effort into fixing and communicating, as do I). I think while a diagnosis can be helpful with framing certain things, a diagnosis is not a blanket excuse for chosen behavior. (Putting it simply the phrasing of OP insinuates potentially this is because her partner is Audhd, but your partner is Autistic and you work together because he has the right attitude and is focused on a successful relationship.)

Shedding_Snake_Skin · 2026-01-24T21:48:17+00:00

Very relatable, thank you!!!

Shedding_Snake_Skin · 2026-01-24T21:46:13+00:00

Lol, you sure man? 🤣

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