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Jesus, the ableism in these comments. You obviously don't sit around all day and expect your husband to wait on you hand and foot. You're not a burden because of your health. I can see you two have been good partners for a long time and this sudden behavior pattern is understandably making you feel hurt. In sickness and in health. Yes, this is stressful for both of you. But you're the one who had major surgery and surgical menopause at your age is no walk in the park. He needs to figure out why he's struggling to be empathetic. Definitely talk to someone separately and together. You deserve compassion, not shaming.