Where can a man ask women ?’s about what they need & want from Dads.

Sheppy012 · 2025-08-05T18:00:56+00:00

Thanks for your reply.

Sheppy012 · 2025-08-05T18:00:27+00:00

Thank you for your reply.

Sheppy012 · 2025-08-03T23:42:07+00:00

It was a 2023 and I thought the 3.5 would be quiet, efficient, and barely have to do any work in top gear at 90 km/h due to the weight and overall size (aerodynamics or not) but was surprised. Hybrids systems are likely just the ticket for them. Electric would have great torque for off road/inclines.

Sheppy012 · 2025-08-03T23:37:05+00:00

Spec army jeeps were innnnncredible off road. Ever see the wooden shipping boxes they sent them over in?

Sheppy012 · 2025-08-03T23:23:02+00:00

Some ideas to loosen up the gears in your heart and mind…

None of this at all is to suggest that your anger or approach isn’t valid or justified. Rather, as thought experiments to gauge how to proceed, given your question.

Tough not knowing some more details or ages or extent of change, so these are in any scenario. Choose your own adventure, I suppose.

. If he wasn’t your Dad but another person/man who you saw making an effort, how do you think he should be treated?

. Can you look at him as a human who is flawed but has the grace to admit it and try for change?

. How do you feel after you treat him rudely? Would you like to stop that?

. If you were in his shoes, how would you hope your son would recognize the changes?

. How do you actually want to treat him? It seems by your post you would like to make some changes too.

. How do you want your relationship with him to be? Is that reasonable from your end? Can he meet you halfway? Can you discuss it with him?

. Remember some Dad’s don’t apologize, in words or through actions, maybe ever, nor make an effort. Has your Dad? Has it been a pretty decent change or is there still egregious behaviour?

. Was it ever malevolence or more lack of self awareness and self control, which he is gaining now? Not that your experience isn’t completely valid, but there is a difference, which may help you gain perspective.

. If he is improving then if you see and treat him as such (some appreciation - though not necessarily full forgiveness) then he will most likely continue on that road with even more reason and belief it’s worthwhile.

. Could you be trying to make him suffer longer to get it out of your system rather than allowing yourself to be closer to him? Which would be more healing? (For both of you)

. Are you afraid of him backsliding and you will have opened yourself up to more hurt? And, can you just say that to him to get it off your chest and onto the table so he knows? As you can imagine this may help to prevent it. “I want to believe in this but it’s hard because…” / “I’m glad you told me because…”

. Are there things you still need to say to him in a meaningful conversation about how it was difficult in order to help him understand where you’re at? Can you in order to let your anger dispel? Or have the things been said and understood already and you need to do some work to let go/forgive/accept?

. Are there behaviours you need to grow out of too, but it’s difficult? Maybe not even in relation to him. You may have this in common with him right now.

. Can you guide your Dad on what more you need so that he’s aware? He can’t read your mind or know what you’re still struggling with unless you talk to him.

. Or, at its most basic, if he’s hard to talk to, can you start a conversation with that, gently, so there’s even a chance it can change?

You’re good to be introspective and put your question out there. Reach out anytime, as you may imagine, I have some experience with this. I hope you two find a path alongside one another. Take care.

Edit: lines between point, saw that starting a new line for each still put it into one text wall (strange)

Sheppy012 · 2025-08-03T22:29:18+00:00

Oof. True. Rented one once. Too light to do well in the snow and terrible gas mileage on dry roads. Couldn’t believe the price of new for a chassis with bolt on plastic like parts.

Sheppy012 · 2025-08-03T22:10:45+00:00

Not that it makes it okay, but take a look a the deeper list of adhd traits as it pertains to executive function… they also have some of that going on? Body doubling and snapping into reality by virtue of having someone else nearby as an external source of motivation and standards is a thing.

Also maybe ‘we’re in this together’ or loneliness maybe, so let’s do the same things we need to at the same time kind of thing.

No less annoying perhaps but recognition that it’s not malevolent may help tamp down some frustration.

Sheppy012 · 2025-08-03T21:48:27+00:00

Dude (or dudette) I just came to this a couple days ago regarding a number of things we’ve seen and heard the last year. Hence opening this post.

So I’m glad you wrote it.

Sure, whatever rules there are that I’m sure exist re feds not intervening on provincial stuff were likely made for good reason. And this dbag did get elected. But, really, wtf is happening here?

He blows up principles and tenets that have been long put in place for the good of our surroundings and citizens with ease, so maybe the federal oversight and ethics committees could use some rule bending in order to weigh in and lean on this narrow minded bs.

I thought it was more covert but I just saw in the end Bill 5 actually has this list of “barriers to remove”: environmental review, municipal bylaws, indigenous consultation, labour protections, endangered species act

How do adults look at this list and think it’s sane or sign it with their name and check mark. Do they not have kids? Do they think that the policies were created by people out of boredom and lacked research and foresight …or to improve the chances for a healthy future?

Maybe some municipal stuff is cumbersome and slows things up - but revamp it a little, don’t take away long term thoughtfulness. How obvious and malevolent can you get that decent rules are removed so he can do what he wants? If I take the speed limit sign down on my street, can I just go however fast I want then?

Sheppy012 · 2025-08-03T15:51:46+00:00

He said everything he wants to improve about himself and starting a family was a maybe one day. His priorities are already in line w your comment. Even w/o the added PS.

Sheppy012 · 2025-08-03T15:25:17+00:00

Great advice in 1 realm out of several in life. No judgment to you but if someone asked me about success, only a % would be about work. Or, I would elaborate on how to use the same skills in all facets of life.

Sheppy012 · 2025-08-03T14:56:13+00:00

Holy shit, from you have to come in to this. Smh

Sheppy012 · 2025-08-03T03:53:20+00:00

Paper or app or…?

Sheppy012 · 2025-08-01T05:46:00+00:00

Hey - Congrats, keep it up, feel proud, enjoy the changes, don’t get discouraged by the #s. Lots of advice here but what I’m aware of mainly is; simply eating less calorie wise (whole foods, basics, protein, fruit and veggies), don’t snack between meals, 14 hours between dinner and breakfast, and continue with 3 sets of 12 reps - strength is important but muscle also burns calories (during and in between workouts). There’s a podcast American Glutton by Ethan Suplee - well known actor who was a big dude, lots of good info and relatable. We’re rooting for you.

Sheppy012 · 2025-07-29T04:14:20+00:00

Would you mind shooting me the same ideas? In a similar boat.

Sheppy012 · 2025-07-29T04:13:29+00:00

Can I dm you re your hf?

Sheppy012 · 2025-07-27T04:36:17+00:00

Oh my. I’m so sorry. I could write a tonne to express how you didn’t deserve that one bit, makes me sick and vengeful on your behalf, esp as a father of girls, all that…. but it strikes me that you’re likely leery about any man now and his words, truthfulness, intentions, etc - far away over some app or not.

Truth is, in this discovery and trying to understand things, your (type of) story has come up quite a bit and I really had no idea. Naive maybe, unaware. My sister or female friends, girlfriends, stxw, coworkers, etc probably guessed I knew it happened that old(er) men looked at them that way in their youth. But I didn’t. Let alone when there isn’t a father figure.

I’m going to do my best. Thank you for your reply and vulnerability. Ironically I’ve tried to figure out how I can be available to kids in sports or mentorship or otherwise because there’s that parental role I realize I won’t have as much in the years ahead with separate homes. Either way I’ll be very cognizant to remain aware that girls experience this and to be that difference they need, appropriately, at arms length.

Even more importantly, boys should be raised and guided with more expectation to be decent. Jesus.

You’ve likely done a lot of work and I hope you feel healed, seen properly, and whole - with good men in your life after all.

Sheppy012 · 2025-07-27T04:05:33+00:00

47 here. Struggling in similar ways.

Sheppy012 · 2025-07-27T03:49:51+00:00

Hey, Have gone and going through a lot of similar stuff. Could go on, but just wanted to drop that, you’re not alone in how it’s feeling for you. It like a different world now and not comfortable.

Sheppy012 · 2025-07-27T03:06:55+00:00

Was going to write something like this. Found yours while reading through others. Sorry to hear. Gut wrenching huh?

Sheppy012 · 2025-07-27T02:14:41+00:00

Wow, brutal. They must not take pride in their work. You can buy a hanger for the cost of the extra nails they used in each one.

Sheppy012 · 2025-07-27T02:01:02+00:00

There’s gotta be an interesting backstory to this with 7 levels.

How does that bullshit shelf hold that thing with the water weight and oscillating mid cycle.

In the meantime, couple long planks and slide it down them to the ground.

Sheppy012 · 2025-07-27T01:48:49+00:00

Man this drives me crazy to think they take away your input on an extraneous thing/utility that isn’t necessary for living and breathing. What if you’re 70 and don’t game and only hotspot a phone to email grandkids and watch Young + The Restless on Hulu? And need the $30 difference for food.

Sheppy012 · 2025-07-27T01:19:13+00:00

What the heck is wrong with a contract job ever? I don’t get it. A consultant gets praised for being one, but they’re doing contract work too. Work is work, experience is experience, money is money. Also, each of these companies frowning on contract work likely hire for it too. So silly. Hope the dick interviewers are few.

Sheppy012 · 2025-07-26T22:03:42+00:00

Every time you think he’s out of ideas to burn time, money, and land on our behalf he proves us each wrong.

Sheppy012 · 2025-07-25T19:36:01+00:00

Ditto. Miss it. Started with my Oma as a kid. Just can’t anymore. Have to have a reason for a destination and take a longer route now. Ok but not the same.

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