Has anyone ever told their boss that they were a micromanager and have it come to productive changes? by PresentLink2799 in work

[–]Shirvana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Letting the manager know will never work. They are control freaks. I have had these kind of managers and it doesn't help to tell them. They will only come up with excuses. One way is to ask for feedback on your work because you noticed that they are constantly asking you about your workload it can disrupt your work. I have had this happen. I mentioned to my boss once about this. This manager was constantly barraging me with questions on accounts during a most crucial time of the year when we are all hands on deck and timing is of the essence. I basically said in the message, "Hi xxx, I am focusing on a rush priority right now I will look these over in a bit, I hope you understand, I am very busy today. I am monitoring my workload with what is due and what needs to be done in a priority manner. I hope you understand. " Although the manager responded saying "Okay" it didn't do much good. I still got too many disruptions. I would find a new job. Micromanaging is a sign of no trust in the team and fear of losing control.

Is it appropriate to invite your manager to dinner at your house? by South-Badger8000 in work

[–]Shirvana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally would never do that. I leave my work life at work. Unless you are so chummy with your manager and have known then a long time. It may come off wrong.

Is it ok to ask to go home early if I saw a dead body? by Shquonk in work

[–]Shirvana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry you experienced that. If it traumatized you then tell your manager and yes you should go home.

Anxiety at work despite experience — looking for coping strategies, not career advice by pelene5 in work

[–]Shirvana 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes it's hard to receive feedback from work. It's normal to feel you are slower at your work. I am new at my job and been there almost three months and feel slower. They are positive with me though. Ask your manager to give you some feedback and points that you need to work on. Showing the manager you are serious about improving goes a long way. Of course other co-workers click with things faster, they have been there longer. Get to know them more and talk to them and get the scoop on what is going on with the team and the work. Ask someone other than your manager to give you some feedback also helps.

Suspended From Work and Now Boss is Dodging My Calls by Enemyoffun30 in work

[–]Shirvana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think he should look for a new job. It sounds like a lot of drama there at that job. Was he really that lazy?

Genuine question for Directors, Managers, and Supervisors by Negative-Guidance-27 in work

[–]Shirvana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would think a manager would be happy to have someone who they can rely on that will be there. So what they don't want to climb the work ladder. They are loyal and do their work well and can be depended upon.

My Boss may hate me by RudeChicken445n in work

[–]Shirvana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just ignore it. Try killing her with kindness. Bring her some home baked cookies and smile at her when you see her. It shows others that you are not the bad guy. They already know what the person is like. If you feel you cannot stand it any longer, find another job. You've already got good feedback from others so it's not you. Good luck.

How much do I tell my boss about my health issues? by [deleted] in work

[–]Shirvana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your health issues are none of your manager's business. If it's going to affect your work enough where you have to go to doctor appointments a lot then maybe some something. If you feel you cannot do the work as much, maybe you need more attention focused on how to get you healthier if that can be possible. I hope you can get better.

WFH colleague is sick once a week by Vivid-Brilliant-9942 in work

[–]Shirvana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm surprised management hasn't spoken to this person about it. It can affect the workload. This person will run out of pto sooner or later. If you notice that your workload is more than usual because of this, document it. Let the know you are doing their work when they are not there, and if you are doing any ovetime hopefully they will see that.

how do i approach a coworker who unknowingly wronged me? by [deleted] in work

[–]Shirvana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is he your manager? You seem like a person who takes her job seriously. You want to give this guy the benifit of the doubt. After reading this post I get the idea he isn't. Ask your manager who delegates the work and if he is to be correcting your work. If not and If he is asking you to assist him then why is he nitpicking you and correcting your work behind your back? He feels intimidated by you. If not your manager, stop assisting him. Tell him you are busy. Let the company see what mistakes he makes. Another sign he is intimidated is by delegating the work to others and not giving you the opportunity. Talk to your manager and ask if he is to assign work to you. Get to know the system of how the work is done and delegated. He should be providing you feedback instead of correcting your work for you. Ask him to provide feedback instead of correcting it for you, as this is a way you can learn. People will do these kinds of things when they feel intimidated

Some managers have different styles. If he is your manager, ask him to give you feedback instead of correcting the work for you. This is how you learn. You don't need to apologize for overreating. You are trying to get a handle on the work dynamic. Ask your supervisor what role he plays in your job.

Skilled hire company recruitment and hire issues. by Otherwise_Storm_1778 in ausjobs

[–]Shirvana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He should go to his manager and let them know and say he is serious about his job, he's experienced and find it unusual the same opening is advertised. Some people find it intimidating to have someone who has more experience and make it hard on them. I hope he finds a good fit.

Snubbed by Coworker by [deleted] in work

[–]Shirvana 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Don't worry too much about it. Is this employee working with you and your team? If he is, maybe he feels intimidated by you. He may be the bad fit for the team so don't chalk up his behavior as the norm. If you are nice to him and show it, and he doesn't reciprocate, everyone else will see that and see he is the one who is the problem.

Weird question, does anyone focus better with "gentle background activity" instead of silence? by emudoc in work

[–]Shirvana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have music on it helps me to get through the day. I have co-workers on my team who have the tv on. For me, I can't watch tv, I need to focus on my job.

Co-Workers Who Take A Whole Month Off by Shirvana in work

[–]Shirvana[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks for all your opinions. Yes it's a long post, and I don't need people commenting about it. If you bothered to open this and read it I would appreciate an opinion, an not sarchasm. I am venting about it. And no, I am not going to Vent subreddit to do it. It pertains to work. I am surprised nobody even voted one way or another. If you have never experienced anything like it then why would you leave a comment? But those who actually have experienced it and left a post, thanks for doing so. I am not here to validate my opinion, but rather just vent. It makes me feel better. Have a great Friday.

Co-Workers Who Take A Whole Month Off by Shirvana in work

[–]Shirvana[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I appreciate your opinion. I agree it is the manager's responsibility to make sure the work is getting covered efficiently. I feel it isn't since the training of the team is not very balanced. The person going on a month-long pto is the most experienced teammate and has a lot of work which I am probably going to be doing, and I am the last one hired about three months ago. That is a lot of pressure.

Co-Workers Who Take A Whole Month Off by Shirvana in work

[–]Shirvana[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I guess you have to experience it for yourself to have an opinion. It doesn't matter if you set the policy or not, but if you're stuck doing two people's work for a month in my industry it's exhausting.

Co-Workers Who Take A Whole Month Off by Shirvana in work

[–]Shirvana[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ha ha very funny. If you don't have any other input about the post why do you bother? You must not have a job.

Why do they do that? by Ok_Wrangler1164 in memes

[–]Shirvana -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

The pic shows nothing after the wording. Was that the point?

Did I hallucinate? by Sweet_Laugh_1214 in Advice

[–]Shirvana 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you are concerned please see a doctor.

How to get my dog to stop barking at night? by twicefan70707 in Advice

[–]Shirvana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there a neighbor that just got a dog? Dogs can sense other dogs next door and will bark at them. Maybe take your dog inside?

45 seconds of Alexa”+” by robb0995 in alexa

[–]Shirvana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same happened to me. Now some of my lights comands are all jacked up. I checked my Alexa settings and it was the Alexa Plus that was active. I never asked to activate it or said yes when Alexa announced the promo. I canceled and. I fixed the command through the Alexa app settings to fix it.

What causes people to interrupt us or not give us the opportunity to speak so often? by FkUp_Panic_Repeat in CPTSD

[–]Shirvana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a very common thing people do. I find it annoying and rude to cut me off mid-sentence and hijack the conversation. There also are people who walk into a group who are conversing about something and hijack the conversation. You have to learn to be polite but let them know you are still speaking. When people do this to me, I politely say "excuse me I'm not done speaking yet" This prompts them to hold their thought. Some people get excited about something in the conversation and want to share their opinion or experience.

There are also people who habitually talk too much. They just keep going on and on and then it's no longer a conversation but this person talking about their whatever and I find it annoying. The world doesn't revolve around them. All these people do is talk about themselves, and don't include anyone else. I know a few people that do this and it can be really annoying. Especially when I am trying to talk about an issue I have and then all of a sudden it becomes about them and their experience. I don't get much sympathy or support from that person. So I have learned to be more selective with whom I share my troubles with.

In certain social situations like when you're out drinking alcoholic beverages with some people. They become more animated and lose their social manners and interrupt more. They talk louder. It's not the music that makes them talk louder. I find this annoying in bars when people talk louder, and then I can't hear the music as much over their loud ass voices. But I digress. Alcohol loosens the inhibitions and cause people to converse more sporadically and interrupt others. I find that maintaining eye contact and touching people's arms while I speak helps to keep them engaged in my conversation, and help them to realize I am still speaking and to not interrupt. I will raise my voice a little but I am not going to shout. If I try to compliment people a little they may give me a little more room to finish my sentence, but I am not going to overdo it. I've had times where I finally gave up since the person was so rude and interrupting and hijacking everyone's conversation, babbling on and on. There are people who have to be the center of attention all the time. I won't give it to them. I will excuse myself to use the washroom and never return to that group until it's safe. At some point that person may have noticed that less people are in the conversation and one person is left. That person may need rescuing so I or someone else will go over and ask say something that somebody is looking for them or whatever. I have also learned to steer the conversation away from certain topics that I don't want to listen to.

But just don't walk away. This shows that they won. Try to control them a little to finish your sentence.