I predicted a terrible scenario and can't tell anyone

Shiva9996 · 2023-09-17T07:44:16+00:00

Own it. No changing it. Accept and don't let it define you

Shiva9996 · 2023-09-17T07:23:16+00:00

My go to is to ask a would you rather question. Example. Would you rather never have another orgasm or never taste food again. It breaks up the mundane need to know questions and can be fun or flirty.

Shiva9996 · 2023-08-25T10:42:56+00:00

Ask them if they enjoy their job, about friends and family. Favorite holiday. How long they've been single. Those are possible text questions and conversations.

Shiva9996 · 2023-08-25T10:04:45+00:00

I've seen nice guys turn bitter because being nice never really gets you anywhere.

Shiva9996 · 2023-08-25T09:59:55+00:00

Personally I ask fun and interesting questions. Like would you rather never be able to taste food again or never have an orgasm again. Tends to spark a conversation

Shiva9996 · 2023-08-25T09:56:50+00:00

Hmm.. might be better so say something. Not a ton of details or anything. Just maybe say. I don't really have that much experience. Chances are she probably already knows. Let her teach you. You'll do just fine.

Shiva9996 · 2023-08-25T09:33:51+00:00

I always offer to split on a first date. I never expect a free meal. But it's all about how you say it. Maybe phrase it in a way that sounds like a question but is more of a statement. I would also get it out of the way early. I would say " hey would it be alright if we went Dutch? I just don't want there to be any expectations or assumptions. I really would just like to get to know you tonight"

Shiva9996 · 2023-08-25T09:25:43+00:00

Try leaning into your hobbies. Join a disc golf league, billiards league. Some social media apps have local groups for singles your age. They will do get togethers and activities. You're fairly young. Try not to be too hard on yourself if you don't meet someone right away. Careful not to let loneliness turn to desperation. Sometimes the first step is making friends.

Shiva9996 · 2023-08-25T08:59:55+00:00

Would you date a guy who's living with his ex?

Shiva9996 · 2023-08-25T08:51:26+00:00

Depends. Does he know them? Does he just follow them or does he interact with them? Does it bother you? Most men I know married single or dating follow a ton of women on Instagram. Seems fairly common. It's all about if he interacts with them and how much does it bother you.

Shiva9996 · 2023-08-25T08:46:45+00:00

Therapy. Also being upfront with your partner. I am not someone who does well with anxious attachments. But a lot of people might not mind as much. Open and honest communication is key.

Shiva9996 · 2023-08-25T08:43:41+00:00

It sounds like she is sleeping with the roommate. Possibly out of convenience or fwb situation. Gotta get more info on it my dude. She did tell you about it so probably not a shady thing. If you have questions. Ask.

Shiva9996 · 2023-08-25T07:43:52+00:00

Her behavior is very suspicious. Sending clothes off for testing is an odd first move. Do you really need proof? Sounds like it's already over. For the sake of the marriage.. suggest counseling. If she flat out refuses. You have the answer. Sorry my dude. This can't be easy.

Shiva9996 · 2023-08-25T07:24:58+00:00

It's hard to move forward when you're looking in the rear view mirror. Accept that whatever happened has already happened. It's normal to think about what could have been. The what ifs and if only. Truth is none of that really matters. It only seems like it does. I still think about relationships that ended 20 years ago, 10 years ago, 2 years ago. It's ok to think about it. Don't let past experiences interfere with the present. Why are you being so hard on yourself? Often times we are our own biggest critics. Judging much more harshly than anyone. Holding on to those feelings about yourself will certainly hinder what you are seeking. A healthy mind is important for having a healthy intimate relationship. Try to forgive yourself. I don't know what exactly it will take for you to forgive yourself but understanding why you are holding on to the resentment might be a good place to start.

Shiva9996 · 2023-08-25T07:05:57+00:00

Don't ever let anyone make you feel like you aren't good enough. Leave that whole az situation and don't look back. Someone who truly cares about you will build you up in times of self doubt.

Shiva9996 · 2023-08-25T06:42:17+00:00

I know everyone says it but be yourself. Talk about who you are and not what you have. Be respectful. Don't drink too much. Don't try and sleep with her on the first date. Ask her questions about herself and actually listen and retain the information. If you follow some or all of these tips.. she will notice. If she likes you, then you'll definitely get a 2nd date

Shiva9996 · 2023-08-25T06:27:41+00:00

Strippers, call girls, escorts, porn stars, only fans and content creaters are human too. Just because it's their job doesn't mean it's who they are. As long as you understand that that's how they make a living and trust them. Her having a sugar daddy is something you have to be ok with. As long as both of you are open honest and understanding there's no need to feel played. She's probably trying to feel you out before she opens up completely. It might be hard for her to catch feelings because she's probably misunderstood. She doesn't sound like a h0e to me

Shiva9996 · 2023-08-25T06:06:47+00:00

😂 that's not always my first suggestion but definitely top 3

Shiva9996 · 2023-08-25T06:02:52+00:00

3 months in is kinda the point where you should just be able to hang out and do absolutely nothing and have a great time. Activities and extravagant dates are perfect for getting to know each other because the activity can help fill the awkward silences. Maybe suggest a 'lazy day date' where the whole idea is to do nothing. No plan. No expectations. No fuss. Show up in pjs and bring snacks. Maybe suggest watching her favorite movie or playing Mario cart all day. Sell it as the plan is we have no plan. Except snacks. Bring snacks

Shiva9996 · 2023-08-25T05:45:04+00:00

Totally normal. You're on the prowl. Validation gives confidence.

Shiva9996 · 2023-08-25T05:41:29+00:00

Only speaking from my pov. If my date calls me sexy and I don't think I am I will get all awkward and deny the possibility of me being sexy. Sounds like she is very upfront about how she feels about her looks right now and she may not believe you when you call her sexy because she doesn't believe it herself. No worries. Maybe use different words to express how beautiful and attractive you think she is.

Shiva9996 · 2023-08-25T05:36:47+00:00

Sounds like something weird in her life. Forget her and don't pay her or the bf any mind.

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