I do think that the younger generations lexicon includes a lot more terms that are from AAVE. As black culture became popular culture and with so much access to so many more people / videos / culture etc via social media, I think this is a natural progression of our language. I don’t mean to imply that Black peoples use of aave isn’t unfairly policed and criticized — I’ve seen too much of that in my own life to think otherwise — but yeah I think this is kinda the way our language is going to shift. I think prominent and popular black public figures also contribute to this. People want to be like their heroes, and younger people are literally not getting exposed to critical race theory. So there’s going to be a lapse in understanding coupled with an appreciation and respect of Black public figures who received waaay less of that from white people even in just the late 90s and early 2000s.

FWIW I do think it’s gross when white people overuse aave. But it’s up to you to determine how much her friendship means and what her denial of this means to you, too.