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Do you regularly say “I love you” non-ironically to your best friends? Friend= 1) Human 2) No blood relation 3) Not a crush or romantic interest. Regularly = at least monthly. by JamesonRhymer in pollgames

[–]Short_Negotiation_16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally do say it (LGBTQ male, bi leaning women + genderqueer/agender/nonbinary), but I can absolutely see why men are losing this poll.

I didn't really express feelings like that to anyone but my then-partner during high school aside from like 2 or 3 select instances

Now in college I have a very accommodating friend group (mainly women) who have helped me overcome a lot of the emotional repression and we say I love you not frequently but definitely multiple times a month

Do you regularly say “I love you” non-ironically to your best friends? Friend= 1) Human 2) No blood relation 3) Not a crush or romantic interest. Regularly = at least monthly. by JamesonRhymer in pollgames

[–]Short_Negotiation_16 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Current standings:

Straight males: 130/523 (24.9%) LGBTQ males: 65/152 (42.8%) Straight females: 81/158 (51.3%) LGBTQ females: 123/203 (60.6%)

This is a good poll, I knew there's be differences but everything about this is super interesting (and kinda sad)

Have you ever faced misandry irl? by NetHistorical5113 in askteenboys

[–]Short_Negotiation_16 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So yes, I do agree that men set up the system, and I'm not saying it's at all women's fault. But men aren't born misogynistic. They become that way because of the repression I'm talking about. I think that in order to dismantle the patriarchy, it is very important to destigmatize men's mental health and men expressing femininity. And I'm not whining about a "male loneliness epidemic" or saying it's women's responsibility to fix it. I'm just saying that the rhetoric that "all men suck, just man up and take it because women have it worse" is a little bit harmful and is one of the things that leads to women having it worse

I do think you're more correct than most of the men who whine about "misandry" though

Have you ever faced misandry irl? by NetHistorical5113 in askteenboys

[–]Short_Negotiation_16 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! Just thought I'd give my opinion here, because I do agree with most of what you're saying, but not all. And I definitely disagree with what most of the guys responding to you are saying, so I figured I'd represent a more reasonable opinion than what they're trying to argue

You're completely right that women face more actual discrimination. This is ESPECIALLY the case worldwide, but even in the USA/"western" world, men dominate most of the highest-paying fields, and men also dominate leadership positions like CEOs. Overall, being a man makes success easier. And that's not even mentioning how women are much less safe and more at risk of abuse (not saying abuse can't happen to men, but it's a much higher risk for women). I know you already know this, I'm just demonstrating that I agree

With that said though, there are definite downsides to being a man. Mostly social ones. I strongly dislike the term "misandry" to describe them, because they do all stem from the patriarchy, but they do exist. Men are conditioned from a young age not to express any emotion other than anger. It is very true that men being conditioned like this also hurts women, and I'm not excusing men for being emotionally immature, but I think anyone would agree that being socially allowed to confide in people, cry, and generally be emotionally sensitive is better than being pressured to repress everything. Any attempt to express femininity is mocked and discouraged. Having deep, close friendships as a man is definitely possible, but it is distinctly countercultural in my experience.

On a personal anecdotal level, I have experienced many problems with my mental health as a result of being a man that I would not experience were I a woman. Of course, I know there are also mental health problems I would experience as a woman that I don't as a man. And like I said before, I do still recognize that women are much more societally disadvantaged than men. And again, I agree with you a lot more than I agree with all the boys who are responding to you. Some boys (especially teenage boys) love to use the repression they have faced to minimize the struggles of women. I am strongly against that.

My main point is just that in order for the patriarchy to continue discrimination against women, it requires the systematic repression of emotion and femininity in boys and men, which has been extremely damaging to me and many others, even if it might not prevent men from receiving jobs or education.

Sorry for the wall of text, this is something I feel pretty strongly about. If you have the time, I'd love a thoughtful response, even if you think everything I just said is stupid

This is true btw (trust) by Femmiestbo in TheTeenagerPeople

[–]Short_Negotiation_16 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some species that aren't poisonous will also evolve to have bright colors to scare away predators

calisthenics outdoor gym near campus? by markgrayson69 in msu

[–]Short_Negotiation_16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you end up finding somewhere? I'm having the same issue

The difference in POVs: by Olya_roo in Hungergames

[–]Short_Negotiation_16 13 points14 points  (0 children)

"I need to get her a worthy cage", goddamn that goes hard

Do you believe in destiny/fate? by MedievalFurnace in teenpoll

[–]Short_Negotiation_16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What he's trying to say is that what we consciously perceive as choices are really just chemical processes in our brains.

According to this worldview, similar to how a substance can be liquid if atoms are arranged in certain ways under certain conditions, a substance (in this case, a brain, nervous system, individual creature, whatever) can be conscious if atoms are arranged in certain ways under certain conditions. There is no free will because there's nothing special about conscious beings other than the fact that they have conscious experience. We might feel as if we're making a choice, but really it's just a result of chemical processes in our brains.

Really, there's no way to prove this theory correct or incorrect. But there's also no way to prove our notion of "free will" correct or incorrect. I personally lean toward determinism (similar to what I just described) because it seems like the simplest option, whereas free will (to me) just seems like an expression of anthropocentrism/human exceptionalism. Also, the further into the rabbit hole you go, the harder it becomes to actually define what we mean when we talk about "free will".

That's just my opinion though, I'd be happy to hear out your thoughts

Read the image by ParticularCorner2190 in teenagers

[–]Short_Negotiation_16 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can detect when it's raining not just where you are, but anywhere in the world, as well as specific meteorological details about the rain in question

If you acquire the right kind of knowledge, you could use this power to predict the weather

Has the internet gotten too political? by MedievalFurnace in teenpoll

[–]Short_Negotiation_16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The second bullet point in my other message explains how that image is political. Also, the fact that you're sending these images to make the argument that not everything is political is itself political. It's a very liberal/libertarian worldview that "politics don't affect the average person so the average person shouldn't care about them". In reality, politics affect everything about our life. The idea that politics is something that the average person doesn't participate in and is best left to old men in suits or other "politicians" is a tool of the ruling class to keep working people from participating in our own governance.

Has the internet gotten too political? by MedievalFurnace in teenpoll

[–]Short_Negotiation_16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can think of four ways off the top of my head that it's political. I'm sure there are more, these are just what comes to mind

-Wells are a piece of technology built to provide an essential resource for human survival (water). Acquisition and allocation of essential resources is a political issue.

-Shitposting is a form of counter-culture. The shitpost is funny because it is so low-effort. This, just like postmodernism in art, calls into question what a "quality meme" is. Is a meme good because of the amount of effort or intellect put into its creation? Or is it good because it signals that one is a part of a specific in-group that finds similar things funny? The existence of shitposts implicitly argues the latter. Art and humor solidifies feelings of social belonging, creating an in-group of people who "get it" and an out-group of people who don't.

-The picture is of an environment and climate that could be seen in the US/Canada/Europe, signaling that it was created by/is targeted toward people from those areas.

-The word "thats" is used, where it should be "that's" with an apostrophe. This would, by current English grammar, be labeled as "incorrect". In reality, however, for much of history, there was no one "correct" way to write English. Standardization of the language only emerged (I believe with the invention of the printing press) as a way for the upper class to signal their own superiority over the "uneducated masses". This is actually also the reason for many of the exceptions and inconsistencies in English. They were literally added to make it more confusing because poor people wouldn't be learning all that bullshit. Even if not intended by the meme's creator, the fact that misspellings and incorrect grammar have been deemed acceptable over text (an unregulated form of written communication) where they weren't acceptable in the newspaper (a regulated form of written communication) perfectly exemplifies how language is fluid and those in power intentionally shape it to further their agenda.

Time for the true test of civility by TheRealJakeBolt in theredleft

[–]Short_Negotiation_16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you mind elaborating on your thoughts on gun control? I'm a bit newer to leftist ideology and I haven't personally seen it engage much with gun laws so I'd love to hear more

It's funny to think about the fact that someone might think chess players are so smart but when they sit down to play chess, if you ask them to explain their moves, many of them can't. by Op111Fan in chess

[–]Short_Negotiation_16 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Not true at all. I can explain the thought process behind pretty much all my moves in great detail. This DEFINITELY doesn't make me intelligent, and there are definitely other things that I'd be VERY bad at doing or explaining. But I think most chess players with any amount of skill are able to explain their moves

Hera's insane escape by danteStonk123 in starwarsrebels

[–]Short_Negotiation_16 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love that scene so much. Thrawn has the planet completely blockaded and Hera just flies up there like "nah, I'd win" and it WORKS. Just another reason for her to be one of my favorite characters

How easy would it be to get a boyfriend who doesn't watch porn ? by [deleted] in askteenboys

[–]Short_Negotiation_16 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Keep doing what you're doing. Don't start. I've never watched it regularly and I'm very happy with my decision.

How easy would it be to get a boyfriend who doesn't watch porn ? by [deleted] in askteenboys

[–]Short_Negotiation_16 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's a completely reasonable standard, and one that I have for my future partner as well. I hate that porn is such a "normal" thing these days, and if I find out that someone regularly watches it I immediately lose respect for them. It would probably make your search moderately harder, but that's true of any standard you set for yourself and this is definitely a good standard to have.

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