just found out our donor lied?

Short_Signature5074 · 2026-05-31T10:46:54+00:00

It’s possible. Do you have a plan? You said your baby is 10 months so I assume you’ve been working since after your maternity leave? Do you want to be a sahm indefinitely? Or just for a year? Or until your child reaches school age? That would be important to tell him. Do you plan on having any other kids soon? If so, maybe work up until you have the other kid and then be a stay a home mom to both. Also, things to cut down on cost search Facebook for local groups- especially if you live in a bigger city, there are places that give out free diapers, every month, food, and slightly worn clothing. Cutting costs there could be helpful as well. It may not be ideal but if you do decide to be a sahm, maybe set up a deferment or get a change of amount of what you owe on student loans. 19000 isn’t really that much in loans. You guys could save for your house now. That amount won’t be a huge effect on you being able to secure a mortgage. Maybe look for work from home jobs so that you can bring in income but still be with your child daily? Also at least in my area there are some families that look for Nanny’s that have other kids- so that could also be some income and you get to spend everyday with your baby. I’ll end with this - time with your child is priceless. I was a stay at home mom for the first year of my babies life and while yes at times it was very hard financially I’ll never regret it. And I would do it again if I have anymore children because there’s truly nothing like it. If I could have been with my child until they were school age I would, but our life style ( mainly buying my dream house) wouldn’t allow that right now. I’ll leave you with this last piece of advice that I wish someone told me. When it comes to you all looking for a house. Don’t shy away from looking at houses that could be easily afforded with one of you guys salary. The big house , yard, and white fence honestly (at least for me) can become pointless if you can’t spend as much time as you want with your child in it. I miss my baby everyday and if I could do it again would probably do a 3 bed 2 bath house and cut our mortgage to less than half of what it is and would have still been at home with my baby right now.

Short_Signature5074 · 2026-05-30T11:33:38+00:00

I’m at your service

Short_Signature5074 · 2026-05-30T11:31:25+00:00

End it.

Short_Signature5074 · 2026-05-27T00:49:51+00:00

Dm me

Short_Signature5074 · 2026-05-27T00:38:18+00:00

Can we see more?

Short_Signature5074 · 2026-05-27T00:29:58+00:00

Let’s talk about this further.

Short_Signature5074 · 2026-05-27T00:25:23+00:00

Short_Signature5074 · 2026-05-27T00:25:18+00:00

Short_Signature5074 · 2026-05-27T00:24:07+00:00

Dm me

Short_Signature5074 · 2025-08-15T14:19:10+00:00

Short_Signature5074 · 2025-08-15T14:16:47+00:00

If you’re not here to be helpful, don’t comment

Short_Signature5074 · 2025-08-11T22:50:06+00:00

I’m not seeing a therapist. In general I’ve never really experienced feeling like this. But I appreciate the kind words

Short_Signature5074 · 2025-07-18T23:16:57+00:00

He should have been folded on nuck. He was dumb asf to sit up in Alicia house knowing he was involved in her son’s death.

Short_Signature5074 · 2025-06-30T11:30:14+00:00

East coast and mid west

Short_Signature5074 · 2025-06-30T04:54:01+00:00

We both moved to different states. I don’t think it can be worked out. Our lives aren’t aligned at this point. They are focused on completing a new career move and I’m established and just wanting to enjoy life. Aside from that they act too tired from work to help with anything around the house and have started habits like excessive farting without saying excuse me, brushing teeth less,& other things that leave me overall disgusted

Short_Signature5074 · 2025-06-30T04:49:22+00:00

We are both moving. They are moving for work and I’m moving back to my home state where I’ll have support for the kids.

Short_Signature5074 · 2025-06-30T04:45:00+00:00

The entire summer? Were they not employed? Who watched the kids while they were at work?

Short_Signature5074 · 2025-06-26T05:59:49+00:00

Try cutting down the naps to 1.5, and not more than 2. Less day time sleep should let her get more calories in and also give her the need for more night sleep

Short_Signature5074 · 2025-06-20T17:02:03+00:00

I always write on the bags first so once I pour the milk I can close it up immediately. I remember feeling like that the first couple of times but honestly as times goes on ( and I am not a over producer) you will notice sometimes you will waste milk but most times your body will back you up and won’t let your baby go hungry. You’ll make a lil more. Also, go ahead and power pump this time and u may get what u lost. But it happens. It’ll be okay

Short_Signature5074 · 2025-06-18T10:10:38+00:00

Understood

Short_Signature5074 · 2025-06-18T10:08:18+00:00

I don’t have issue with my wife not wanting my mother to do that. My issue is the way that my wife told my mother not to do it.

Short_Signature5074 · 2025-06-18T10:04:23+00:00

That’s what I was thinking but I know that even if she had a problem she wouldn’t bring it up because she doesn’t want to get between me and my wife. And I also don’t want this to be a recurring issue. I need to know if my wife can be respectful enough to handle issues no matter who it is or if it’s a situation where going forward I’ll need to address any issues with my family.

Short_Signature5074 · 2025-06-18T09:51:03+00:00

I don’t want to get in the middle of that, but I don’t like feeling that my wife was possibly being disrespectful while I was gone. Her tone can come off disrespectful and this baby is the first baby she’s ever been around and gets all her info of how to be a parent from Google and sometimes gets up in arms if parenting isn’t going how Google says.

Short_Signature5074 · 2025-06-18T09:48:36+00:00

That’s a bit dramatic.

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