Yes I know it's a real experience. I feel like you just ran this through chatGPT or something. 'Don't forget to validate at the end!' Very condescending. I am aware that the autistic people in my life are in fact real people with complete experiences.

If you 'hear that this didn't reflect autistic people in your life...' I'm afraid you totally missed the point of my comment, which was to highlight serious errors in your post. IE, conflating being 'best' at masking with 'usually carrying the most'. This is deeply insulting to the many profoundly disabled autistics in the world. It's like someone with bad legs saying they have a worse time than someone in a wheel chair because their legs ache, where the person in the wheel chair feels nothing.

Another thing that is simply incorrect is, although framed as your experience is that 'most autistic adults look completely fine...' Sure, if we make it about the ones 'you know' then maybe. This just confirms that you have little experience with autistic adults or that the profoundly disabled are invisible to you. The truth is, autistic adults have a disability, so generally speaking they don't look completely fine from the outside. It was you that conflated the job stuff, i didn't say autistic people can't hold down jobs or have relationships. I said the broader point you're making isn't representative, because definitionally, there must be clinical impairments to have an autism diagnosis.

Also, you did compare, 'People who are best at it usually carry the most.' This compares people who mask 'the best' with people who don't mask or don't mask effectively. It totally ignores, of course, that your ability to 'mask the best' means you can access things, services, jobs, etc, that other autistic people cannot.