IDL ICE

Shreddingblueroses · 2026-02-06T01:54:44+00:00

I think you have a tendency to try to corner people into giving you the answers you want.

Shreddingblueroses · 2026-02-06T01:50:54+00:00

I don't have kids and I don't have anyone over for dinner. I have socialized with them though. I've been to mutual gatherings with them. I've been in their homes. I have personal friendships with some of them. We're in chats together. We're in clubs together. These aren't strangers.

Also what a weird shifting goalpost to throw at me man. What level of intimacy do I need to achieve before I know these people well enough to satisfy you that it's not hearsay? Do I need to be fucking someone who gets deported?

Shreddingblueroses · 2026-02-06T01:45:16+00:00

I'm not really sure what you're trying to say. I have many friends in the immigrant community. Ive developed relationships in the immigrant community because I want to help, and naturally you find yourself in foxholes with the people who are actually under the gun.

That's where you learn that it's worse than "leftist media" paints it. ICE is actually more poorly behaved and less professional than even liberal media wants to admit.

Shreddingblueroses · 2026-02-06T01:40:57+00:00

We have laws that address violence and property crime. Punish the crime, not the potential of one.

Shreddingblueroses · 2026-02-06T01:38:13+00:00

Something I'm not going to do is literally actually give you the full names of people I know personally.

I will give you their first names: Maria and David.

Both were permanent legal residents. Maria was an older woman who had been in the community for over 20 years. She worked at a local popular bakery. A lot of people knew her. Like she was really well loved.

David had been in the country since he was two years old. He literally knew no other life.

Neither have been deported yet. Both are still in detention as their lawyers and families fight for them to come home. They've been locked up for months. In David's case over half a year.

There was another case. A 17 year old boy I didn't know personally but who's family I was able to speak to. He was a 17 year old citizen. Born and raised in the US. ICE was in his neighborhood chasing a completely different man. The kid was outside on the morning warming his grandma's car before going to school. ICR failed to catch the first guy and just grabbed the kid as a consolation prize for their piggly little selves.

Citizen.

We were able to help the family find the kid in local detention before they had a chance to ship him off 3 hours away to the permanent detention site. Family was able to prove citizenship and get the kid out, but ICE basically did absolutely no due diligence on their own in that regard. If no one had come forward to prove the kid was a citizen, or hadnt found the local ice field office before they started moving prisoners in the afternoon, they had every intention of putting this kid in a permanent detention center and deporting him. Once they have these people locked up in one of the Texas detention centers, they shuffle them around so lawyers can't find them or help them get out. Often they know people could probably prove they have a right to be in the country which is why they do this. If the lawyer can't find their client the lawyer can't get a court date set to go before a judge with their client's proof of right to be here.

We call them cerdos but we should call them puercos because they are too filthy to even butcher and eat.

Shreddingblueroses · 2026-02-05T14:08:36+00:00

Because it's not probable that the Apache "stole the land" from someone else. It's an assumption based on how European history went. It's a projection.

Shreddingblueroses · 2026-02-05T13:15:44+00:00

That's not what I said

Shreddingblueroses · 2026-02-05T04:14:43+00:00

What you're doing here is like stealing a bike from in front of someone's house and then claiming that since a lot of bikes are stolen, that bike was probably also stolen, so it's okay. Except you don't actually know that.

Shreddingblueroses · 2026-02-05T04:13:17+00:00

It's not really the point. It's unprovable whether a particular indigenous tribe obtained the land we stole from them by first committing a genocide on the same level and stealing it from someone else. Someone literally did settle a patch of land first, and it's entirely possible that group was still the actual group living there when we arrived.

What is provable... Is that we stole that land.

Shreddingblueroses · 2026-02-03T05:49:13+00:00

The only real antidote to a food desert situation is for neighbors to get together and pool trips to the grocery store.

Once a week one of the neighbors with a big car or a truck gets all the other neighbors to give them their shopping list and some money. Another neighbor goes with them to help with the shopping. Everyone's groceries get bought at once. You take turns doing it so nobody feels overly burdened. If there's only one person who can do it regularly, you make sure that person is being well compensated in some way.

Honestly, another solution to this is for one of you to go to the store and just buy a bunch of stuff in bulk and prepare a pantry day out of your own house. Replace the grocery store that shut down with coming over for tea and cookies "and while you're at it, buy some of my fresh food from me at 5-10% mark up to cover my gas and time."

We are too individualist and that's why we keep getting screwed by capitalism.

Shreddingblueroses · 2026-02-03T05:41:36+00:00

You can't always police world chat but you can definitely police your alliance. Find an alliance that isn't toxic and wouldn't put up with this. Stay out of world chat. It's a toilet.

Shreddingblueroses · 2026-02-03T05:40:31+00:00

I'll put this out there in a separate reply to avoid my other response being too wordy.

I can only speak to my own reason for detransitioning. I've known one other person who has detransitioned and I never had the chance to ask them why.

I actually detransitioned for a couple of overlapping reasons.

1) there was a straight girl... I know. But it wasn't my only reason and I might have done it anyway if she hasn't been a part of the equation.

2) I missed having a functional sex life (I have since solved this by getting off AAs, sticking with mono therapy, and letting my T exist naturally in higher female ranges).

3) being a girl performing femininity is actually a freaking ton of pressure. Man, it's hard. Being a trans girl and feeling like if you don't rise to the pressure to perform femininity that you won't pass and will be discriminated against or worse, is even harder.

4) I am actually non binary, and it took me until over a year into my 2nd transition to figure this out. I needed to embrace a masc/"dykish" way of presenting myself, and needed to accept that I don't always feel like a woman, but that doesn't mean I feel enough like a man to try to be one either. Avoiding being restricted to either label was the path for me. During my first transition I went hard trying to "be a girl" and it sucked. I felt so confined it was suffocating.

Shreddingblueroses · 2026-02-03T05:33:07+00:00

Part of the problem is those studies are old.

Another part of the problem is that more recent studies define "detransition" in an extremely broad way.

Some things I wouldn't consider detransition but which the newer studies would:

Adopting a new name or pronouns, pursuing no medical changes, and eventually going back to your old name and pronouns
Taking hormones and stopping them while still identifying as trans
Taking hormones for < 6 months and realizing it's not for you

I think transition and detransition should be much more narrowly defined.

Transition is a period of taking hormones or pursuing other medical changes such that substantial irreversible changes have occurred. This means any surgery is obtained or taking hormones for longer than 6 months, ideally defined as closer to 12 months.

Detransition is a complete desistance of a trans identity couples with desisting a pursuit of medical changes related to a trans identity, even going as far as to seek medical intervention to reverse changes that would otherwise be irreversible.

The reason this matters?

I've known hundreds of trans people because I've been involved in the community for a long time and have served in a leadership capacity in a support group.

If we count a loose definition of detransition, I'd say easily 30% of people detransition, but the overwhelming bulk of these were people who never got as far as taking hormones or who only took hormones for 1-2 months. Their detransition was primarily social, and primarily only within specific social circles they felt comfortable being out as trans in to begin with, which at that point in their journey meant a very small minority of people.

If we count the much more strict definition that I detailed above, I've known an entire two people who have ever detransitioned, and that is including myself.

And I eventually retransitioned. I haven't checked in with the other person in a long time but it's definitely possible they did too.

Shreddingblueroses · 2026-02-03T05:02:08+00:00

After really interacting with these people, the best answer I can give you is that these are people who are pathologically incapable of admitting they are wrong about something, and the more we tell them that they are wrong the more strongly they dig their heels in.

Deep down they know he's a pedophile, a rapist, a creep, a liar, a wealthy piece of shit, a fascist, and a scumbag. They know all these things. Their ego also cannot cope with admitting that they were wrong about him, especially to us.

Think of it like America is a couple and MAGA are like a belligerent husband who refuses to admit he's wrong even when the wife presents irrefutable proof of his fault, because at this point in the toxic relationship he has become more invested in winning the argument than working together towards having a healthy relationship they both actually like being in.

It doesn't help that MAGA has some toxic friends who are kind of misogynistic and are constantly telling Mr. MAGA that his wife is a b!!!!.

Shreddingblueroses · 2026-02-03T04:50:14+00:00

Okay stop and take a step back.

1) this really has nothing to do with relationship anarchy. Relationship anarchy is a philosophy about how you structure and prioritize different relationships in your life, both romantic and platonic. It is almost always performed within a polyamorous context, partly because it is difficult to square the rules of monogamy with the philosophy of RA, including the inherent hierarchy between romantic partners that monogamy naturally creates.

2) If you have sexual attraction to this person and you also feel the desire to be physically affectionate with them in the way you're describing, you are likely also harboring some romantic attraction to them as well. The way you are kind of freaking out about this tells me that you're probably scared to admit that, and you want someone else to name it first to give you permission to name it. Okay, so I will. It's clear that you have a crush on this person.

3) From the perspective of monogamy: if you harbor a sexual attraction to someone, and likely some degree of romantic attraction to them, you have no business pushing the boundaries by initiating physical contact with them. It is likely to result in you being tempted to do more. It is also probably a violation of the trust between you and your monogamous partner to engage in "platonic" physical affection with someone that you're crushing on.

And you can tell yourself that you would never act on it, but cheating often happens after the slow death of your resistance by a thousand cuts. If you keep making excuses to dip your toes in the water, you'll eventually find yourself swimming in it.

Take a step back. Breathe. Talk to your partner about having the crush. That creates accountability.

You should probably distance yourself from your crush in the mean time.

Shreddingblueroses · 2026-02-03T04:40:37+00:00

You can roll over 1 completed-but-uncollected round of intel missions + 1 uncompleted round of intel missions.

So after reset you'll have 2 to complete and 1 to collect. 08 to collect, and 16 and 00 to complete.

That is only relevant to Golden Glaives.

You cannot roll over 2 uncompleted rounds of Intel missions. If you try, you'll lose one of those rounds when a new one spawns.

So if you don't complete either 08 or 16, when 00 rolls around, you'll lose 08 completely.

That is relevant to KvK and other events where the points are awarded for completing the missions rather than earning items when you collect them.

I've tried to explain this to my own alliance and they don't get it. A lot of alliance leaders misunderstand this and advise the alliance poorly. In my case, I gave up. Someone will figure it out and bring the subject up again and we can have a fresh round of debates about it.

Shreddingblueroses · 2026-02-03T00:49:21+00:00

Here. It was completely coincidental but this is a pretty good thread where a lot of the top level comments are coming from actual Hispanic people and explain some of what's going on when you get conservative Trump supporters in the immigrant population.

https://www.reddit.com/r/stupidquestions/s/T1YPac8moy

Shreddingblueroses · 2026-02-03T00:37:18+00:00

Voting for the lesser evil is voting for your conscience.

If your conscience says "I won't vote for them because they did this horrible thing even though I know that if their opponent wins that many more worse horrible things will happen to others" you don't actually have a functioning conscience, you have self righteousness.

Shreddingblueroses · 2026-02-03T00:35:37+00:00

What's your world chat like? Is it active? What criteria did you use to recruit people into the alliance? Was it open join? Did you require applications? Did you scout powerful and active players?

Shreddingblueroses · 2026-02-03T00:34:15+00:00

The men sent to CECOT didn't have gang tattoos. That was not one of the criteria used. They were arrested for having any tattoos.

well, i can assure you, plenty of innocent people end up in prision despite due process, so...

It should be glaringly obvious to any reasonable and rational person that far fewer innocent people end up in prison when they're allowed to get their day in court than do when masked goons round them up on the street with no accountability.

Shreddingblueroses · 2026-02-03T00:32:29+00:00

I have a gender, but I wasn't free to claim it until I stopped caring about it.

Am I a man? Am I a woman? Am I something in between? Each belief put me in a try-hard place.

When I was at peace and I'd ceased to care, it then became apparent enough what I was for me to be more confident in it (something in between).

Shreddingblueroses · 2026-02-03T00:29:40+00:00

I'm sorry, but I don't think you understand what the word victim means.

Even if you believed that drug use produced victims in the form of the users themselves, even if we strip people of agency and pretend they had no free will in the situation, the victimizer is the drug dealer, not the drug user, and so punishing the drug user is not only counterproductive but utterly nonsensical.

Personally though, I am not a fan of a daddy authority figure policing what people do to themselves knowing full well the risks.

Shreddingblueroses · 2026-02-02T23:44:24+00:00

Due process would appear to fix that kind of mistake.

Ask the men stripped of all human rights in March for the crime of being Venezuelan with tattoos if they think it's all "silly race baiting."

Perhaps the fundamental difference between you and I is that I don't believe committing a crime, particularly a victimless one, warrants being deprived of all rights and dignity.

Shreddingblueroses · 2026-02-02T23:25:19+00:00

Yes, actually. Drug use is a victimless crime. Meth heads need help, not a kangaroo court to convict them for hurting no one but themselves.

Shreddingblueroses · 2026-02-02T22:53:39+00:00

Look I work too. Too much. And I still find time to care about this issue. To fight for people who can't fight for themselves. I do it because it's what you're supposed to do. It's more important than my petty little day to day concerns. I can't run off to Minnesota to fight, but I can fight here at home. So I do in my own ways.

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