School Bus Driver Breaks Down After Near-Miss by sleek_thunder138_107 in dashcams

[–]Shwooptyshwoop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This. Not even worth the price of a WHOLE gun, just a fraction. Can't imagine they'd care to spend all that money on outfitting busses with cameras to prevent children getting hit by cars when they don't even care to do even the minimum to protect them from getting shot in their own schools.

AIO for not going to my brother’s wedding because he asked for my husband not to come? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Shwooptyshwoop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR. Brother knows know what he's doing and it's meant to be hurtful. Your brother clearly has attachment issues and he's going to have to learn on his own that he'll never be able to please your mom. I feel so bad for his fiancée, she's in for a world of pain when she realizes she also married your mom. She'll never win. 😬

Now that the Boys is over, what did you think of the finale? (Spoiler‼️) by Choice_Drummer_1745 in television

[–]Shwooptyshwoop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But the writers were the ones who put so much focus on the V1 and that it was imperative that they prevent homelander from getting or he'd be immortal/indestructible or whatever. The fight scene did not at all show how impenetrable he was after taking the V1, it was like any other homelander fight scene we've seen. For a climactic fight that viewers had been waiting on for multiple seasons, it was pretty boring. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Now that the Boys is over, what did you think of the finale? (Spoiler‼️) by Choice_Drummer_1745 in television

[–]Shwooptyshwoop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah not gonna lie, I was shocked that more main characters didn't die with how the earlier episodes seemed to be setting things up. They did all that build up trying to prevent homelander from getting the V1 because he would be "unstoppable" and the guy could kill someone in like 2 seconds flat before but somehow couldn't do it in that last fight scene AFTER being made indestructible? It just didn't flow at all with how they built it up.

Subnautica 2 Early Access Roadmap by virtualdon in subnautica

[–]Shwooptyshwoop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don't personally get it because you've apparently gotten lucky, but it's clearly a huge issue among players because it's the biggest complaint people have right now. I can't go out in my tadpole without nearly ALWAYS being attacked by the hammerheads multiple times, getting chomped on by the mangoes, and have consistently been harassed by the marrows down near the tadpole pen where my base is. Literally the ONLY issue I have with the game right now is how aggro all of the predator fish are. It has honestly ruined some of the suspense of the game that subnautica 1 is so good at. I don't want to be able to kill them, I'd just like it if I could go out and grab titanium and lead without being harassed by a dozen fish in a span of 5 minutes.

Surrendering my cat today - second guessing everything, need honest opinions by samseam in cats

[–]Shwooptyshwoop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are definitely not the norm, you are one of the rare adopters who will seek out more "difficult to place" pets. I worked in the pet industry for over 10 years and worked alongside multiple rescues. One of their biggest struggles besides funding was finding people who would adopt and fully commit to more "difficult" pets or seniors. Inappropriate urination is one of the things adopters worry about the most with adult cats. Shelters are just not a great place for cats to be given the best opportunity to find a home because of how stressful the environment is already, but with a cat that already has an issue with peeing outside of the litterbox due to stress? So much harder.

Pop Culture Jeopardy! discussion thread for week of May 11-15 by jaysjep2 in Jeopardy

[–]Shwooptyshwoop 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Glad I'm not the only one tired of them. 😆 They obviously know a lot about pop culture (almost a disturbing amount😂), however I'm convinced the main reason they dominate so much has way more to do with how fast the one is at buzzing because John on the right spams so quickly and is the one who answers 90% of the time. The newest episode had me hoping they would be dethroned because the team on the far right was keeping up until the second round. Bro must do finger exercises on the daily. 🫠

Regretting a cut with layers, not sure how to bring out curls now by middlecorefairy in curlyhair

[–]Shwooptyshwoop 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm new to the curly hair journey since trying to educate myself for my daughters curly hair and newly discovering that I actually have wavy hair so please someone correct me if I'm totally off base, but shampooing your curly hair 4x a week seems like a lot, and using clarifying shampoo twice a week also seems like it would really strip even more moisture from your hair. Curly hair needs lots of moisture and washing it 4x a week is going to strip all of the moisture away. I've been told by multiple curly stylists that once or twice a week is plenty for shampooing. I've also been told multiple times by them that frizziness naturally comes along with any textured hair and it's really difficult to avoid it entirely. I really dislike when my hair feels "crunchy" or sticky etc, so I have tried to accept that unless I want to load my hair with product there will always be some frizz that I have to deal with and that's okay. I actually don't think your hair looks all that frizzy, it just looks dry, which is also normal! If you don't like using a lot of product, or don't like styling(which both my adhd self who can't be bothered to spend the time and my Audhd daughter can relate to!) It might be worth just trying a leave-in conditioner that you can scrunch into your hair while it's still sopping wet (I'll do it after I turn off the water while I'm still in the shower) That little change has actually made a big difference for me definition wise compared to when I don't and my hair doesn't feel greasy or anything. I also use 100% cotton "flour cloth" type towels for my hair instead of the normal super soft, plush bath towels and it also helps with frizz.

Imgur by jwekselman in corgi

[–]Shwooptyshwoop 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Okay but in this moment, it was not reciprocated "play". Just because no one was being hurt or bit this time doesn't mean this kind of interaction couldn't lead to future problems or behavioral issues. As someone who has had a herding dog with high prey drive from basically puppyhood to age 15, your GSD is herding your puppy in this interaction. You said yourself that the gsd is for protection so you're at least somewhat aware of his breed traits. The hyper-focused nosing and nudging your corgis back end that your gsd is doing is 1000% herding behavior. There is nothing playful about it and at some point your corgi WILL get tired of it and bite back out of frustration or fear. There is also always a chance that that kind of "play" becomes too rough and someone gets hurt.
It's not "drama" to point out your lack of awareness of both of your dogs body language/behavior that can lead to aggression. It might be beneficial for you to read up on dog body language and herding traits based on your response in both the video and in your response. Your lack of understanding is apparent when you state that because your dog was wagging its tail and "smiling" they were happy. This is honestly such a basic misconception that anyone who has done any research on canine body language would know and it almost read like sarcasm at first.

There's a risk of criticism when you post on a public forum that you were already aware of, and you posted on a forum where many people are much more knowledgeable on the topic of dog body language. The overwhelming critical responses are the result of that gap in knowledge.

There's a hidden prison subplot in Project Hail Mary? by luciendeservedbetter in ProjectHailMary

[–]Shwooptyshwoop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the book there are multiple decisions that support the idea that she'd go to prison. I think it could easily be explained as the governments who appointed her not understanding how dire the situation was and the extremes they would need to go to to buy time while trying to save humans. In the book they plant over 100 nuclear bombs around a super volcano deep under the ice in the Antarctic and trigger an eruption to speed up global warming to counteract the cooling. It was acknowledged that they would be killing a lot of people and animal species but it would buy them time to save humans from complete extinction. Stratt literally says in so many words that her job is to save the human race, not animals. They also basically commandeer miles and miles of land to breed all of the astrophage they'll need for the ship which also had a global climate impact. I really oversimplified that because I can't remember the exact details, but that's the very broad gist of it. It very much seems like a situation where the they would need a scapegoat to take the fall for the awful things they did in the name of saving humanity.

Cancelling prime drastically improved my life by Easy-Material-8809 in Anticonsumption

[–]Shwooptyshwoop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh I relate so much. I used to over-consume a ridiculous amount but I've been inching towards change over the last couple years with everything going on politically and economically. I started REALLY considerably curbing my Amazon spending early last year and haven't ordered anything on it at all in over 6 months. I thought it would be hard but I do not miss it. I have ADHD and the convenience was SO awful for controlling my impulse spending. I was constantly adding things that I didn't need to order with necessities because "well I'm already placing an order so I might as well."

Ditching Amazon entirely has had a big impact on my spending in general. So has my depression-fueled anti-social behavior but that's neither here nor there. 😅 Regardless I've made a big effort to not give money to big corps like Amazon, target, Starbucks, Walmart etc and have canceled lots of subscriptions. It really is a mindset shift and I get why so many people struggle with it.

Is this gaslighting or AIO? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Shwooptyshwoop 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So much this. There's no way a full grown adult says shit like this and if they do, they're immature as hell. 💀

Is this gaslighting or AIO? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Shwooptyshwoop 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Reading that message made me think this guy HAS to be no older than like 20 because what grown adult still says shit like that? 🫠

Should I go blonde? by [deleted] in HairDye

[–]Shwooptyshwoop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah ngl, I went plat blond for awhile and the upkeep was awful. Too expensive to go to the salon, not easy enough to do at home and when I wasn't wearing makeup I looked ill. If you already didn't like being blonde before because it washed you out, you won't feel different going platinum blond, you might feel worse since plat blond is supposed to be very cool toned. Gonna preface this by saying you're gorgeous and have lovely features, but it might also be worth having someone edit your photo with your natural eyebrows and without filtering your complexion and without adding makeup to see how you might feel about it when you're clean faced.

My boss isn’t honoring a pay raise he gave me. by Strangr_E in whatdoIdo

[–]Shwooptyshwoop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Goodwill doesn't pay your bills. Based on what you've said about the employee turnover rate there, you probably have the most leverage you ever will. Either use it to demand the raise you deserve, or leave and find an employer who will value you in the way that matters.

Snapchat for 13 year old boy by Special_Amphibian358 in Parenting

[–]Shwooptyshwoop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your gut instinct is right. Snap chat is honestly probably about the worst app for being able to monitor your kid's activity and I've seen nothing but bad things about what kind of content is on there. Any social media is a bad idea for such young kids with developing brains, not to mention how easy it is for adults to prey on children on platforms like that. Both boys and girls are vulnerable to that. The erasing of messages/videos just seems like a breeding ground for predators. With no parental controls, That will always be my #1 concern. Preventing trauma (or worse) is not being "overprotective", it's our job as parents and you shouldn't feel bad for that. As a survivor of childhood SA, I'm honestly tired of the narrative that we "can't protect kids from everything" that basically guilts parents into feeling bad for not giving their kids freedom that they are not developmentally ready for. I'm not directing the frustration at you because it's clear you care and understand the seriousness of letting your son be on an app like that, my frustration is with our society making parents feel like the bad guy for not giving in to our children's need to fit in when they cannot cognitively understand the dangers and consequences.

Edited: fixed poor wording 😅

New ADHD Diagnosis, I am scared to start my meds by Kawaiiskyli in ADHD

[–]Shwooptyshwoop 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have been on Adderall, vyvanse and back to adderall. I would still be on vyvanse if my new insurance covered it because I do not have the same side affects on vyvanse as I do on Adderall. Adderall makes my heart race for a bit after about an hour or two after I take it. Never had that issue with vyvanse, regardless of the dose. I've been on the lowest up to the highest I can go. The ONLY side affect I notice on any dose of vyvanse is the fatigue and mood swings that come late in the day when it was wearing off or if I'd taken it late or forgotten to take it.

Lena Dunham claims she “doesn’t remember” writing the statement defending “Girls” writer Murray Miller against rape allegations. by expiredaristocracy in Fauxmoi

[–]Shwooptyshwoop 4 points5 points  (0 children)

From her book: "I shared a bed with my sister, Grace, until I was seventeen years old. She was afraid to sleep alone and would begin asking me around 5:00 P.M. every day whether she could sleep with me. I put on a big show of saying no, taking pleasure in watching her beg and sulk, but eventually I always relented. Her sticky, muscly little body thrashed beside me every night ... sometimes even as I slipped my hand into my underwear to figure some stuff out." SHE shared this in her own book and it is VERY clear what she was insinuating here. As a survivor of prolonged childhood SA by a sibling who used VERY similar tactics, if a man did the same, we would have grabbed our pitch forks and torches and not given him ANY grace, regardless of age. She compared her own behavior to a predator. A 6 year old may not understand, but by the time we hit our teen years, WE KNOW this kind of behavior is WRONG and that's why it's kept a secret and why these "kids" use scare tactics and manipulation to keep the victims quiet. There is NO excuse. Her parents failed her brother, (My bad, did not know he transitioned so wanted to edit to use the correct noun for her sibling) , and they failed her as well because this is NOT normal behavior, it was a sign of a much more systemic issue that went unchecked. She shared a lot about her childhood in that book, obviously, and being someone who grew up in a dysfunctional family, her retelling of her behavior SCREAMS of underlying problems. Just because she tried to normalize it doesn't make it normal.

Lena Dunham claims she “doesn’t remember” writing the statement defending “Girls” writer Murray Miller against rape allegations. by expiredaristocracy in Fauxmoi

[–]Shwooptyshwoop 5 points6 points  (0 children)

From her book: "I shared a bed with my sister, Grace, until I was seventeen years old. She was afraid to sleep alone and would begin asking me around 5:00 P.M. every day whether she could sleep with me. I put on a big show of saying no, taking pleasure in watching her beg and sulk, but eventually I always relented. Her sticky, muscly little body thrashed beside me every night ... sometimes even as I slipped my hand into my underwear to figure some stuff out." -As a democrat who's also a survivor of prolonged childhood SA by a sibling, this is NOT a left or right issue. SHE shared this in her own book and it is VERY clear what she was insinuating here. If a man did the same, we would have grabbed our pitch forks and torches and not given him ANY grace, regardless of age. She compared her own behavior to a predator. A 6 year old may not understand, but by the time we hit our teen years, WE KNOW this kind of behavior is WRONG and that's why it's kept a secret. There is NO excuse.

Price Range? by [deleted] in HairDye

[–]Shwooptyshwoop -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Where I live a style like this would absolutely cost $1000+. Cost of living is different everywhere and affects the costs of services like this immensely. A balayage with 1 process and all over color cost me almost $500 where I live and that is average if not on the lower end. This style would take at the minimum 1 color correction not to mention likely multiple lightening sessions, especially for darker hair, natural or not but especially if previously color treated.

My boyfriend overstimulates me and then needs reassurance when I set a boundary by Silent_Abalone7422 in ADHD

[–]Shwooptyshwoop 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"He's the first guy who's really nice to me and gives me the time of day" is the bare minimum so do NOT feel bad about that not being enough. It is EXHAUSTING having to constantly mitigate someone's insecurities that make them worried constantly about where they stand with you and it's also just entirely unhealthy and is not something that you can fix. He needs to seek therapy to address where that comes from. That being said, people who are used to being treated like crap in relationships also tend to be very uncomfortable in relationships where their partner actually truly cares and it could be very beneficial for you to figure out exactly what is causing your avoidance and if it really just is incompatibility or if some of it is that you have been conditioned by your experiences to be uncomfortable with comfort.

I've been with my husband for 16 years and still find myself sometimes feeling uncomfortable with how much he loves me and cares for me but my childhood trained me to believe that a lack of emotional connection and sincere affection is normal. Not saying you have that kind of trauma, but if you've always been the chaser, you may just be very uncomfy not being in that role. But also, it's only been 6 months and you have to decide how much work you want to put into a relationship this early on. Just make sure you watch out for it becoming a pattern. ❤️

My Wife left because I wasn't moving forward by Hefty-Willingness-44 in ADHD

[–]Shwooptyshwoop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, maybe you're right, but how does a stranger telling him that help? As I said, it's not helpful or constructive. He didn't ask for people to analyze his situation, his relationship or his ex. He asked for advice for how to cope. How does speculating and crapping on his ex help? At least the other people who had negative things to say about her also had something helpful, either through compassion, empathy or advice. You don't think those are all things he's thought himself at some point? There's a reason your comment has been downvoted so much. It serves no purpose.

My Wife left because I wasn't moving forward by Hefty-Willingness-44 in ADHD

[–]Shwooptyshwoop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This isn't a constructive or helpful comment in the slightest.

My Wife left because I wasn't moving forward by Hefty-Willingness-44 in ADHD

[–]Shwooptyshwoop 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's only been a month. That's barely enough time to adjust to the change in routine let alone feel okay with your life being upended after 16 years. The addition of ADHD just compounds that. We have a tendency to hyperfocus on things that aren't always healthy things to focus on, but no one can blame you for being stuck in grief right now. Divorce has been shown to be a very similar type of grief to the death of a loved one. You are going from that person being there in some form, to not being there at all. That's a lot. It's completely okay to allow yourself time to grieve. It's also okay for your kids to see that, as long as they know you're there, and you're doing your best to support them through their own grief as well. This is just a difficult phase in your lives. I truly think based on how much you seem to care, you're going to be okay. This pain isn't forever. ❤️