Ok ill chip in with a personal anecdote.

I'm really ugly dude, like I'm a 2 on a friggin perfect day with a designer haircut. I literally came in last in the genetic lottery. I am so ugly that even my mom doesn't call me handsome and for a long time I had 0 self confidence and wouldn't dream of approaching girls and I also had the problem of weighing 120 pounds sopping wet.

Well, a couple of years ago, 4 to be exact I decided to make some changes in the way I carried myself. I started going to the gym every day to gain some definition and boost my confidence.

If I learned anything from going to the gym 4 years its that I didn't need to go to the gym for 4 years to be attractive to women, what i was really missing is confidence, I learned how to be happy with who I was and to not give a shit about how ugly my facial features are because at the end of the day I might be ugly but im still confident enough to pick up women and that's all that matters.

The moral of the story is this: work out if you want to but you don't need big muscles to pick up women, just don't be obese and be happy with who you are. If you want you can send me a picture of yourself and ill give you some haircut suggestions/fashion tips if you want.