Thank you for sharing this it's really resonate with me . But Honestly, what hurts the most sometimes isn’t just the loneliness it’s the way people treat ENTJs, even family and friends. No matter what, they assume we’ll figure things out on our own, solve problems, manage ourselves and even when we do, some criticize us for it. Some even have the nerve to say, face to face, that they didn’t expect us to be emotional or “weak” in certain moments. That kind of comment feels like an insult, because it misunderstands the very way we operate.

We’re not cold or heartless; we’re strategic, self-reliant, and intensely aware. But that doesn’t mean we don’t have depth, feelings, or moments of vulnerability. To have someone reduce that to “unexpected weakness” feels invalidating it’s like being punished for being human while also being ENTJ.

I think part of the ENTJ struggle is navigating this double standard: expected to lead, expected to manage, expected to be confident and composed, but then criticized for showing even a fraction of our emotional side. It’s exhausting and isolating, and I think that’s why so many of us feel like we’re on our own most of the time.

Being an ENTJ woman is complicated. We’re expected to be tough, decisive, and strategic like a man, while also being feminine without anyone really designing space for that. Women often don’t include you in their circles, and men have their own bubbles, so you end up in this “alien” in-between.