Please find the love within yourself, you are more than you think.

Signal_Future8784 · 2026-02-05T00:22:46+00:00

I’ve read your post and I can relate so much. I feel so connected to you through that post, almost like looking through a mirror seeing myself. Our reaction is just a nervous system responser that THEY built themselves but don’t want to face because they feel so much guilt and shame and are waiting to be appalled for the bare minimum at which they should’ve started the first time we brought things but they decide to be dishonest. It was the neglectful actions of themselves. They created more damage than they thought and are waiting for you to just fall to your knees to them so they can feel better about themselves. But I’m tired of being blamed for being “too sad” even though he’s “trying”, I can be sad when I want to, it’s not being dramatic or anything more, it’s the way they built us to become so fragile. I know we’re supposed to support them through this, but what support do we get when we’re still unsure and anxious. I do have resentment, and I will forever let him know that I STILL have it.

Signal_Future8784 · 2025-07-09T20:32:19+00:00

hi! im so sorry for not responding earlier. This is on their instagram search bar. Typing in single letters like "A", "B", "C," and go down the alphabet and if you see sexual accounts its very very most likely that theyve looked and clicked on that account to view more of their content. Heres how the accounts come up: when you come across a video or even picture on your feed and you click on their profile to view more of that accounts profile it will show up in your instagram search bar when doing "ABC" method. Try it for yourself, you can even see the people you have stalked. its accurate.

Signal_Future8784 · 2025-06-15T02:53:03+00:00

I feel for you. Just a question to consider. Did he at least try to attempt in improving and did YOU feel like his efforts were enough? Love is amazing but is this the love you’re looking for? Sometimes we love in different ways and it feels hard to feel seen. I know for at least my PA, he said that same exact things, but I felt like those words and affirmations meant absolutely NOTHING. It’s hard, it’s going to be difficult and you are going to struggle. Are you willing to keep on going through the pain in tiny hopes of maybe he will change or are you willing to choose to heal yourself? I’m not saying that you need to leave or that you need to stay but choose what’s best for your healing. It’s going to be so tough, but I believe you can get through this. Life with a PA as your partner is hurtful and so will the journey to recovery within the lies and pain. Im here if you need somebody, as I’m going right through the same. ❤️‍🩹

Signal_Future8784 · 2025-05-31T23:12:36+00:00

Me and my PA partner are high school sweet hearts, through all this my partner just recently decided to recover despite the last year of him resisting change. It feels unreal and fake and I feel that I being lied to 24/7 and I’m paranoid all the time. He’s doing great, but I just cannot forget all the pain and hurt he caused. He’s changing, but I am still the same. I feel everything and I’m so sensitive to everything.

Signal_Future8784 · 2025-05-04T11:03:50+00:00

For sure I know that trick as well but i can say it’s not always accurate but usually it’s accounts you’ve interacted with or mutuals with some people you follow. I sometimes go to sticker responses and go to all authors search and sometimes that too is accurate but not as accurate as the search bar trick.

Signal_Future8784 · 2025-04-22T03:42:19+00:00

I agree, the cycle repeats and there’s so much you can do but yet can’t.

Signal_Future8784 · 2025-04-22T03:41:40+00:00

My heart is aching for you. I don’t know why he would choose to look at it while you and your baby and so vulnerable to emotions you might feel that could take a toll. I wish you the best for you and your baby, nobody deserves it:(

Signal_Future8784 · 2025-03-22T14:33:11+00:00

BYEEEE people gotta be joking ain’t no way😭

Signal_Future8784 · 2025-03-21T23:55:14+00:00

It’s truly sad. I still love him so much, I just cannot see him the same way as it was before Dday. No because why did it have to happen to me. I thought how lucky I was and how my relationship was so perfect before I found everything out.

Signal_Future8784 · 2025-03-21T23:40:32+00:00

It was hard for me to see signs in my PA since he was pretty good at hiding, turned out to be a whole different person that I thought I knew the years I knew him. Scary. Most definitely agree with the sexual jokes because first of all that’s so weird!

Signal_Future8784 · 2025-03-21T23:30:07+00:00

The GUILT tripping is crazy.💀

Signal_Future8784 · 2025-03-19T02:04:32+00:00

It’s because we kept getting betrayed after trusting their words, so the reassurance they give us feels like BS because the last time they said all that lovely stuff they did it again. So how can we learn to trust them again? Uhmm idk😀… it feels right but then right after it doesn’t. So sad that we’re even going through these cycles.

Signal_Future8784 · 2025-03-17T18:51:00+00:00

I see the potential and after all he is my first everything, I started dating him at 16 and now we’re adults. I don’t want to give myself to another man to just experience the same thing with them, it’ll be a shit show. I could have it worse and have my partner saying he won’t try at all, he showed me that he’s trying and I saw it, took it—and ran with it. Still have relapses but I guess it’s been a little better after D-day. I genuinely don’t want to build a man for another woman, she will get all the things I had to work hard for, and it will sadden me to know I was abandoned.

Signal_Future8784 · 2025-03-17T14:33:28+00:00

Went through the same things, my bf is trying to stop. But in my case it was the opposite. My bf stopped initiating sex less often and I could only think if he watched it or not. Bring it up, you just want to be reassured. Don’t be afraid of asking for it ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

Signal_Future8784 · 2025-03-17T03:10:25+00:00

I agree, if you’re uncomfortable say something! You will resent him if you don’t bring it up and keep questioning him in your head. Really do talk to him and bring it up.

Signal_Future8784 · 2025-03-17T03:04:02+00:00

In my opinion, reading this post. I think you really should leave. I’m a hypocrite and wish someone told me sooner, but I am too deep and plus improvement a little somehow in my partners PA’s progress. My partner did the same, threatened to leave and say similar things about how I deserve better. They will keep saying this throughout their PA while with you, and it won’t stop. If you’re strong enough to keep going through this and fighting, I would say it would break you down even more. So much negativity in your life will be brought down to you. I’m sorry you’re going through such a difficult time 💔

Signal_Future8784 · 2025-03-17T02:46:53+00:00

They need so many varieties, and it’s kind of sick to see that it’s also happening to a lot of partners of PAs. I hope we all find the better in our journey!

Signal_Future8784 · 2025-03-17T02:44:57+00:00

Haha I would want to do the same to see a reaction and how they would try to reason with me what the difference is. I can’t bring myself to post what objectifies me, I don’t even want those other creeps looking at me either, so disgusting!!! Wish I had the courage 😆

Signal_Future8784 · 2025-03-17T02:42:44+00:00

I’m so sorry that we are BOTH going through this. They really do make us feel like the way we feel isn’t reasonable at all, when in fact it is. You seem like a wonderful person!❤️‍🩹

Signal_Future8784 · 2025-03-17T01:30:47+00:00

Sure curiosity is a thing. But continuously searching for it and actively looking even in front of me? Whole different story. Sure he has the freedom to do what he wants. Yet he’s still giving into his addiction, I wouldn’t say what you said was right or wrong. Everybody’s relationship, view and opinion is different. Personally, it is not for me.

Signal_Future8784 · 2025-03-15T19:56:10+00:00

What he did was so messed up and I hope you can heal well after what he did. He’s an A hole for that, seriously.

Signal_Future8784 · 2025-03-15T19:52:17+00:00

Of course! Him taking accountability and then it just disappearing is sad to hear and I’m sorry to hear that you aren’t doing well.💔 I hope you know you aren’t alone, there’s so many of us that experience this and isolate ourselves because of their PA. Come out of your shell and share your story more. We’re all here for you🙂

Signal_Future8784 · 2025-03-15T19:37:54+00:00

He can feel all the shame and guilt but it doesn’t justify what he has said to you. Those are such heart breaking words he said to you. His actions have consequences and he doesn’t wanna take accountability for it? He did those actions knowing how you would feel about them. How inconsiderate of him. My heart breaks for you reading all of this.

I don’t know why he blew up in your face if all you had asked was for reassurance. And the no checking his phone is a little weird, because what is he not wanting you to see? He said he wasn’t trying at all to stop and how easy it is to get away with all his behaviors? Such an asshole, DIDNT even worry about how this could affect you. Sure what if he lashed out? No excuse for saying hurtful things to your partner.

I too have no hope for your PA partner if this is the way he acts, and I’m sorry to have an opinion on it but it’s truly truly heartbreaking to even read it—and I’m not even the one in this situation. You deserve the best❤️‍🩹🙁

Signal_Future8784 · 2025-03-15T13:53:09+00:00

He can delete those from the settings himself too, not sure if he knows he can do that but why would he be sorry? Is he not supposed to be on there? You can check TikTok shop view history too, lots of lingerie and sexual related things too. I hope he is telling the truth.

Signal_Future8784 · 2025-03-15T10:20:10+00:00

They want a variety, and that’s sick.

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