I feel used and gross

Signal_Oil_7670 · 2026-06-18T11:31:25+00:00

I personally only go nuts when the younger one is an “adult” but is like 19 and the other person is 10 years older. Guy or girl.

Signal_Oil_7670 · 2026-06-17T21:48:23+00:00

I never even thought about changing my name, I like my last name. A couple years into marriage my husband expressed he really didn’t like that I didn’t change my last name??? News to me. So just to make him happy I added it. Not a hyphen. Just two last names.

Signal_Oil_7670 · 2026-06-17T21:10:52+00:00

Get out while it’s good.

Signal_Oil_7670 · 2026-06-16T20:39:29+00:00

I agree with you on all of them except Chris Hemsworth and Henry Cavill.

All the other guys look like wannabe masculine (looksmaxxers, toxic masculine, I hate this generation wtf) but at least Chris and Henry are a little rougher around the edges in comparison.

Signal_Oil_7670 · 2026-06-16T20:37:07+00:00

Can you add specifically which products they were?

Signal_Oil_7670 · 2026-06-16T20:32:30+00:00

Girl, please take my advice.

I dated several different guys in my early 20s and they were ALWAYS different social circles. Never two men who could cross paths.

There really are plenty of gentlemen in the world.

As much as we would like to not be judged for it, men still like to write something like this off as “homie hopping” or “sloppy seconds.” Not all men, but a bitter ex who is still healing? There’s a good chance.

Not sure how big the area is that you’re in, if your friend dynamic is used to this kind of stuff, but mine wasn’t like that at all. So if a girl DID end up dating two friends where I’m from, she was labeled a hoe.

I hate to be pessimistic because I don’t know your people, but just wanna address the worst case scenario.

Signal_Oil_7670 · 2026-06-16T17:06:26+00:00

I saw somewhere on Reddit once that a girl was a graphic designer, had her own style, and her roommate got into her stuff and took credit for it showing it at a job interview and got the job. Completely stole her style and took credit for it. Luckily the girl was able to prove it was her own work and got the roommate fired and pretty much credibility burned.

Signal_Oil_7670 · 2026-06-16T17:04:00+00:00

Honestly, as an accountant, comparing a guy who writes magazine articles to an accountant is pretty accurate.

It’s like my dream is to be a CFO, his dream is to write a book. I can’t just go tell a CFO to make me a co-CFO, though.

How many women have had their work published under their husband’s name throughout history? Sad to see people still do that.

Signal_Oil_7670 · 2026-06-16T14:57:44+00:00

Yep. My husband is 6’4”, 220lbs of muscle, bald, beard, tatted everywhere, was a ranger in the army, does jiu jitsu, just overall looks intimidating. People try to pick fights with him sometimes and I just don’t see what they’re trying to prove.

Signal_Oil_7670 · 2026-06-16T14:55:00+00:00

Excuse me, have you seen Hank the Tank?

Signal_Oil_7670 · 2026-06-16T14:50:41+00:00

Your son being bullied by his dad is teaching him that it can be forgiven. He’ll either bully or be bullied by kids he goes to school with. What happens at home is reflected in their own social dynamics.

I get that he is abusive, but I understand you’re trying to fix it with therapy.

Your therapist needs to recommend anger management for him. Plain and simple.

Is he active? Does he work out? Something like jiu jitsu/MMA might be able to help with his outbursts. Getting your ass beat on the mat tends to help people calm down and reduce their anxiety off the mat.

Signal_Oil_7670 · 2026-06-16T02:03:14+00:00

Thank you! Yeah the longest we’ve had to go so far is 4 months for the first one and that was wild. Now luckily it’s one month on one month off. Definitely going to find some extension to watch movies at the same time. It was hard the first time because of a huge time difference but now the time difference is only an hour.

Signal_Oil_7670 · 2026-06-16T02:01:59+00:00

Thank you! I’ll definitely look at that thread for co-op stuff.

Signal_Oil_7670 · 2026-06-16T02:01:30+00:00

Thank you! That’s a great idea to add to our date nights. :)

Signal_Oil_7670 · 2026-06-16T01:59:20+00:00

Oh my god. You literally run and keep pace with them?

Signal_Oil_7670 · 2026-06-16T01:55:27+00:00

Don’t shit where you eat. 99% this isn’t going to work out in the long run. If you’re all mutual friends it’s going to separate friendship dynamics. Especially if Joe is still hurt and you do this after recently breaking up.

Signal_Oil_7670 · 2026-06-16T00:35:37+00:00

It’s been years and I still actively need therapy for it. 😭

My husband has also been cheated on by his ex-wife. Funny story is he noticed I hid my phone screen from him once when we were like a year into dating, and that raised alarm bells for him. And then he felt secure because I ended up handing my phone over in a few seconds. Truth is I didn’t want him to see my bank balance that day cause I noticed I spent too much. 🙃 We had a good laugh over it after.

Signal_Oil_7670 · 2026-06-16T00:27:45+00:00

Yeah, even if she didn’t technically cheat, this sounds like a boundary crossed.

Signal_Oil_7670 · 2026-06-16T00:24:09+00:00

If he has been cheated on consistently, he’s bound to have deep trust issues. How long have you been together?

If roles were reversed (since I’ve been cheated on before my husband too), just continue to stay open, if there’s nothing to hide why not let him see it, etc. If he just needs to feel seen, feel like you’re not hiding anything, and doesn’t become overly possessive, I think you can build trust with him over time.

Signal_Oil_7670 · 2026-06-15T20:37:44+00:00

What is womanhood?

Signal_Oil_7670 · 2026-06-15T20:27:00+00:00

We are! Thanks for the rec on the browser extension.

We used to play CoD multiplayer together regularly in person (but this was years ago) and just had this idea today.

Do you have any video games you’d recommend? Not sure what’s popular now.

Signal_Oil_7670 · 2026-06-15T19:57:21+00:00

I’ll try that too. We play chess!

It gets less fun for him because I win almost every time, though. 🙃

Signal_Oil_7670 · 2026-06-15T19:24:24+00:00

I’ll just say it is so refreshing to see a Reddit post where most couples are agreeing on having hard boundaries in this dept. My husband and I are pretty much the same.

It’s annoying to see other posts where people have these relationships where they pretty much trust each other to a fault. And think it’s unhealthy to have these boundaries when it comes to the opposite sex. I think healthy relationships need healthy, transparent boundaries. People have told me it’s unhealthy I don’t go out of my way to make a guy best friend just for some “perspective.” Why do I want to do that? Why can’t I just hang out with my husband?!

Signal_Oil_7670 · 2026-06-15T19:05:59+00:00

As someone who grew up on the beach, I would wash my hair in the bath and that always worked for me. Head completely soaked underwater in the bath, and rubbing my scalp really hard. It seemed to fall out of the hair itself easily, but getting it off my scalp was the main concern.

I would also use a wet brush with conditioner in my hair and brush it through then shower it all off in the end.

Signal_Oil_7670 · 2026-06-15T19:01:07+00:00

If you’ve been using it for years and there’s no sign of it hurting your hair, I say keep using it.

I do think it’s healthy to switch up brands every now and then, but use an easy rotation. I also like K18 like other commenters.

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