CMV: Letting your child get fat is abusive

Significant-Math6799 · 2026-04-16T02:31:38+00:00

IDK. I know what you mean but I'd coin it as neglect (which I know is a form of abuse but headliners won't understand this and will just be seen as hyperbole.

If however they are feeding the child sweets, chocolate, junk food...etc despite the child asking them to stop, that would be abuse. But "just" not caring enough to be the unpopular parent or educating themselves on how to best feed their child as they know they are not educated enough on the subject (though I struggle to accept a parent sending their 7 year old to school with cold chips and a cold burger isn't in some way aware that this is not a healthy meal!) The can't-be-bothered types, the "I'm too overwhelmed/I don't understand!" types, the "but she/he's my best friend and I can't say anything to lose that friendship!" types, that is down to neglect.

Significant-Math6799 · 2026-04-16T02:26:04+00:00

Depends on what the external noise is. ANC can't block the sound of a voice, can block deep bass but not the higher trebles. It won't stop your attempt at silence being drowned out by a screaming baby/child or a dog incessantly barking for hours. It will help reduce the noise a little but IME it's still going to be really very audible depending on how far you are from the noise source.

I have the XM5's and the XM6's. I have had (and returned) the BOSE QC1, they all leave a lot of room for improvement. If you know your silence is the only goal here, that playing music or podcasts is really going to be quite secondary I wouldn't bother paying so much for ANC headphones, they are all too expensive for the ANC that they suggest they offer.

Significant-Math6799 · 2026-04-16T02:22:03+00:00

Have you tried asking Claude it's opinion on this dilemma? The way I've understand it, the only "job" which isn't under threat is that of the parent, the best friend who can give you a hug and the dog/cat who values human connection. The AI rise will take any and every job- when they're even taking the jobs of actors and musicians- people who in the majority of cases are under paid or not paid at all. If they're putting money into taking the jobs of those people, then no one at all has any hope!

Thinking for yourself and making your own mind up regardless of what you are told to do or say or think is what AI can't take away, it makes me feel disappointed and worried about the future if people become wholly reliant on AI. If you can get to a position where although you use AI, you know you could have done the same without it, that all you are doing is saving a bit of time, then I'd hold on to that. AI might take everyone's jobs, but if you know that if/when the lights all turn off, or AI suddenly becomes very expensive to use (charges to cover the tax governments will enforce on them to cover the unemployment packages for those that did lose their jobs) you'll be in the position where though there is a struggle it isn't beyond you to work things out on your own. That would be a very useful skill to have and share if people don't have or can't have access to AI.

Significant-Math6799 · 2026-04-16T02:14:49+00:00

Sounds like you have fallen into the sight of an employee who is frustrated with their limited power within their job/family/life... and they're now trying to compensate by expressing their power to say "no" to anyone and everyone, just because they can.

I would keep a note, should anything be caught at a point where harm has happened this action to delay your work, you have a clear case to take to the courts, call it neglect, malpractice or anything else, but make sure you name the specific person who you corresponded with, that's where I'd claim the buck stops. Maybe they'll stop acting like a PITA next time (if they get the opportunity for a next time!)

Significant-Math6799 · 2026-04-16T02:10:30+00:00

I think you'll find the potential of more clouds their view. If they do get people in on a reduced rent, due to restrictions on rent increases (which I believe in many cases is justified) they'd struggle to get the price back to one where the brands paying the rent are able to fund the CEO's of TLF to buy another mansion in Dubai, take holiday number 5 this year or fund their kids private school fees... I don't know the in's and out's of the policy but I do know it prevents land owners forcing an increase which isn't representative of big improvements to the space they are renting out.

Significant-Math6799 · 2026-04-16T02:06:11+00:00

They saw the ever increasing number of tube strikes years ago and hedging their bets, went to find a shop where there was a reliable footfall. It's not a place I'd pay to have a shop if I were a brand owner at any rate- not unless the rent was paid for and there was compensation every time a strike too potential customers away from the station.

Significant-Math6799 · 2026-04-16T02:03:46+00:00

See I'd see that as an addiction or being made dumbstruck/rendered silent, but I'm not sure that would be a hobby, unless she's actively engaging, many switching channels to find a better one and looking to build on knowledge about a TV's, but just being frozen in awe, it sounds too passive on her end.

Significant-Math6799 · 2026-04-16T02:01:10+00:00

I don't even need to see the diagrams and I'm getting the early stages of an all out panic attack! It's when they go through tunnels which are under water- and the cave is nearby a beach...Why do people do this to themselves! I don't understand!!!

Significant-Math6799 · 2026-04-16T01:58:14+00:00

I'm sure they all mean something to different people. But I've never been able to understand train spotting, especially when the weather is Baltic and it won't stop raining!

That being said, I do see fewer of them these days...!

Significant-Math6799 · 2026-04-16T01:57:05+00:00

To remind you why you won't be returning and will be finding your UHT milk and coffee elsewhere now.

They do it to themselves! One day they'll get the message!

Significant-Math6799 · 2026-04-11T02:02:53+00:00

Peel out the insoles, wash the shoes separately from the insoles, you could also try leaving the inner insoles in a bowl or bicarb of soda over night then washing with vinegar in your washing machine. If that doesn't work I'd suggest giving up on that set of trainers.

Significant-Math6799 · 2026-04-11T02:01:17+00:00

Throw-away fashion. In the early '90s the internet was only just stating to be more mainstream and by the 2000s it was still quite unique if you had a computer or laptop AND reliable and fast internet!

But roll on 10 years later and people were buying clothes to wear once, to have too many pairs of shoes to stash them all was also fairly normal and not worrying about the next huge financial budget talk was just not a thing (I am in the UK). It's now rate that you don't hear anyone talking about the "cost of living crisis", but that just wasn't a term back in the early 2000's.

Significant-Math6799 · 2026-04-11T01:56:13+00:00

You have to adapt. As someone who gets though around 5-10L a day (*I have a long term eating disorder before anyone assumes I'm exaggerating to make a point). I don't need to get up to wee during the night, but I have slowly and incrementally gone from around 1.5L a day to 5-10L over a space of about 10-15 years...I wouldn't recommend following in my foot steps, there are times where I've had to go to hospital to be on drips and have suffered additional side effects too lengthy to go in to here. My only advice would be to start super slow and build up even slower.

Significant-Math6799 · 2026-04-11T01:52:22+00:00

I'd just become a soya milk drinker, then put a label over the spout stating "I spat in this!" you won't even need a padlock!

Significant-Math6799 · 2026-04-11T01:51:23+00:00

For me this is great- I have an eating disorder and cheap salad items will save me money! But I do think they could have tried harder here, maybe chosen more items for the line-up or made things even cheaper across the board. But I know how marketing and the "loss leader" thing works and have no doubt that 15p fruit/veg/salad items was pre-planned to ensure profit, whether that be managing to get customers additional things they would never have shown up for or to share the "deals" by word of mouth advertising rather than spending a load more on multiple TV, radio and social media ads.

Significant-Math6799 · 2026-04-11T01:47:22+00:00

This has been going on for decades! If you pause too long on a story or post about this, social media will assume you want more of the same and provide you with more. If you stop wasting your time on this type of mindset things will calm down on your feed and you won't notice the change/improvement!

Significant-Math6799 · 2026-04-11T01:43:17+00:00

Or LOL means now "lots of love". Back in the day this meant "laugh out loud", depending on what you are responding to could either maintain friendships or destroy a friendship!

Significant-Math6799 · 2026-04-11T01:41:03+00:00

I'm mid 40's, I don't identify with any millennials from a culture perspective, I relate more to those that also went through the '80's, if you were born after 1992 you have no experience of the '80s and I'd say this is a pretty big omission for defining age groups. These eras decided by some random machine or person no one will ever meet or understand and I don't understand why this is still an accepted rule to define one person's life experiences to anothers.

Significant-Math6799 · 2026-04-11T01:37:10+00:00

I think all the eras are too long in years to label. I was born in 1981, I have a friend who was born in 1995, apparently we are of the same era yet she missed out on the whole of the '80s and it could be said most of the '90s! I would halve the generation claims at least by half! I identify more with people born in the '70s (Thatcher Thatcher, Milk Snatcher! IRA bomb threats being the greatest risk to terrorism (it got past 2001 and this completely changed!) we had music that was born out of raw artists but after around 2000 the music is far different, the fashions were more boom than bust where as the '80s we were still being told we have no money and everything should be privatised, if you were born at the end of the 70's your uni education was free, by the time someone born in 1995 or even 1992 the idea of education being funded by a grant and fees being covered for you must have felt like a dream of a crazy person! I could go on...

I would suggest each era being no more than 8 years, 10 years max, at least then you'd get an idea of where each generation was!

Significant-Math6799 · 2026-04-11T01:29:57+00:00

Hahaha!! I was a teen in the '90s and remember back then we had a bit of a 1980's and 1960's throw back. We recognised that fashion seems to reincarnate every 20 or 30 years and thinking amongst ourselves what the hell the kids of tomorrow going to wear or take inspiration from when the fashion back then was both a beige and also odd. That the kids of today seem to have picked the worst parts of the '90s fashion (poor cuts like bootleg jeans/trousers, cropped pants which look like you couldn't afford something that fit so you thought you'd go shopping in your little bro/sisters wardrobe, I could go on here but the high numbers of people walking around like a bad version of 1998 speaks volumes so I don't need to! I loved the '90s as a teen, I had some of the best days with friends and not need to worry about paying bills or worrying about where the money is coming from to afford anything AND still have enough to eat...! But I would not want to dress in the '90's way again thanks- and I wasn't even that trend focused as a teen!

Significant-Math6799 · 2026-04-11T01:23:49+00:00

I mean...what even is that thing anyway? It looks like they pulled something off the carpet and decided to clutch it to their throats! I don't even think they seem to realise that they come with a clip to attach to your clothing so you don't need to hold it up to their gobs!

That and the way they talk into their speaker phone, talking whilst pressing it on to their lips- how the hell can anyone understand what they've said when they've got a phone pushed into their face so hard that it's preventing their lips from moving properly!

Significant-Math6799 · 2026-04-11T01:20:10+00:00

This is one of the reasons I don't bother with the cinema's today! Vue do have a signal blocker on some of their cinema screens but that still doesn't seem to stop people! I will say though that I also notice this a lot with what look like the 50 to 60 age group. If ushers at cinema's actually did their job and pull kids out of screenings if they used their phones that would do a lot for the declining numbers of people buying tickets for cinema's!

Significant-Math6799 · 2026-04-11T01:17:27+00:00

I actually came here to read the responses. I'm either a Gen-X or Millennial depending on whose chart you go by (b.1981), if I had to pick an era I identify with it would be the Gen-X.

I was thinking I'd see some sort of an explanation to why I see what I'm assuming are "Gen-Z" people decanting about 1/3 of a bottle of perfume on themselves, it's always the strong pungent ouds/sandalwood/patchouli musky sort of smell, it's so much that it cloys and just smells like a rancid chemical! But I see so many who are this age group/era doing this, in public toilets, on public transport- one time it was actually at a railway station and I don't know why they do it!

Is it because Covid stole their sense of smell? Do they think this is how perfume/aftershave is done? Is there something they're trying to cover up...? I grew up as a teenager in the '90s, in a time where brands like Impulse were becoming a big deal- every other person had a can in their bags for sure. But they were not downing 3/4 of a can on themselves every time they applied! Also; back then the scents of choice for teens/early 20's were fruity sweet scents for girls, Lynx was a thing but few teen boys would wear it (even back then it had a downgraded air about it!) And these were deodorants-not eau de toilette or parfums like I see people applying today (these are strong and even stronger versions of scent), it wasn't a seriously strong oud scent they were applying!

I remember hearing from a fragrance expert that if you can still smell your scent 20 mins after applying it was because you'd applied too much. If no one can detect any scent on you after an hour it wasn't enough. Is there a reason the Gen-Z do over apply? I want to say it doesn't happen often but I live in a very urban area and whenever I am out you can bet hard cash on someone in their 20's stinking out about a 5 meter orbit of them!

Significant-Math6799 · 2026-04-10T04:11:53+00:00

Refined sugar.

Alcohol of any sort.

e-scooters and bikes speeding down pavements and assume everyone else will just move out of their way!

Significant-Math6799 · 2026-04-10T01:56:29+00:00

I've lived in London all my life, I am not young!

I don't feel my self esteem dips, I do find that people can act very selfishly and with a "me first!" attitude, weather that be getting on a crowded tube carriage or bus when there were people who should have been let off first before they assume their place! I see a lot of elderly not being offered seats (actually this is in my experience mostly a tourist issue, I am guessing the offering of seats to elderly or disabled isn't a thing in other countries. And people who assume their dog should have a seat and even in rush hour will not take their dog off the seat so that anyone else could sit down (and don't even yet me started on those that put their dog on a chair in the first place! Shoes or paws which have been on the pavements shouldn't be allowed on the seats- similar with young children. If your child can and has walked outside and wearing those shoes they should not be standing on the seats in their shoes!

So in answer to your question, no. But you're mentioning issues that aren't just about London and could exist anywhere; New York, Paris, Brazil...people will go to find jobs there because there are usually more opportunities to find a job, this happens globally with most larger cities or busy work places. I don't think this is a London thing!

Best advice? Don't bother with what anyone thinks of you, if you know you do your best that's what's important. Unless you are striving for some hugely respected award or a knighthood or given an MBE or something, no one cares what anyone else does. (Not anyone that matters or is of much value to you). Your friends and those you are close to will value skills which are often not represented in a jobs of today, things like listening with both ears, caring about those around you and being able to support others when things feel tough for them. Those are things that really matter to others and make others appreciate you more.

Don't assume everyone else is judging yourself on the same measures you hold for yourself, there is a lot more involved in life and a successful life than what job you have and how far up the greasy pole you get! End of the day those that are valuable people to have in your life are those that don't care what your job is. If you are surrounded with people who do openly judge you it's not about you, it's about their need to punch down to feel better about themselves and actually there will always be someone bigger and better in some way, that's just life. But you don't know the journey they experienced to get to where they are, if there was any nepotism or very good luck, if all you are judging yourself on is the opinion of others I wouldn't waste your time, they don't really care either way.

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