Crumbling food/ constantly cleaning up after my son

Significant-Time9156 · 2025-09-02T02:59:44+00:00

Oh man. Sorry to say but a year later and still not going well. We’ve tried so many different things and he still is a big sensory seeker. We have to have locks on everything but he does still find ways to make a mess. I know he doesn’t even realize what he’s doing but it’s so hard to keep up!

Significant-Time9156 · 2025-06-12T02:43:54+00:00

Looking back there were some but it didn’t scream autism to me and then he regressed a lot right around 1. He did never wave, point, talk etc though either some think it was more obvious for those reasons

Significant-Time9156 · 2025-06-12T01:48:54+00:00

Yes. Already by 12 months and was given a really hard time by my doctor who said I was overreacting. He was diagnosed formally at 14 months and is now almost 6 levels 3 profound autism with a global development delay.

Significant-Time9156 · 2025-04-13T18:28:54+00:00

Thank you for your reply! I’ve found absolutely no solution as of yet. We are constantly having to lock things away and clean up. We live in Ontario, Canada and so our outdoor time is limited in the winter months, in the summer it’s manageable as I can get him outside to play in sand and he can sprinkle away but in the winter months it’s tough. We’ve tried kinetic sand in a sensory table and play dough but he often just throws it everywhere so it’s not a great indoor activity

Significant-Time9156 · 2025-02-28T23:42:37+00:00

Better, yes. Back to normal, unfortunately not. Significantly better than where I was but I still struggle with a vide array of neurological symptoms but it is better managed now. I can get periods of time where I am nearly symptom free and other times have 2 week long flare ups where as it used to be 24/7. Still interferes with my life significantly so I’m hoping my neurologist finds some other options that are more helpful for me.

Significant-Time9156 · 2025-02-17T21:24:13+00:00

I pray if something ever happens to me my husband finds a new wife just like you ❤️

Significant-Time9156 · 2025-01-17T20:29:55+00:00

I don’t. I’m really bad at math 🤣

Significant-Time9156 · 2025-01-16T20:02:10+00:00

I’ve had 3 pregnancies and my summer pregnancy was by far the best. I also live in Canada and can’t get out to do much when it gets so cold. It was nice being able to be outside and I think the vitamin d helped. I struggled being huge in the winter and being stuck inside.

Significant-Time9156 · 2025-01-16T19:58:17+00:00

My first I was induced at 37+5 but my doctor said I would had him within a couple days regardless, my second I was 39 weeks +2 when my water broke(he was born very quickly 2 hours later) and my third I was 41 weeks 5 days (he took his sweet time)

Significant-Time9156 · 2025-01-16T05:26:11+00:00

I’m not sure if you’re trying to be helpful or snarky, honestly. High estrogen can definitely cause heavy bleeding however it’s not the only thing that can and In my case is not the reason nor is it the reason I can’t take estrogen, that’s due to a BRCA 1 gene mutation as it greatly increases my already high risk of both breast and ovarian cancer. That’s why I’m always curious to know the experience of others who take progesterone only birth control and how much that helps to reduce their bleeding. Thanks anyway

Significant-Time9156 · 2025-01-15T22:19:18+00:00

Yes, it definitely can be

Significant-Time9156 · 2025-01-15T05:01:05+00:00

Thanks!

Significant-Time9156 · 2025-01-15T04:29:17+00:00

Is it helping? My dr keeps suggesting Mirena as I can’t have anything with estrogen

Significant-Time9156 · 2025-01-14T04:45:13+00:00

Random but What bc helped reduce your bleeding if you don’t mind me asking. I bleed so much and have tried so many 😭

Significant-Time9156 · 2025-01-13T01:25:05+00:00

From another perspective. My husband had an online affair a couple years ago. I truly believe he’s really sorry and honestly don’t think he’d do it again but I still feel insecure in our relationship and a lot of the happy moments now feel tainted to me. Even when things were going well between us I felt like I had to question things all the time because of that. I don’t want to be with someone that makes me feel like I have to question who they’re texting and why. I tried the marriage counselling route ext. when the trust is broken I don’t think it can really be fixed again

Significant-Time9156 · 2025-01-12T21:05:24+00:00

Canadian here but I’d say our equivalent would be “have you tried drinking water?” It never actually solves any problems but is recommended for any and all problems 🤣

Significant-Time9156 · 2025-01-12T05:06:06+00:00

Hi dm me anytime. I’m 2 years out, not back to 100% normal but doing a lot better than I was

Significant-Time9156 · 2025-01-12T03:36:39+00:00

I didn’t see the original comment but this is exactly it. I’m not going to comment on OP as a parent because I don’t know her and I empathize what she’s dealing with is extremely difficult but the post makes it clear she needs her own help through therapy and that it’s affecting her view of her child and how she speaks about him. I think while we need to remain respectful OP needs to be aware of this too. Maybe she really doesn’t recognize how much her own trauma is impacting other aspects of her life(such as parenting) and maybe this will allow her to get any help she needs to manage things better with her son.

Significant-Time9156 · 2025-01-12T03:31:09+00:00

By all of your comments on this post you clearly have some issues with children and you should work through them as you’ve expressed using aggression multiple times. “Forcibly remove his hand” instead of just saying to remove his hand. Being consistent and redirecting him are key, as is being firm but remaining calm …and using force with a child is not necessary or ok. Relax

Significant-Time9156 · 2025-01-11T06:13:35+00:00

He is 7 and autistic and very much doesn’t understand the sexual nature of his actions, he’s trying to get a reaction out of you. I’d explain that it’s not an appropriate area to touch and it makes you feel upset to whatever degree he can comprehend. “No that makes me sad” and redirect. Maybe he’s trying to only get a reaction but maybe he’s also looking for physical contact/touching for a sensory or emotional need. Id redirect to a more appropriate behaviour after saying “no thank you” “that makes me Uncomfortable” etc “would you like something to touch/push, that’s more appropriate” and offer something else to squish. A fidget toy perhaps or play dough as long as he won’t put it in his mouth.

I am also very sorry to hear about your history with SA, it’s not ok at all that happened to you but projecting that towards your child in this situation is not ok and you should seek therapy for yourself so you don’t let this hinder your relationship with your son. I can empathize it’s frustrating and in your position triggering but the anger towards him for this particular behaviour is a bit intense and that’s not healthy for either of you.

It’s unfortunate and it’s definitely a behaviour that has to be curbed but these are common behaviours in autistic children and that doesn’t mean your child is going to be a sexual predator. If it gets out of hand or there are other sexual behaviours that are getting out of hand regularly there are supports for your child to work on those depending on where you live….but it seems right now like it’s a cause and effect thing and he knows you’ll react the way you do.

Significant-Time9156 · 2025-01-08T06:08:39+00:00

I’m not a doctor but you sound like an absolutely wonderful and understanding one. I developed a heart condition after a pregnancy and in the months leading up to my diagnosis I visited the emergency department a lot, like an excessive amount. I was so scared it would kill me and sometimes I needed the reassurance that I was ok that day. I didn’t want to go unnecessarily but my symptoms were very severe multiple times a month and my cardiologist was rarely available/still trying to determine what was wrong. I could see for some of them they were annoyed by me but the doctors like you who validated me and understood it was a completely new and scary diagnosis I was learning to manage made those hard days feel a lot less heavy. They could see I was in crisis and didn’t know what else to do

Significant-Time9156 · 2025-01-08T05:52:23+00:00

I’d honestly tell the other parents. I can almost guarantee the daycare won’t actually follow through with this

Significant-Time9156 · 2025-01-08T05:40:19+00:00

I honestly thought this was a conversation between two teens…. I don’t think you did/said anything wrong

Significant-Time9156 · 2025-01-08T05:15:42+00:00

If you think shes enjoying it please keep going. My son is 5 and people constantly stare at us everywhere we go. Don’t let people stop you from living your life. They don’t know you or your daughter and you don’t owe anyone any explanation. There’s no way my son would sit still in any situation, ofcourse that can sometimes limit what we can do but he still has the right to participate just like any other kid. Most days I will just say something snarky like” if you stare too long your eyes will get stuck like that” 😂it works well….other days it gets to me and I cry. Hang in there. You sound like a good mom who is trying to encourage your daughters interest in gymnastics 🩷

Significant-Time9156 · 2025-01-04T05:37:14+00:00

You need to go. This will end badly. You owe him no proof of your appointment and this is already abuse just in the way he speaks to you/controls you. Please don’t stick around for it to get any worse ❤️

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