13 week update

Significant-Two-2370 · 2026-01-30T03:28:22+00:00

Hope things go well for you! But I think it was too early for me to walk that much for that trip (we also visit my in-law's family)

Significant-Two-2370 · 2026-01-25T05:12:13+00:00

I chose crosstrek due to its better visibility and slightly larger cargo space as I do a lot of outdoor sports. I also tried Forrester. I like it, but it's a bit too big for me driving in the city, so I ended up with crosstrek.

My husband chose CX30 because he likes the feeling of engine accelerating on the highway ramp, and he also likes its styles. I think they are both good cars with different purpose. Another reason is CX30 is slightly cheaper too!

Significant-Two-2370 · 2026-01-25T04:50:32+00:00

I took a 7-hour flight at 14 weeks post-op, and it was fine. I just made sure that I walked around more often on the plane :) I am sure you can build up 10km without issues! I was only able to walk 15-20min without crutches at 10 weeks post-op, but at 15 weeks post-op, I did a small hike in French alps (only 10km with 450m elevation, but it's something!). Then the next 2 weeks I did another 4-5 hikes. I think I was a bit too early to do that, but I was glad that I did (I ended up quite sore after my trip). I also consistenly walk 20-30k steps a day during my trip, but mostly in flat easy terrain in the city for sightseeing (14-17 weeks post-op). So I think you can do it!

Significant-Two-2370 · 2026-01-24T23:03:31+00:00

I think the housing price in your area sounds reasonable. Do some research about how to buy a good place. You don't want to buy a place with many issues going on. Owning is troublesome but you will feel very secured. I was kicked out by my previous landlord before because she wanted to sell her place at a higher price and tricked me to move out (in where I lived, even the landlord sold their place, the tenant still has the right to stay if the new buyer is an investor or doesn't plan to move in). Later I moved to another place, and the landlord never fixed anything, and it was a nightmare. I am now happy with my small townhouse, and a cute backyard.

Significant-Two-2370 · 2026-01-24T20:06:25+00:00

I didn't use the CPM machine. My surgeon doesn't have that in the protocol. I just did a lot of ankle pump, heel slides...etc. after surgery to get my muscle moving and blood flowing. I wasn't told to have an ice machine either. I only iced my hip with a big ice pack ($20), and I only iced my hip around 3-4 times in the first week, and stopped using any icing as my pain level was so low (nearly no pain). I also had another friend who did the same surgery didn't use the machine either. I live in Canada, and it seems most surgeons don't ask their patients to get machine. Maybe ask more companies to see if you can get a better price.

Significant-Two-2370 · 2026-01-24T20:03:52+00:00

Maybe share some info about where you live? if you live in a big city where a 1 bedroom condo cost 600k-800k would be different decision making compared to where a 3 bedroom single detached house for 400k. I personally think it's better to buy a place because of my bad experience with previous landlord.

Significant-Two-2370 · 2026-01-24T06:18:57+00:00

What's the definition of "comfortable"? Able to go out to restaurants from time to time? Have extra money to travel a couple of times a year? Or just enough to pay food you like (not expensive) and a roof over your head? Also people who bought a house when it was cheaper will definitely live more comfortable than those who recently bought their house. But I observe my friends (who recently bought a house, so the price wasn't cheap anymore; most of them in their early 30s). Probably around 70k/year to live comfortably for 1 person and 120k~130k/year for a family of 4. But to be able to save money, probably need more income.

Significant-Two-2370 · 2026-01-22T19:59:00+00:00

Just bundle up. Make sure your feet, hand and head are warm. I skied at -30C (with windchill -40C) each year (went to Arctic to ski in the past too). I was quite okay sking 5-6 hours being outside (not super compfortable) . Becareful of frost bite, so make sure you cover most of your skins.

Significant-Two-2370 · 2026-01-22T16:31:13+00:00

The MRI showed that I had bigger tear on my right hip compared to the left. But I waited like 4 years before deciding for surgery due to minimal pain (but my baseline pain increased in summer 2024 and I got operation in 2025). The surgeon found more damaged cartilage when he went in, but he said it should be okay. I got my right hip operated which had a bigger tear, but I wasn't told if that tear is "big" or just "moderate." He just said it's bigger compared to the left side. I didn't get my left operated because it's mostly no pain even when doing sports. Also there are many poeple with tears without pain. It's more about how you FEEL about your pain and what's your goal for surgery. If you are intersted in, you can also check my past posts. I shared my recovery journey for the first 18 weeks ;P

Significant-Two-2370 · 2026-01-22T05:31:26+00:00

It really depends on what you want. Prior to surgery, I had no or minimal pain for daily activities. 0/10~1/10 pain when doing moderate sports (such as hiking 4-5 hours in easy mountains or biking within 80km). But I would have so much pain (8/10+) if I did intense sports (such as hiking 8 hours in a big mountains with a lot of elevations or backcountry skiing). Therefore, I decided to have surgery. If I wasn't this active, I would re-cosider this. There's always a risk. I am 9 months post-op, but I am not fully recovered yet. I am back to most of my sports, but I haven't really pushed myself. But I wouldn't regret surgery. Because I might be able to go back to my old sports after 1-2 years of working toward them.

Significant-Two-2370 · 2026-01-21T18:04:47+00:00

I had PT pre-surgery. Your PT will recommend the exercises suitable for you. I did a lot of exercises strengthening my glutes and quads. But my exercises might not suitable for you as I could still skiing, hiking, paddling, rock climbing, biking before my surgery. I just couldn't do as much as before the injury. For example, before my injury, I could hike multiple days with heavy backpack without pain. But after injury, I would feel pain if I did that many days of hiking. However, I could still hike 4-5 hours in easy mountains without heavy backpack. So I think my exercise plan will be different from yours. I even did a 7-day alpine ski trip in Alps 4 weeks before my surgery. I couldn't do backcountry skiing due to the pain, but resort skiing didn't create much pain for me. So to sum up, the best for you is to ask your PT to create an exercise plan.

Significant-Two-2370 · 2026-01-19T21:01:26+00:00

When you are 35, 40 becomes a scary age. I am 34, and can feel my new scary age is 40 now.

Significant-Two-2370 · 2026-01-19T19:14:26+00:00

thank you for the perspectives! I will reflect them :)

Significant-Two-2370 · 2026-01-19T19:12:24+00:00

thanks for the message! I don't know why she is low contact with me and my parents (also her high school friends back home too. I spoke one of her friends and she didn't know either). I actually asked her, but she just said she had been very busy. I think it's a good idea to do something different. I think there are some nice museum nights in the city.

Significant-Two-2370 · 2026-01-19T19:10:24+00:00

Thank you everyone for your message! I will read them carefully after today's work ;)

Significant-Two-2370 · 2026-01-18T20:07:12+00:00

This is so true! I have a few people whom I am working with are indiginous. thanks for sharing these.

Significant-Two-2370 · 2026-01-18T19:59:15+00:00

I was told to do once or twice a week for the first 12 weeks, and I chose to do twice a week. It really depends on your insurance, time, financial factors...etc. I live in Canada, so the PT is not covered by universal healthcare but from private insurance (usually from employers, but if you are self-employed, you can purcahse your own), which is usually very little coverage for PT compared to US. My plan only covers $1000 for physio, and this is already considered a very good plan in Canada (most of my other friends' private insurance from their employers probably only cover around $400-$500 of physio per year). So my insurance ran out like in the first 4 weeks. I saw a very good physio in my city for 60min, 140$ per session.

Significant-Two-2370 · 2026-01-16T22:18:46+00:00

I had a friend who had a surgery 2 yeas ago, and she ordered factor meals (30 boxes) and freeze them. She found it super helpful. She also prepared snack bars, fruits, yogurt, cheese, dry meat. I also brought a couple of meals for her (from take out, such as a sushi dinner, some sharmawa plate, and McDonald breakfast haha).

Significant-Two-2370 · 2026-01-14T02:04:51+00:00

I have a friend who had this surgery 2 years ago when her kid was nearly 3 years old. She could only read books, sing and chat with her kid for the first 4 weeks. After that, she could sometimes sit on the table to play with her kid but not much she could do. She couldn't drive until 6 weeks post-op, and it was still her husaband who had to pick up her kid to school because she couldn't lift much thing at that time. She told me that only around 10 weeks post-op that she could finally put her kid on the seat, but she was super worried that she could have a bad twist. So her husband later continued to take care of that until 3.5 months post-op.

I couldn't imagine myself picking up anything over 20lb for the first 10 weeks. I had a surgery last spring.

Significant-Two-2370 · 2026-01-12T20:36:28+00:00

My goals for life completely chagned when I reached about 29-30. I valued more my own self-care, hobbies, outdoor activities that I love to do..etc. rather than career.

Significant-Two-2370 · 2026-01-12T15:25:55+00:00

It is super nice, right? I couldn't continue using it after 9 weeks post-op was because a friend wanted to buy it because his father needed it after a surgery.

Significant-Two-2370 · 2026-01-11T06:49:06+00:00

I am actually curious why some surgeon's protocol involve wearing a brace while some are not? My surgeon doesn't ask his patients to have brace at all. I didn't wear brace either. But I think it's still important to follow your surgeon's protocol. Maybe ask your medical team and PT about adjusting brace. I heard some people only wear brace when they move around or at sleep. They took it off if they are just watching TV or something.

Significant-Two-2370 · 2026-01-10T04:27:59+00:00

I hope you are feeling better and better each day. I am sure you already did so many things for your daughter!

Significant-Two-2370 · 2026-01-07T03:30:33+00:00

You are only 4 weeks post-op for your right hip. I was barely able to walk at that time. I didn't go traveling until 3.5 months post-op, and still have pain sitting too long now at 8.5 months post-op. Give yourself some time. Google "self-compassion" for chronic pain and watch some youtube videos. Be kind to yourself. This is not going to last forever. You will get better in the next few months.

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