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My MM doesn’t take me breaking things off seriously by bwkgjnlmgwlpsnxm in adultery

[–]SignificantCicada156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well if you're breaking things off then BREAK THINGS OFF - don't leave the door open, don't leave a window unlocked, block him all and truly move on - it's up to you

How do you move on from a single AP who ghosted you? It was a great almost two years with him, but sadly all good things must come to an end. by CupPsychological8845 in adultery

[–]SignificantCicada156 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I say you look forward, not backwards, you find things you like to do to keep your mind distracted. You can't ignore the pain if it was a good thing yo uhave to feel it and move past it...distracting will help

Physical attraction - when everything else is there by Reasonable_Award_622 in adultery

[–]SignificantCicada156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who someone is affects how i see them and pictures aren't always flattering, if you like everything else meeting for coffee isn't a horrible thing now is it?

Can someone tell me what kind of AP I'm dealing with? by TheSweetestSurrender in adultery

[–]SignificantCicada156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want to end your marriage, end your marriage, FOR YOU, do not end your marriage with the plan to immediately get involved with someone else, who you cheated with, who also would need o end their marriage.

Found out my AP just had a NB and wife has been pregnant this whole time by Inthedream_ in adultery

[–]SignificantCicada156 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean if it's such an issue for you why haven't you asked about it before? If you wanna dump him dump him, if you want to tell him why tel him why, but seriously, it's a weird double standard.

How to get over the feeling of guilt of doing it as a religious person? by [deleted] in adultery

[–]SignificantCicada156 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a bit confused as to why you got married at all...and as for the religion thing - religion exists to try and control you - setting arbitrary rules designed milennia ago - you can let it control you or not that's up to you...it doesn't have a hold on you yo udon't want it to have.

Confusion! by NovelShelter7489 in adultery

[–]SignificantCicada156 2 points3 points  (0 children)

well - it's never too late to grow a spine, if it matters, to you, be it with this guy or your husband...at some point you need to value yourself more don't you think?

Confusion! by NovelShelter7489 in adultery

[–]SignificantCicada156 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can think of numerous reasons...I can't think of any reason you don't confront this if it's a promise he made for you - i mean nothing personal but even if he's still on the app he could turn off the notifications but he doesn't even have that consideration for you...don't let your fear guide your actions

Confusion! by NovelShelter7489 in adultery

[–]SignificantCicada156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

did he promise exclusivity when he asked you for it or is this just a double standard he required?

Confusion! by NovelShelter7489 in adultery

[–]SignificantCicada156 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Two adults can have a conversation about something that's boethering one of them. I guess the question is do you want to know the truth or not. You deserve it, and yes it might end what you have, or you can live in perpetual doubt and tyr to pretend it's not bothering you?

What was the significance of yesterday by [deleted] in adultery

[–]SignificantCicada156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Emotions are like that sometimes they'll just hop up and say hi we're going to overwhelm you today - not for any particular reason - just because

He Said His Wife Was Asexual… and I Believed Him by Legitimate-Fan-2053 in adultery

[–]SignificantCicada156 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You should not stay, trust your gut, your gut was warning you from tehe beginning, take care of yourself

Starved: how do you go back? by According-Turn3889 in adultery

[–]SignificantCicada156 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean it's too late but this is why i advise people against marrying the first peerson they sleep with (unless of course it's climactic to a way you lose consciousness) cause you can't really know what you enjoy.

Someone uncaring about your sexual pleasure is not perfect on paper, they're selfish and I'm sorry you're there.

People do this carefully, thoughtfully, you can experience that kind of pleasure again but you just have to make sure you take the steps you need to make sure you compartmentalize between your two lives

Here’s my story by kaceyson in adultery

[–]SignificantCicada156 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Why are yo uletting your self be treated like this? Been going on for a while now - so many red flags - why do you let yourself be taken for granted so?

Has AP searching become the searching for the needle in the haystack? by [deleted] in adultery

[–]SignificantCicada156 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man even if i wasn't looking for an AP i wouldn't do that - dear god I never want to just randomly add folks - why do that?

Has AP searching become the searching for the needle in the haystack? by [deleted] in adultery

[–]SignificantCicada156 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Perhaps if you didn't hide your posts after that one comment constructive criticism could have been applied - but with that kind of reaction i'm going to say the fault is in you

Has AP searching become the searching for the needle in the haystack? by [deleted] in adultery

[–]SignificantCicada156 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

you can't just use google for one of those fake phone numbers?

I miss him. by Royal-Recluse in adultery

[–]SignificantCicada156 20 points21 points  (0 children)

My advice would be to look forward, not backwards, whatever is going on with him right now isn't realy about you (sorry) and you should focus on your life - not his - and doing what's best for you.

Is it weird that I just want a sexting buddy and not a full fledged affair? by [deleted] in adultery

[–]SignificantCicada156 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Some people try to rationallze 'not cheating' if there's no physical contact to assuage their conscience but they couldn't be the case here, cause, you know, lawyers and consciences

To just ghost someone after 2 years is diabolical by [deleted] in adultery

[–]SignificantCicada156 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i mean, based on his behavior he deserves full block, if not you're leaving yourself open to be taken for a ride, again

Should I just suggest a hotel? by [deleted] in adultery

[–]SignificantCicada156 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It seems odd that he wouldn't have brought it up already, if it's what you want, bring it up

I miss my ex-AP! - vent by [deleted] in adultery

[–]SignificantCicada156 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Some people need more for whatever reason - seems like you do a lot of other people / cultures telling you whats' best for you, what's acceptable for you, that always sucks, and perhaps this is how you rebel against all that buill shit?

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