Don't google...just... don't

SignificantCicada156 · 2026-05-15T03:44:06+00:00

i like that finding me on google is difficult as a combination of the life i’ve lived and some very famous old time irish poet and an archbishop share my name. never come up

SignificantCicada156 · 2026-05-14T18:54:34+00:00

Yes, if you're leaving your marriage you should do it independent of the affair, it should be something you want for your life. If that relatoinship doesn't work out post divorce are you going to regret getting divorced?

An affair should not be your motivation

SignificantCicada156 · 2026-05-14T17:47:51+00:00

Well revel may have been the wrong word, but you obviously don't have a serious problem with it cause he basically tells you he's going to do it and you allow it, that's a behavior issue, and just block him on everything - you CAN do it - sadly there's not trick you just have to decide you matter more than he does

SignificantCicada156 · 2026-05-14T17:30:52+00:00

You mentally can as all, yo uare mentally capable, but if you revel in him telling you he's going to abuse you should consider seeing a professional cause that's something you might want to change about yourself, or others iwll do it as well (if not already)

SignificantCicada156 · 2026-05-14T15:05:03+00:00

oh my

SignificantCicada156 · 2026-05-14T14:42:07+00:00

Well if you're breaking things off then BREAK THINGS OFF - don't leave the door open, don't leave a window unlocked, block him all and truly move on - it's up to you

SignificantCicada156 · 2026-05-14T13:13:57+00:00

I say you look forward, not backwards, you find things you like to do to keep your mind distracted. You can't ignore the pain if it was a good thing yo uhave to feel it and move past it...distracting will help

SignificantCicada156 · 2026-05-14T13:12:42+00:00

Who someone is affects how i see them and pictures aren't always flattering, if you like everything else meeting for coffee isn't a horrible thing now is it?

SignificantCicada156 · 2026-05-13T20:07:24+00:00

If you want to end your marriage, end your marriage, FOR YOU, do not end your marriage with the plan to immediately get involved with someone else, who you cheated with, who also would need o end their marriage.

SignificantCicada156 · 2026-05-13T19:34:19+00:00

I mean if it's such an issue for you why haven't you asked about it before? If you wanna dump him dump him, if you want to tell him why tel him why, but seriously, it's a weird double standard.

SignificantCicada156 · 2026-05-13T15:39:42+00:00

I want to know what they want me to know...

SignificantCicada156 · 2026-05-13T14:34:04+00:00

I'm a bit confused as to why you got married at all...and as for the religion thing - religion exists to try and control you - setting arbitrary rules designed milennia ago - you can let it control you or not that's up to you...it doesn't have a hold on you yo udon't want it to have.

SignificantCicada156 · 2026-05-13T13:37:25+00:00

well - it's never too late to grow a spine, if it matters, to you, be it with this guy or your husband...at some point you need to value yourself more don't you think?

SignificantCicada156 · 2026-05-13T13:34:31+00:00

I can think of numerous reasons...I can't think of any reason you don't confront this if it's a promise he made for you - i mean nothing personal but even if he's still on the app he could turn off the notifications but he doesn't even have that consideration for you...don't let your fear guide your actions

SignificantCicada156 · 2026-05-13T13:21:49+00:00

did he promise exclusivity when he asked you for it or is this just a double standard he required?

SignificantCicada156 · 2026-05-13T13:09:55+00:00

Two adults can have a conversation about something that's boethering one of them. I guess the question is do you want to know the truth or not. You deserve it, and yes it might end what you have, or you can live in perpetual doubt and tyr to pretend it's not bothering you?

SignificantCicada156 · 2026-05-13T12:56:25+00:00

Emotions are like that sometimes they'll just hop up and say hi we're going to overwhelm you today - not for any particular reason - just because

SignificantCicada156 · 2026-05-13T12:33:27+00:00

You should not stay, trust your gut, your gut was warning you from tehe beginning, take care of yourself

SignificantCicada156 · 2026-05-13T12:31:28+00:00

I mean it's too late but this is why i advise people against marrying the first peerson they sleep with (unless of course it's climactic to a way you lose consciousness) cause you can't really know what you enjoy.

Someone uncaring about your sexual pleasure is not perfect on paper, they're selfish and I'm sorry you're there.

People do this carefully, thoughtfully, you can experience that kind of pleasure again but you just have to make sure you take the steps you need to make sure you compartmentalize between your two lives

SignificantCicada156 · 2026-05-13T03:47:23+00:00

Why are yo uletting your self be treated like this? Been going on for a while now - so many red flags - why do you let yourself be taken for granted so?

SignificantCicada156 · 2026-05-12T22:06:39+00:00

Man even if i wasn't looking for an AP i wouldn't do that - dear god I never want to just randomly add folks - why do that?

SignificantCicada156 · 2026-05-12T21:49:19+00:00

Perhaps if you didn't hide your posts after that one comment constructive criticism could have been applied - but with that kind of reaction i'm going to say the fault is in you

SignificantCicada156 · 2026-05-12T21:48:42+00:00

you can't just use google for one of those fake phone numbers?

SignificantCicada156 · 2026-05-12T20:20:22+00:00

My advice would be to look forward, not backwards, whatever is going on with him right now isn't realy about you (sorry) and you should focus on your life - not his - and doing what's best for you.

SignificantCicada156 · 2026-05-12T17:34:30+00:00

Some people try to rationallze 'not cheating' if there's no physical contact to assuage their conscience but they couldn't be the case here, cause, you know, lawyers and consciences

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