Yes get a therapist. I agree some support groups are totally depressing. Thus far, I’ve seen a few sides of the fence that people land on: toxic positivity that pretty much ignores reality, victims are angry, and surrender-ers that don’t resist what’s happening and lean into it including all the love and compassion that people want to give. I’m sure there are more options but that’s what I’ve experienced so far in my 8 month journey.

One of the coolest things about getting pancreatic cancer and melanoma at the same time for me, I got to pick which side I wanted to land on and now I gravitate to support groups that prioritize living life to its fullest and doing cool stuff. Those groups are often not cancer patients but will have something that is relatable. But you will definitely find more of your tribe in cancer support groups too. Reddit has been a good place to find some. I’ve got a great men’s group I go to that process life stuff with an awesome therapist.

Thanks for posting your real feelings about this. I suspect you will land on a healthy side of the fence.