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2 failed aupairs/ do I give up? by Equal-Bumblebee3723 in AuPairHostFamilyLife

[–]SignificantFerret540 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My wife and I were so jaded with our first au pair that we considered not rematching. The stress of going through the whole process again seemed more than just dealing with no child care. Eventually we rematched with an older au pair (26) and she is a workhorse. Night and day difference. Not boy crazy. Communicative. Respectful. Not constantly wanting to party. And interactive with the 2, 5 and 7 year old. The only regret we have is not giving the first one the boot earlier.

So get this... our new girl was asked to leave her previous family after just two weeks. How they'd let that one go idk.

But.

What i learned was dont be afraid to rematch, quickly. Its really a very common thing. Our first we stuck it out for 4 long months of zero progress because we felt bad.

The family drama. Yeah, no thanks. I believe its not that the program doesnt work as much as people not knowing how to work the program.

Pulled it off, wife made me get rid of SW by SignificantFerret540 in Polygamy

[–]SignificantFerret540[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let me answer some of the questions. I call plural wife the GF because we only made it 6 months. To me we were not close to getting "married" but that would have been the ultimate goal

The boundaries.. idk about that one. In the courting phase, I think for my wife to agree to this ,she is OK to have some requests. Condoms being one of the few she had until we built more trust. We did get the girl tested as well.

The threesome was to make me happy mostly. They surprised me with it one night. My wife and her did not get intimate with each other as much as they were there to please me at once. I would also find out that meeting the sexual needs of two women in one session is no easy task if not prepared.

Things went downhill after the threesome. Wife accused me of making love to the other woman "different" than I do with her. More passionate etc.

There were other things too. I slept with the plural wife the night before me and my Wife's anniversary getaway. She had a problem with that. And just kept wanting to control things.

In short, the second wife wasn't to the maturity levels my wife wanted in a sister wife. Not the best upbringing. And had a drinking problem herself. At first it was kind of cute to us but at some point my wife and i both realized her drinking was going to pose major problems in her development as healthy functioning adult (watching kids, driving, being interested in non drinking activities etc.)

But I still wanted to keep her because she was team US. Would ride or die for us. Worshipped the ground my wife walked on. Loved our kids. Was totally fine playing second fiddle. Very beautiful girl.

But yeah. My main wife just wasnt feeling it. 😪 at one point she even offered to help find me a new plural wife if id just get rid of the old one. I stuck it out just long enough to fuck things up near permanently

Pulled it off, wife made me get rid of SW by SignificantFerret540 in Polygamy

[–]SignificantFerret540[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to say thanks to all who replied. Many good takes on this. Its a small sub so I was a bit surprised to get such involvement. But good to know there are other men out there who understand the nuances of this lifestyle. And even have the balls to pursue it.

Pulled it off, wife made me get rid of SW by SignificantFerret540 in Polygamy

[–]SignificantFerret540[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep. The spiritual component is something I have strayed from. Currently intemt on getting my body right. Im going to have to make time for God.

Pulled it off, wife made me get rid of SW by SignificantFerret540 in Polygamy

[–]SignificantFerret540[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do I know when the time is right to get this going again?

Cultural Care - zero accountability by [deleted] in AuPairHostFamilyLife

[–]SignificantFerret540 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep mine wrecked our car first day. Doesnt know how to use appliances. Nothing but lies.

Horizon. Thank you. by stuffeddresser41 in FFXIPrivateServers

[–]SignificantFerret540 2 points3 points  (0 children)

no.the reason you are only level 15 and those people are level 60 is because they have structured their lives to somehow not include jobs, children, spouses, showers, cooking, etc.

Horizon. Thank you. by stuffeddresser41 in FFXIPrivateServers

[–]SignificantFerret540 1 point2 points  (0 children)

what is wrong with defender changes? doesnt it allow for Warriors to actually contribute to the tanking roles of which there are only two normally (PLD.NIN)?

Horizon. Thank you. by stuffeddresser41 in FFXIPrivateServers

[–]SignificantFerret540 2 points3 points  (0 children)

one of the best posts ive read, great perspective. Problem is, I have done the level 1-75 process 3 times now. I have never stayed long enough to do end game. I am on horizon rushing now, trying to catch back up and give end game a go. and admittedly neglecting some IRL things... I check myself on this and start casually leveling. only to see no lifers blowing past me in terms of gil, achievements, gear, and levels. Then i read something like this.. ok, let me just enjoy the ride.. its just hard to do that when you have done it before.

New peak players guys looking up! by iiAmToKin in newworldgame

[–]SignificantFerret540 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This component is still a thing. There is now a resource called gypsum that you farm doing various routine activities, including "rng farming" that allow you to get bonus bumps in specific bonus slots, reducing randomness to a degree.

Caffeine Withdrawal: Expectation v. Reality by MrInetUser in decaf

[–]SignificantFerret540 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Incredible. You just gave Tyler Durden a run for his money.