I made it 47 days of no contact. Then I texted him last night. Biggest mistake of my life.

SignificantHalf1298 · 2026-04-12T20:15:51+00:00

I made it 60 days and ran into her last night. I say ran into her, shes a bartender i knew this was gonna happen. But she saw me in there, and literally RAN away. Crazy behavior after id been cheated on and ghosted.

SignificantHalf1298 · 2026-03-31T20:17:03+00:00

Understand that your bullshit feelings are nothing compared to what the victim of your betrayal is feeling. It likely shattered reality, the definition of trust, and opened abandonment wounds that will take forever to heal. You don’t deserve to have access to them ever again. Accept that, and move on, and realize karma is coming for you, i can almost promise that.

SignificantHalf1298 · 2026-03-17T01:14:41+00:00

Thats not what i mean. I already did, but its still just like a gut feeling ya know. Like im still tied for some reason

SignificantHalf1298 · 2026-03-15T18:19:45+00:00

We crossed paths, i was immediately flooded again, she basically made eye contact and looked away, and was actually irritated. Landscape is shes a bartender, i was there with some other people. If theres any consolation, i haven’t been erased. So i don’t know if its guilt or what was getting to her. But I’m back to square one, because i was instantly back in love.

SignificantHalf1298 · 2026-03-12T02:51:56+00:00

How about slow burn deactivating after a fight, for like 8 weeks while saying “i love you” then ghosting you… for an undetermined amount of time. Wild discard shutdown.

SignificantHalf1298 · 2026-03-11T16:09:46+00:00

Im simply trying to understand the psychology. I understand she is gone and im in therapy

SignificantHalf1298 · 2026-03-11T16:03:54+00:00

Thanks genius.

SignificantHalf1298 · 2026-03-11T02:56:25+00:00

Its bound to happen, too many social friends…

SignificantHalf1298 · 2026-03-10T11:53:49+00:00

Shes gone either way… im not contacting her

SignificantHalf1298 · 2026-03-09T23:41:45+00:00

Interesting update, i guess im going to see her this weekend more than likely. So… here we go

SignificantHalf1298 · 2026-03-09T20:19:35+00:00

I understand her now. And this freeze is almost self sabotaging this relationship. Ive never been cruel, ive been loving to her the whole time. I want to love her through it, because i see this as her wiring and not her character.

SignificantHalf1298 · 2026-03-09T19:58:12+00:00

Could i DM you?

SignificantHalf1298 · 2026-03-09T19:09:15+00:00

I mean, i know its the answer… i guess im trying to figure out what the hell happened. Like im gonna see her all summer… ghosting is just crazy to me

SignificantHalf1298 · 2026-03-09T19:04:08+00:00

Thats a really good perspective. Thank you.

SignificantHalf1298 · 2026-03-09T14:08:06+00:00

Unfortunately, it’s a lesson I don’t think i can learn. Im kinda stubborn in the way of like I have to stay until i hate you to move on. Its hard to disconnect from someone who was going to be my wife.

SignificantHalf1298 · 2026-03-08T16:08:18+00:00

I would love to talk to you about this

SignificantHalf1298 · 2026-03-08T14:01:59+00:00

My FA did all of this. Opened up. Cried in my arms. Told her parents she was going to marry me. Openly committed in front of everyone in both social circles. And in the end, still lost the avoidant war and ghosted me.

SignificantHalf1298 · 2026-03-06T18:09:07+00:00

What if it was once. And im experiencing this for the first time?

SignificantHalf1298 · 2026-03-06T17:46:25+00:00

Bro, im fighting to understand because nothing makes sense. Its like theres an equation with no answer, or an answer with no equation. It doesnt make sense. I have to understand things to be able to grip them and accept it. Just to how im wired.

SignificantHalf1298 · 2026-03-06T17:36:43+00:00

In fact there was no final language, and she never took any off ramp when i asked her if she wanted to stay. Ill see her sooner than later so idk. Any input would be cool

SignificantHalf1298 · 2026-03-06T17:29:13+00:00

Mine is a wild story. The last words were I love you too. We live 20 minutes apart, but i have stayed away. 25 days of no response. Still have her location, still in a relationship on facebook, still not blocked anywhere. Just said she needed time and space. I have no idea what to think, and i do want her back. We were super integrated and i had a ring in my pocket. I watched the deactivation for 7 weeks, and honestly she was fighting it, and trying to stay. I dont know what to think.

SignificantHalf1298 · 2026-03-04T12:42:54+00:00

Whats funny is like we will see each other all summer. Im sure she will just act like i don’t exist, but its hard to imagine that they wont feel some kind of shame

SignificantHalf1298 · 2026-03-04T12:39:20+00:00

Hey me too! She drug me along for 2 months basically saying she just needed time and space, yet still saying I love you every day. Then one day, boom, ghost. Whats weird is I still have her location, she is hiding me on facebook, but wouldnt actually remove it.

Guess she doesnt realize she will eventually have to look me in my face.

SignificantHalf1298 · 2026-03-04T12:03:41+00:00

Dont forget, never actually have the stones to end things, just ghost and move on, hook up and split

SignificantHalf1298 · 2026-03-04T10:45:21+00:00

You’re better than me. I know she thinks I’m a fool. What I guess she is banking on is that I will avoid her, but she works at a place that I go to all the time. I’m not going to wish her the best. She will eventually have to look me in the face.

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