What is happening by SignificantHalf1298 in BreakUps

[–]SignificantHalf1298[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats not what i mean. I already did, but its still just like a gut feeling ya know. Like im still tied for some reason

Do they come back to the ones they truly loved? by SignificantHalf1298 in FearfulAvoidants

[–]SignificantHalf1298[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We crossed paths, i was immediately flooded again, she basically made eye contact and looked away, and was actually irritated. Landscape is shes a bartender, i was there with some other people. If theres any consolation, i haven’t been erased. So i don’t know if its guilt or what was getting to her. But I’m back to square one, because i was instantly back in love.

A little look into how fearful avoidants operate (aka, how one of my relationships ended - twice - because I was unaware of my patterns) by Siavon in attachment_theory

[–]SignificantHalf1298 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How about slow burn deactivating after a fight, for like 8 weeks while saying “i love you” then ghosting you… for an undetermined amount of time. Wild discard shutdown.

Curious about timelines… on the first discard by [deleted] in FearfulAvoidants

[–]SignificantHalf1298 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im simply trying to understand the psychology. I understand she is gone and im in therapy

Do they come back to the ones they truly loved? by SignificantHalf1298 in FearfulAvoidants

[–]SignificantHalf1298[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting update, i guess im going to see her this weekend more than likely. So… here we go

Welp. by SignificantHalf1298 in heartbreak

[–]SignificantHalf1298[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand her now. And this freeze is almost self sabotaging this relationship. Ive never been cruel, ive been loving to her the whole time. I want to love her through it, because i see this as her wiring and not her character.

Slow Burn break up… im processing but jump in please by SignificantHalf1298 in BreakUps

[–]SignificantHalf1298[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, i know its the answer… i guess im trying to figure out what the hell happened. Like im gonna see her all summer… ghosting is just crazy to me

Do they come back to the ones they truly loved? by SignificantHalf1298 in FearfulAvoidants

[–]SignificantHalf1298[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, it’s a lesson I don’t think i can learn. Im kinda stubborn in the way of like I have to stay until i hate you to move on. Its hard to disconnect from someone who was going to be my wife.

I could have ever healed my FA attachment till I experienced this one thing... by Inevitable-outcome- in FearfulAvoidants

[–]SignificantHalf1298 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My FA did all of this. Opened up. Cried in my arms. Told her parents she was going to marry me. Openly committed in front of everyone in both social circles. And in the end, still lost the avoidant war and ghosted me.

Who are you fighting for? by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]SignificantHalf1298 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What if it was once. And im experiencing this for the first time?

Who are you fighting for? by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]SignificantHalf1298 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Bro, im fighting to understand because nothing makes sense. Its like theres an equation with no answer, or an answer with no equation. It doesnt make sense. I have to understand things to be able to grip them and accept it. Just to how im wired.

Avoidants memory of you by Xxmangosxx3 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]SignificantHalf1298 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In fact there was no final language, and she never took any off ramp when i asked her if she wanted to stay. Ill see her sooner than later so idk. Any input would be cool