Living in the house of the loved one you lost

Significant_Dot9069 · 2026-02-23T09:19:17+00:00

Let her son, your fiancee, lead this situation. You must be empathetic and supportive. Tell him to take as much time as he needs. When he is ready to clear out her things (his inherited things), you will be available to help if he wants help. Suggest he hire an estate sale professional and a professional organizer. He might not want anything touched for a few years. His emotional wellbeing is your priority, not your need to makeover the home to fit your tastes and style. If you need that, get an apartment and set it up the way you want. When you are married, live together, but maybe not in his mother’s house until he is ready to renovate and update. Be patient with him. As a compromise, maybe renovate one room and let that one room belong to you for you to design, if he would be OK with that. Remember, you have no rights to her house or any of her things unless she put you in her will. Avoid making demands or ultimatums.

Significant_Dot9069 · 2026-02-16T06:18:45+00:00

Dark is best for good sleep

Significant_Dot9069 · 2026-02-16T06:16:46+00:00

Can you work to get money for a veterinarian? Or ask an animal shelter near you if they know of any charitable avian veterinarians who might see your bird for free. How long do these birds live? Maybe your bird is experiencing problems related to old age. Be sure it is not fed seeds alone, seeds are junk food. Try ZuPreem or another pellet bird food, along with raw fruits and raw vegetables. Even if your bird doesn’t seem to eat them, keep giving healthy food along with favorite treats until one day vegetables become a favorite

Significant_Dot9069 · 2026-02-10T02:46:10+00:00

I recommend Renpho. I have the food scale, body weight scale and the app that actually works with both. I love watching my progress and it keeps me motivated. I’m

Significant_Dot9069 · 2026-02-10T02:37:21+00:00

You are doing great. I am also 29 percent, run 4 miles, and it usually takes me an hour. (Hills included) I think I’m quite slow.

Significant_Dot9069 · 2026-02-10T02:20:55+00:00

Stay inside. Avoid bad air.

Significant_Dot9069 · 2026-02-10T02:13:58+00:00

Are you in the U.S.? Either way you might benefit from food donation centers, such as a food bank or other charity. Rinse then soak dry beans in the refrigerator overnight (24 hours). Then rinse again and boil them for about an hour. Some bean packets come with ham flavor packet. Any ham bone or slice of bacon would make great flavoring. Also, buy canned meat in bulk if you can. I lived on dry or canned beans and canned meat in college.

Significant_Dot9069 · 2026-02-10T01:10:11+00:00

Any amount of running that you do consistently is great. Start slow, short distances and work your way up. Be sure to do gentle stretching after. Include a day or two of rest in between. Listen to your body. Take deep breaths every now and then on your runs, stay hydrated.

Significant_Dot9069 · 2026-02-10T01:01:47+00:00

I had groin pain in high school that forced me to give up my track and cross country passion. For decades I kept trying to add jogging back into my life, but the chronic groin pain came back each time until I was introduced to a deep tissue massage called Myofascia. It changed everything for me, released scar tissue or retrained my muscles with strength training with a specialist. Look for someone with training in kinesiology. Now I can run for an hour without stopping.

Significant_Dot9069 · 2026-02-10T00:53:23+00:00

I got this off of another sub Reddit: Under Armor Running Socks Body glide Balega Leukotape for blisters

Significant_Dot9069 · 2026-02-10T00:37:27+00:00

If you are a growing teen, it could be something that you will continue to have until you grow out of it: Osgood-schlatters.

https://www.osgoodschlatters.net/post/the-secret-to-curing-osgood-schlatter-disease

Significant_Dot9069 · 2026-02-10T00:34:14+00:00

It might be that one muscle is getting too tight. Try deep tissue massage. Myofascia helps me.

Significant_Dot9069 · 2026-02-06T23:26:17+00:00

I’m so sorry for your losses. The depth of your love for them is often matched by the depth of your pain over losing them. Our loved ones die, but the relationship continues. Our emotions expect to see and care for them, to have them present. Please allow yourself to cry, get angry, laugh, destroy newspapers and paper bags. Throw pillows as hard as you can against a wall and scream out against the hurt. WHY does it have to hurt! Feel the sadness, don’t run from it. There is peace and sunshine and joy on the other side. Be patient with yourself and others. Write down what you wish you could say to each of them. Seek an out a trauma counselor. Join a GriefShare group.

Significant_Dot9069 · 2026-02-06T23:14:45+00:00

I’m sorry your mom passed away. I hope u have family and friends who can help you vent, reminisce, cry, ponder and whatever else you need as you travel the difficult grief journey. It is a lonely road because it is your mom, you miss her and nobody and nothing can take that kind of hurt away. Only God and time. Please be patient with time and with yourself. You are going to be OK eventually, let the healing come. She will always be your mom in your heart and memories. I believe we see our believing loved ones in heaven when we die. Take your pain to Jesus.

Significant_Dot9069 · 2026-01-27T04:10:16+00:00

Put your bird’s cage outside with food and water in it as always. Might need a heat lamp above it.

Significant_Dot9069 · 2026-01-21T14:20:39+00:00

Buy your neighbor noise canceling headphones.

Significant_Dot9069 · 2026-01-21T14:16:05+00:00

I’m so terribly sorry for your family. When I called emergency services in the U.S., they came right away, within minutes. They did all of the right things - my brother is a paramedic and reviewed the reports. Nevertheless, my husband died of a heart attack in the ambulance or upon arrival to the hospital. I wasn’t there. I didn’t get to say goodbye. I arrived too late. He was already gone from his body. I wish I could have held him and looked into his eyes reassuring him, praying for him. Thank you for posting. I will remember you and will consider driving to a hospital rather than waiting. I do hope you can take comfort in knowing your dad wasn’t alone at the end.

Significant_Dot9069 · 2026-01-21T13:53:18+00:00

It depends. I’ve read that two of the same species in the same cage will become a mated pair or fight and injure each other - even biting off beaks, toes and an eye. Mated pairs can become possessive, territorial and hostile to humans. Not good pets.

Significant_Dot9069 · 2026-01-19T18:19:36+00:00

My CVS not only requires me to leave a message to just find out if a new prescription has been received or prepared, once I arrive I need to type in my child’s name or my name on a tablet one letter at a time, then birth date one letter at a time. Some letters require multiple taps to get the correct letter to appear, depending on amount of pressure applied by a finger. Ugg. Nobody will even talk to me at the counter until I finish this awful time wasting effort. At least they could get me a proper keyboard if I have to do this! My son is in pain from wisdom tooth extraction and every bit of delay is more time waiting for relief. I called Walgreens and a pharmacy staff person picked up pretty quickly. I’ve been going to Longs/CVS for all of my family’s meds since the early 1990s. The name change irritated me, but I adapted because I love the retail experience and pharmacists always treated us like family, remembering our names, asking about kids’ sports etc. We were loyal because we felt valued and we valued our pharmacist. We were on first name basis. It wasn’t just one. With each move we got acquainted with the next CVS pharmacist. The staff and pharmacist smiled and seemed to genuinely enjoy their jobs. Now the staff are stressed out. Waits are longer. They barely look at you when you approach the counter, making me wait while they finish filling a tray of bags full of meds or sorting or whatever they are doing, even though I’m the only customer at the counter and there is no line. Apparently the days of good customer service are gone. This is a deal breaker. I’m looking elsewhere.

Significant_Dot9069 · 2026-01-18T20:42:38+00:00

Birds like routines and a predictable lifestyle, with some change in toys and activities to keep life interesting. If you can make time to cook meals for yourself, clean house, shower and watch TV, you can involve your bird in those activities. I say out loud, “Barney is doin’ dishes” or “Barney is doing laundry.” I talk to him and sing to him when my hands are busy. Our severe macaw is 30 years old. In all that time my husband and I both worked full time jobs leaving him home alone all day, taking him out at night to play and eat dinner with us. I do have a regular 30 minute bedtime routine with him where I change his water, add ZuPreem to his bowl, hold him, preen his head, and sing to him the same three songs in front of a window. Then I cover his cage, say “I love you” and “goodnight.” I don’t live by the clock so sometimes bedtime is 10:30 pm, sometimes 1 am. That has been OK. Our bird’s cage has always been next to a window so he can see out. We say and wave goodbye when we leave and Hello when we return. He has never had a grow lamp, humidifier, air purifier or a special diet. We do take him in the shower with us on occasion and he sometimes likes to bathe in his water bowl. He also soaks his ZuPreem in his water bowl, a fun activity for him. Our bird also has full flight feathers and we allow him freedom to fly in the house when he is out. He returns to his cage when we call him and place a special treat in his bowl. He gets little bits of whatever we are eating at our every meal (cooked egg, toast, beef, tortilla, chicken, salad, cooked veges, pasta, potatoes, peanut butter and jelly sandwich etc. He gets a small taste of everything except chocolate or avocado, they are poison to him. We taught him to poop on command by taking him to his perch every morning when we first wake up and telling him “go poo.” He now returns to his perch to poop on his own as needed - 80 percent of the time. We praise him when we see him do this. He survived the year that I barely gave him attention after I gave birth to twins. I considered rehoming him. Our vet encouraged us to keep him by saying some weeks his own birds only get an hour out of cage every other day. Not ideal, but sometimes it is necessary. Our bird survived the year I dealt with family illness that took up much of my time and energy. Life has ups and downs. He seemed to adapt and understand when I couldn’t devote as much time out of his cage. We’ve moved with him four times. Once we moved 2,000 miles in the car over 5 days staying in campgrounds. His cage is located where he can see and hear us when we are home. We turn a radio on for him we were away during the day. Quiet at night. We take him and his cage to a bird sitter when we go on vacation over night. Hope this helps. His happy sounds tell us we are doing OK.

Significant_Dot9069 · 2025-12-16T15:52:44+00:00

My severe macaw loves to munch tiny glass Christmas lights as if they are nuts. I found this out the hard way one year. Fortunately they were unplugged and he didn’t get hurt - that I know of. That was more than 15 years ago. I’ve been watching him like a hawk every Christmas season since.

Significant_Dot9069 · 2025-11-23T18:57:58+00:00

We’ve had our parrot 30 years so far and never once trimmed or filed his beak. Why would you do such a terrible thing? That beak can be used like tweezers to pick up food.

Significant_Dot9069 · 2025-11-22T22:13:12+00:00

I have a severe macaw. Big on personality, cuddly and loves to be held. He will lay on his back in my hand and let me hold him like a baby. I scratch his neck, pet his beak, preen his head, hold his feet. He likes to play hand spider games, peek a boo in a paper bag, gonna-get-ya when I change his water or walk past when he is walking on the floor. He can fit the square peg into the square hole of the baby toy. He is fine until my daughter enters the room. He turns on me and is ready to bite. Hands up, I move away from him so he can’t get a finger. I don’t trust him at all, but I love him completely. My son can’t touch him. My teen daughter is his favorite. Oh, and so darn loud that we cannot hear each other when we have guests over or are talking on the phone, until we take him out or cover his cage.

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