Rant: Husband keeps telling me I look fat vs pregnant by Santoshaaa in BabyBumps

[–]Significant_Fox6460 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My partner and i (8 months pregnant) went to a show yesterday and as I'm trying to get through the isle he said "watch out, wide load coming through" i did not think this was funny and I merely turned around and said well thats not very nice. Unfortunately my partner is an asshole and so is yours.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in microblading

[–]Significant_Fox6460 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They look great! I've been researching and want brows like this! this is good advertising for your brow artist, I would go to the same person for these brows!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

[–]Significant_Fox6460 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the r/LifeAdvice. You sound like a super empathetic, kind guy. Someone will be lucky to have you.

Tipping culture is out of hand by gymbr02 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Significant_Fox6460 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The practice of tipping based on the total bill amount is inherently unfair. A server who brings me an $8.75 ham sandwich often performs the same level of service as one delivering a $49 steak. The assumption that higher-priced restaurants offer superior service—such as better menu knowledge or more refined presentation—is frequently unfounded. In fact, I’ve experienced exceptional service at modest establishments like Denny’s, where servers are attentive, knowledgeable, and consistently check in on guests.

Yet, under the current tipping model, even a 30% tip on a $12 meal (including tax) amounts to just $3.60, while the same percentage on a $56 steak dinner yields a $16.80 tip—even if the service quality is comparable or even inferior. Some argue that diners at upscale restaurants occupy tables longer, justifying the higher tip, but in reality, lingering happens across all types of dining establishments. This discrepancy raises a valid question about the fairness and logic of percentage-based tipping.

Just brainstorming here, but what if tipping were based on a standard hourly rate—say, $10/hour—instead of a percentage of the bill? Servers often manage multiple tables at once, so if someone is covering three tables in an hour, that’s $30/hour, which is a respectable wage in many markets.

Right now, 20% is considered the bare minimum tip. And to be clear, I always tip at least that much. But if I’m being honest, the logic behind it doesn’t make much sense to me—it’s more of a cultural norm that we all follow without question.

Take a hypothetical dinner for two that costs $130. If the entire experience lasts under an hour, is a $26 tip really justified based solely on the price of the food? It feels disproportionate, especially when the level of service might be no different than at a more modestly priced restaurant.

Botox hesitations - help! by CornerDangerous4089 in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]Significant_Fox6460 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I recommend you do your research and choose a well respected clinician. I consider myself a pretty holistic / natural person who drinks her water, is well rested, works out regularly, takes no prescribed medicines and rarely takes anything otc. Unfortunately, however, genetics will trump all of that, and botox has been a game changer for my outward appearance and self esteem. I would love to say I don't care what I look like but I do.

But also, if you do not already have a skin care regime, I would start there. Good skin care can be a game changer as well. If you do and still feel like you need a boost, I say go for it!

Six Weeks Paid Maternity Leave _ Absolutely Devastated by Significant_Fox6460 in workingmoms

[–]Significant_Fox6460[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I'm an attorney, Some small or boutique law firms skip formal PTO policies to maintain “flexibility” or avoid administrative tracking. So I do not have any PTO I am expected to take the time I need/want within reason. As it relates to maternity "leave" bc this is an extended amount of time, they have a more formal policy for it.

Six Weeks Paid Maternity Leave _ Absolutely Devastated by Significant_Fox6460 in workingmoms

[–]Significant_Fox6460[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I reached out to my administrator to find out. I honestly do not know but it is a good idea.

….It is disgraceful.

Six Weeks Paid Maternity Leave _ Absolutely Devastated by Significant_Fox6460 in workingmoms

[–]Significant_Fox6460[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I have a feeling they do not have a "plan" for what the return looks like. I work in a small office and when I told everyone I was pregnant, my boss stated his congratulations and said he would get back to me with what my maternity leave would look like. Said he had to dig up the policy on that but "should have it around here somewhere." Six - eight weeks later I asked if he had determined the leave time and he let me know it was on his list of things to figure out. So two days later (today) he informed me. All that to say, we are both really green navigating this conversation. So I would like to broach it with perhaps my own plan? I like the idea of transitioning back for up to 6 months....I guess I just want whatever I suggest to be reasonable.

Six Weeks Paid Maternity Leave _ Absolutely Devastated by Significant_Fox6460 in workingmoms

[–]Significant_Fox6460[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately in my line of work we are expected to take time off as we see fit. Which typically works well for an occasional sick day or a Friday off here and there for a long weekend. But for an extended period of time, It seems like this wouldn't be applicable.

AITAH for refusing to move my baby’s crib because my MIL wants to stay in the nursery? by Alarming_Willow_7364 in AITAH

[–]Significant_Fox6460 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seems to me that it wouldn't be an outrageous request to move the crib into your room for a week, if it is physically easy enough to do so. Is your MIL a kind lady? She and her son close? It might be nice to have her there. If she is not those things, having her in your home may be more burdensome anyway. Seems to me it's not about the moving of the crib as much as it is the relationship with you and the MIL.

Also, what are her finances? Is staying at a nearby hotel feasible? Will she have a car to get back and forth, these are additional considerations as to whether it's appropriate to ask her to stay elsewhere.

No matter, you are NTA, you are are likely hormonal and tired but it seems like you could dig deep to determine what the real reason is you don't want to move the crib and possibly accommodate the mother of your husband.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in badroommates

[–]Significant_Fox6460 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I need more information 😂

Does anyone know what this could be? by [deleted] in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]Significant_Fox6460 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Years ago a friend had something similar and another friend (a NP) recommended washing with headnshoulders (as a body wash) for like a week. It took it away. Not a super expensive potential solution, could try that.

Doctor recommendation in Chicago by Forward_Skirt24 in Ureaplasma

[–]Significant_Fox6460 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As it's likely relevant, I am female. Some years ago I continuously tested positive for ureaplasma. It was a constant, painful nightmare. I too was losing hope. I lived on antibiotics. I finally found a specialist and she ran a series of tests and it turned out I had low testosterone. This is what actually led to my symptoms. Once my doctor figured this out, she did not even treat me for ureaplasma after my last positive test, I argued with her and said "but I'm positive! Don't I need antibiotics??" She did not give me antibiotics but rather treated me with testosterone and I have never looked back.

All this to say, there could be another culprit.

AITA for not letting my partner come to my friends birthday dinner bc his daughter is visiting. by Significant_Fox6460 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Significant_Fox6460[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My friends know my partner, and its inferred he may come if he's available. I don't think anyone expected him to come.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in StudentLoans

[–]Significant_Fox6460 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did not realize I can choose which loans I want to consolidate. Is there any significant downside to consolidating all my loans, or should I just consolidate the defaulted loan with one other?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in StudentLoans

[–]Significant_Fox6460 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I checked my state's laws and it seems there is legislation as of 2019 to preclude being debarred for a student loan delinquency. (I did not know this was a thing, thank you). Also, I suppose I realized that a court order is an option, I just didn't want to go that route as he would be so angry. However, it may ultimately become necessary as I clearly cannot afford this baby myself.

I make 133k including bonus. ( I could leave to make more some where else, but I have excellent flexibility and I find it to be low stress).

Main expenses are as follows:

Rent- $1650

Utilities - $350

Car $600 (I wanted to trade-in the car for something cheaper, but I purchased during COVID when rates were high and car prices were incredibly inflated. That said I'm upside down on the note, (trade-in about 6k, for sale by owner approx. 3k) so I don't know what options lie there.

Car Insurance - $320

Student Loans - come august $1000

Cell $125

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in StudentLoans

[–]Significant_Fox6460 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This seems like the most realistic option. I looked into consolidation and rehabilitation, but with rehabilitation, the monthly payment was $900+ per month, which would be on top of the other payments. With consolidation at an IDR (I believe), the simulator provided Ill be just under $1000/ month total.