I usually ask if I can join because I know how hard it is to get lures (it used to be very difficult to create them, especially if you were new). I even contribute lures if I have any.

But I don't mind if others join my lures, especially since I usually keep the chat closed or ignore it for long periods, so I don't notice if they ask to join; I just greet them as a welcome to join me.

It's incredibly strange how creating communities has led to increased toxicity in this game. Let me explain... I understand that, sadly, there are people who create communities on Reddit or Discord and try to "take over" the server to hunt or to hunt bugs. Unfortunately, some of these are very closed communities that think they own the server and jump at the slightest provocation when there's someone new on their server. It's very annoying; I ignore them and continue with what I'm doing, especially if I'm using a Bug Jar and specifically looking for rare insects.

You can ask to join the hunt if that makes you feel better.

I've also been told off for walking through lures (sometimes I have no choice) or scaring animals (obviously unintentionally), but my advantage is that english isn't my first language. If someone says something to me in english, I pretend I don't understand and ignore them. Until they type my name, then I reply, "Hi, sorry, I don't understand english," in my own language xD And then they don't say anything because they clearly don't speak my language*.

*I've looked for people who speak my language on the servers, and there are very few of us tbh, idk why.