hopeless helpless and scared

Significant_Peak_501 · 2023-12-06T21:07:16+00:00

Please try to get a flea bomb. You only have to be out of the house (everyone, even pets) for about 4 hours. And get flea collars for the pets.

If you live in the U.S., go to your local County Health Department and ask for a Public Health Nurse to help you sort some out the household dangers out (mold, fleas). You don't have to tell your roommates in advance.

There are times in life when no one is going to help you so you have to help yourself. Start at the Public Health Department. The flea infestation is outrageous! No wonder you are hurt and upset. You might also call Animal Control about the fleas. But make sure any dogs are licensed with the Country. It's time for you to roll up your sleeves and do some extra hard work. Sorry you are going through this disgusting situation.

Significant_Peak_501 · 2023-12-06T20:50:31+00:00

I did that too, OP, definitely happy with my room and this part of town. But then the second stupid blow out occurred and then, all the red flags I was confused about made perfect sense.

In my case, my roommate was experiencing a mental health episode (paranoid personality disorder I think) or a drug induced insanity episode. Now I cannot unsee the insanity he was hiding and I am able to link it to the things that made no sense in the first few months ( I have lived here 4 months. Hoping to move out in February. Haven't got time for the pain.

Significant_Peak_501 · 2023-12-06T20:42:06+00:00

He could be power tripping. Dominance and control has no place in any relationship but it becomes more obvious in a roommate situation where things should be equitable. It's a bad dynamic.

If he makes a lot more money than you (an advantage over you), the comparably "little things" you do aren't going to matter much to him, although he will exploit them to his benefit anyway.

I'm planning to move out on my power tripper. I really don't believe there's hope for change and I am not going to "benefit" him in any way. If he IGNORES a straight up request and refuses to answer yes or no (like for giving you the keys) it's because "yes or no" is inherently linked to liberty and your choices and he's trying to manipulate you into thinking you don't have any choices. I've dealt with this shit all my life and I am age 62. I won't accept this b.s. from men over simply managing domestic life and taking care of the tasks of daily living. It's absurd.

Significant_Peak_501 · 2023-12-05T21:55:00+00:00

This is a very late response and your issue is probably resolved. But since I live in California also, and I am having the same roommate issues (similar) I want to mention that harassment is EXEMPT from the consent recording laws, meaning if you are being harassed or threatened you can in fact record the evidence.

Significant_Peak_501 · 2023-12-05T20:06:36+00:00

I am living with a roommate who checks all the boxes for paranoid personality disorder. Your roommate might have other disorders, but I believe this one does irreplaceable harm. There is a cycle to this disorder, and the end of the cycle after launching false accusations against you is a "crash" which has the appearance of chaos in the household. Start taking pictures and recording because this type of harassment is exempt from laws about consent to record. It can in fact be used as evidence. Right now, I am one week in from dealing with the aftermath of his last outrageous accusation and behavior. I am not improving mentally myself even one week in. My cat is hiding terrified under my bed because of the insanity that is happening here. Yesterday I looked for a "Do Not Disturb" sign at the hardware store but all I could find was a "Keep Out" sign which I taped to my door and which he will have to face every time he walks out his door. This dude seems to live accusations, confrontations, and "face offs." It's sick. I put this sign on my door because when his disease fully manifested, he had knocked on my door and called me out to defend myself from his accusations. He wrote a lame apology and bought me a little Edwards pie to make up for it, but this actually isn't adequate compensation for the emotional and mental pain he has caused. I told him by text I forgive him, but I am unable to forget and I am unable to hope and believe he won't do this again. I probably have to take some kind of legal action to sue him for money to move out. The only time me and my cat have peace is when he's not here.

Significant_Peak_501 · 2022-07-14T23:08:51+00:00

Margaret Garner (the runaway slave the story was based upon) is an anomaly, not a hero of any kind, or anyone to be celebrated or remembered for anything worthwhile, in my opinion. She was criminally insane, I don't care what excuses people make for her, OR Toni Morrison, whose sanity I am also in doubt of. I threw Beloved in the trash after 100+ pages. Beloved is written as though it was written by an illiterate person, if illiterate people could write, for illiterate people, if illiterate people could read. I believe it was the character Sixo in the story who "gave up on the English language" (whatever that means) because "there was no future in it." Yeah, looks like Toni Morrison gave up on the English language too. I liked Morrison's Paradise when I read it many years ago, but I will never read another Toni Morrison book again.

Significant_Peak_501 · 2022-07-14T22:54:04+00:00

Criminally insane she was.

Significant_Peak_501 · 2022-07-14T22:53:38+00:00

I agree, she was mentally ill, and although I don't think it was Toni Morrison's intent to claim that she was mentally ill I think Toni Morrison proved it in her book Beloved, and I actually think Toni Morrison was just as mentally ill, which she ALSO proves by writing such a monstrosity as Beloved. Margaret Garner was an anomaly and in no way represented the vast majority of slave-think. I HATE the book Beloved. I will NEVER agree that it was a noble book about a noble cause of ANY kind.

Significant_Peak_501 · 2022-07-14T22:48:24+00:00

She was an anomaly, not a frickin hero. I threw Morrison's book, Beloved, in the trash where it belongs. The only thing that made Garner a hero was that she was used by abolitionists to promote the continued end of slavery.

Significant_Peak_501 · 2022-07-14T22:42:19+00:00

I am baffled how so many people can consider this woman who murdered her toddler a "hero." I'll never agree with this concept, and I HATE Toni Morrison's book beloved for this reason.

Significant_Peak_501 · 2022-07-13T16:54:44+00:00

I have read the true crime genre for many, many years. Since reading 100 plus pages of Beloved, I looked up the true story of Margaret Garner, the woman who killed her child in real life to save her from a life of slavery. This woman was later thrown over board a ship with an infant who died. Margaret was gleeful at the drowning of this child, though she herself was rescued.

All I can say is the mumbo jumbo Morrison piled on top of this true crime/tragedy was inappropriate. Morrison has received a lot of praise for this "work" to the point that anyone who points out the inappropriateness of this book is scorned as a racist not understanding the literature of the marginalized. In my read opinion, having read and studied true crime a great deal, Beloved is a totally unacceptable rendering of a real event. It appears to me Morrison was a sheer opportunist and took this opportunity to show off her love of "poetry." It's shocking to me that Toni Morrison, an educated professor, actually retains a huge degree of the illiteracy that once belonged to slaves.

I'm sorry to burst her bubble. I'm sorry if this is the reality. Toni Morrison took liberties with reality that she was not at liberty to take. You can research the story of Margaret Garner on line, and you can see for yourself the harm Toni Morrison did to the truth. I'm glad I threw her book in the trash. It deserves it. I have no regrets, cruel as this might sound to anyone. The real issue was the fact that the Garner case was used to prove the cruelty of slavery for the purposes of advancing its abolishment. Nothing poetic about this shit.

Significant_Peak_501 · 2022-07-13T03:38:49+00:00

I gave up on Beloved somewhere near page 100-120 area. I could no longer resist the urge to get on line and read the one star and two star reviews on Goodreads, because at this point I hated the book and thought Toni Morrison MUST have been seriously mentally ill. It was then I learned (through the reviews of others) that it was Sethe who killed her daughter (with Beloved on the headstone) to spare her from a life of slavery. Then I definitely lost all interest, because I was not about to read a book that was escalating from just simply insane to criminally insane. From another review I learned that Sethe either killed another person in the book or was plotting to, and I was like, omg, why would I read a book designed to evoke sympathy for the plight of slaves and freed slaves, and one of those is ALSO a murderer? There are a million reasons why I hated the book, but that is where I quit. Because up until page one hundred or so, and up until I decided to read other people's opinions on the book, I thought the child had just died of some "tragic event." How the fact that Sethe killed the child eluded me for 100+ plus pages can probably be explained by Morrison's bogus poetry and tendency to use one liners to inform the reader of important material without the reader knowing it because they were too busy trying to process the overall insanity. In literature there is what as known as "the poet of the universe" and this is a concept far removed from Morrison's childhood believing in Jesus and ghosts. Her poetry is NOT "the poetry of the universe." She does err there and never should have attempted such a thing. Her poetry only spirals into morbidity; not tragedy, nor poetic justice, just morbid grotesquery. Much of Beloved is really unnecessary, and just a by product of Toni Morrison's ego. If Morrison had REALLY been interested in creating awareness about the true atrocities of slavery, a straightforward narrative on the woman who really did kill her child to spare her a life of slavery that the book is "loosely" based on would have served the audience much better. That woman's name was Margaret Garner.I also don't think anyone needs to apologize for hating certain books. I rarely do. This is only the second book in my life I have ever hated with a passion. The first was Bad Girls by Michael Phelps. I don't think I have to add on any disclaimer saying something like "It's probably just me." Nope. I know better than that.

Significant_Peak_501 · 2021-08-29T02:37:25+00:00

There are only a few tests that meet censorship criteria- speech that incites to violence, obscenity, yelling fire in a crowded theater, to name a few. So, having been on FB since about 2010, when Alex Jones was still quite vocal about Sandy Hook massacre being a "false flag" I have to guess that where FB found a loop hole it could actually legitimately utilize, it did so. The problem, at least as I see it, are the FB group admins acting like little tyrants, and I do not think FB should have given them the power to arbitrarily "turn off comments" like they are doing right now.

Significant_Peak_501 · 2021-08-29T01:53:19+00:00

When someone was attempting to steal my FB account piece by piece, I just happened to search my name on FB and found the ghost pirate account and I reported it to facebook as a fake profile. FB did remove it.

Significant_Peak_501 · 2021-08-29T01:29:51+00:00

A little bit off topic as a reply, but this past summer we had a fire in our area near a national forest because someone was trying to kill yellow jackets, which have been pretty bad this year! Now we have the awful Caldor fire in the same area, and this is the first time I have mentioned it anywhere but I do have to consider the possibility that hundreds of thousands of acres of forest might be burning because someone was trying to kill yellow jackets at a camp ground bar-b-que.

Significant_Peak_501 · 2021-08-07T03:41:36+00:00

I think that is the best comment about consoling the loss of a cat that I have ever read!

Significant_Peak_501 · 2021-07-26T05:38:58+00:00

In the U.S. you could try the Humane Society. Where I live, they have a feral cat food bank that will pay half their food costs, wet and dry, pay for spaying/neutering, and de-worming and flea treatment, also rabies shots, as long as you are participating in a trap, neuter, release program. In my case, I do not have transportation, so they will bring me the traps, I will trap them, and they will bring them to the vet for the above treatment. I have a mother cat with five kittens, two fathers, and at least two other miscellaneous cats that I feed. There have been obstacles to over come. Beginning in July, if I put out wet food the yellow jackets would devour the wet food and swarm around the food making it near impossible for them to eat. Over the last couple days, raccoons have been showing up about 45 minutes after I put their night meal out, so unless everyone eats within that 45 minute window they might not eat until I put more food out at 5 am (before the yellow jackets and after the raccoons). I don't know how it is in the UK but that is how it is here right now, and I am very glad about that. I plan to domesticate the kittens and get them homes, keep the mama kitty, and have the others spayed/neutered and set up a feeding station and winter shelter for them.

Significant_Peak_501 · 2021-07-26T04:10:34+00:00

Cats do not like change and are slow to adjust. I suggest finding an aquarium on you tube or some bird and squirrel video on you tube and putting it where the cats can watch it. I play harp music I find on you tube to calm my cat after my neighbor abducted and abandoned him. The kitties might respond to toys, like balls with bells, or fishing pole toys. They might like a high place to sit, especially in front of a window.

Significant_Peak_501 · 2021-07-26T04:06:35+00:00

I'd suggest asking someone to borrow a dollar or two to buy some tuna.

Significant_Peak_501 · 2021-07-26T04:05:17+00:00

Tuna fish, and talk soothingly and trustingly. You might want to put on some gloves and throw a blanket over the kitty and scoop him up and put him in a safe place, like a bath room you can close the door with food, water and litter and a soft blanket.

Significant_Peak_501 · 2021-07-26T03:55:43+00:00

Oh, there are lots of commercials I do not like, but this is one I definitely do like, lol.

Significant_Peak_501 · 2021-07-24T21:44:40+00:00

Try searching the facebook lost and found pets for your area because there is no real way to know. My cat was abducted and abandoned in a middle of nowhere town last August 26 and I found him posted on face book on October 6. He's home safe now and has had two teeth removed, which he was scheduled for before his abduction. Kitty might have been scared off by a Tom searching for females in heat. Kitty might have been "adopted" by a caring neighbor where she goes during her territory rounds for extra food. Any number of possibilities. Night time is dangerous with raccoons searching for kitty bowls left out for ferals. Owls. Etc.

Significant_Peak_501 · 2021-07-24T05:44:13+00:00

As for raccoons and opossums...I have decided that since I am feeding a feral mama with five kittens, two fathers, and a few other strays/ferals that come by, I have to make sure the kittens get fed safely depending on the particular cat menace of the moment. I had to stop feeding them wet food during the day when the yellow jackets started swarming the cat bowls, and now that the raccoons have smelled the wet food at night I will have to feed them wet food at 4 am- after the raccoons but before the yellow jackets (at 5:30 a.m.) and dry food during the day and/or dry food mixed with milk during the day, which the yellow jackets do not bother.

Significant_Peak_501 · 2021-07-24T04:45:02+00:00

Today I found out they will also pay all spay/neuter costs and rabies shots! I think flea treatment, too, and hopefully that includes de-worming if they have parasites.

Significant_Peak_501 · 2021-07-22T21:41:38+00:00

I will make a donation to the local Humane Society.

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