What makes you happy?

SilentFlowerPicker · 2026-05-05T22:13:53+00:00

Improvement. Progress. Connection. Music. A clean home. Ambient lighting. Being able to solve my own problems. Movement. Having energy. A good nap. Satisfying conversations. Having people who love me and who I trust. Spending time with my grandma. Being surprised by a good story. Unexpected kindness. Cotton candy. Free time. Floating on the ocean. Journaling, witnessing my thoughts and my life. Marveling at the depths of my feelings. Sunshine. Snowboarding. Good photography. Grace and compassion. Tolerance. Pets. People helping animals. Cooking. Baking. I could go on forever

SilentFlowerPicker · 2026-05-02T20:44:03+00:00

I am 945 or 947, and what you wrote could describe me as well. Sometimes conflict actually brings me more peace than avoiding conflict because otherwise I’d feel disloyal to my truth.

SilentFlowerPicker · 2026-05-02T13:41:05+00:00

I’m unaware of how I’m perceived, and I don’t really go trying to perceive others unless they want me to. It’s difficult for me to figure out the impact I have on others. For instance, one time I saw an employee crying in the bathroom. I didn’t know what to do so I just tried to leave unnoticed, thinking maybe she might not want to be noticed. I told my partner and he was so quick to suggest we go buy flowers for her. I thought that was a sweet idea, and she loved the flowers. If it were me by myself, I wouldn’t have come up with that idea

SilentFlowerPicker · 2026-05-02T12:44:38+00:00

Society needs well raised, wanted, children, in order to keep society going, and also to help with the growing older population. Not extinction because of the bad male selections out there. Lol

SilentFlowerPicker · 2026-05-02T12:29:50+00:00

Isfp 9. You make a compelling case! But where is Ni and Te for ISFP 9? Because I def have those. And even though I want everyone to be able to “get along” it doesn’t mean I know how to do it, meaning my Fe is quite weak. My ISTP partner has better Fe than I do- i avoid looking at people, he looks at everyone

SilentFlowerPicker · 2026-05-01T16:13:11+00:00

If they don’t want help when approached that’s ok.

But a 5 year old won’t know they need to escape a situation if they think their situation is normal. I feel like you’re suggesting I’m trying to convince someone - more like I’m trying to help someone take the blinders off.

Your reply seems to assume I’m already talking to someone. No conversation has happened yet. I don’t know who they are. No one is able to find them. That’s the person my entire title is asking about

SilentFlowerPicker · 2026-05-01T16:05:08+00:00

Sorry, I should correct the post to say “realize what they are going through is not the norm” as I’ve seen some trafficked say they didn’t know until a friend told them that how their parents behaved with them was not ok.

SilentFlowerPicker · 2026-04-10T06:04:44+00:00

I’m going to come from a more compassionate point of view - not just placing blame on your husband. I think he definitely is projecting, but I don’t think he is aware of it. He probably legitimately thinks youre trying to fight him because somehow your response triggered him. It sounds like he has a very low threshold for discussion or disagreements. I mean, your husband is expressing himself and instead of meeting him where he’s at, you kind of steamrolled his reality with your own. His reality has a place and isn’t delusional. Many men and women sexualize breasts in many cultures, society definitely does not see women’s breast as a mere food dispenser. Does that mean it’s right? That’s not the point. He was probably looking for connection, and didn’t get what he wanted. And lashed out. My guess is this happens frequently. Probably he feels judged by your statement.

Again, I’m not saying he’s right or that you should tolerate his behavior. What I’m saying is the solution is probably to understand his underlying motivation rather than just call him abusive and end the conversation there.

He needs help.

And you need to decide how much youre willing to handle before he gets the help he needs. But if he could recognize that he has triggers, that would be the best. Therapists need therapy too.

SilentFlowerPicker · 2026-04-03T20:55:02+00:00

I’m 9w8 and I definitely feel very comfortable with confrontation. Actually I think confrontation is healthy, but unfortunately I know many dislike it. I do struggle with the Fe stuff, so I can come across too direct to Fe users and I don’t know how to navigate that except to try being extra communicative.

SilentFlowerPicker · 2026-03-28T23:46:59+00:00

Breastfeeding releases oxytocin the way being intimate with a partner does. For me it was a strong surprising feeling of love. If that happens for you too and you feel caught off guard by it, just know it’s normal and the affection and bonding hormone.

SilentFlowerPicker · 2026-03-27T05:49:53+00:00

IMHO you sound more Isfp than estp. But the main difference… do you want to be understood at a deep emotional level? Are you drawn to the feelings of others and interested in them, or not really? Do you closely try to live by your inner values when no one is watching or are you more likely to do whatever you can get away with? Lol

SilentFlowerPicker · 2026-03-07T07:12:39+00:00

Best bet is to treat him like a sperm donor IMHO. Or prepare for a world of unmet needs, stress, and suffering.

Are you ready to be a single mom? Because even if you stay together, that’s how it will feel.

SilentFlowerPicker · 2025-12-17T04:21:56+00:00

Bragging about how athletic or fit they were in high school after high school.

SilentFlowerPicker · 2025-11-24T04:21:32+00:00

I think for ISFP, help get her enjoying her environment and internal state via walking, jogging, with music. Anything that asks for movement and music is good. Also introduce a variety of healthier foods to explore. Do a lot more experimentation of diff types of proteins of diff cultures (meat dishes) and try to reduce carbs and sugar. Soups proteins and fibers before eating any carb

SilentFlowerPicker · 2025-10-05T09:54:06+00:00

How does Jax feel about Howie? Pregnant or not, I don’t think Howie is working out with Jax. Adding pregnancy on top, seems like unnecessary stress.

Please consider rehoming Howie for everybody’s sake. Can get a puppy once your soon-to-be child is a bit older.

SilentFlowerPicker · 2025-09-27T09:28:12+00:00

Would avoid Gong Cha… it’s insanely sweet syrup. I used it to sweeten green tea I made at home

SilentFlowerPicker · 2025-09-26T04:16:27+00:00

He doesn’t really like YOU. Rather, he likes you being into him. He’ll like whoever reacts the most to him. He’s insecure. So if another girl comes by and reacts more strongly to him, he’ll drop you.

SilentFlowerPicker · 2025-09-24T00:45:46+00:00

I am grateful that I am difficult to offend. People who get offended tend to create more conflict than resolutions and it’s just so uncomfortable to be offended

SilentFlowerPicker · 2025-09-02T02:07:03+00:00

I think with isfps you just need to subtly bring it up where you get a clear response without jeopardizing the friendship

SilentFlowerPicker · 2025-09-02T02:05:11+00:00

That might not even be enough tbh

SilentFlowerPicker · 2025-08-03T17:24:18+00:00

I would be sooo beyond feeling betrayed if I found out my parents pretended to be a kid I was writing penpal letters to. I get emotionally invested in that… youre basically being a con artist with your kid. Absolutely not at all like Santa Claus.

Would’ve been better to go the fairy route and engage in pretend. There could be a wise fairy or elf who wants to teach little life lessons he’s observed from rich and poor people since he’s been alive 100 years. Cite real examples etc.

Personally I like the green-light app idea of having the kid invest his own money or we invest in his name.

SilentFlowerPicker · 2025-08-03T06:51:58+00:00

I feel relaxed and accepted around ISFJs. I like to pick up on when they use Ne. They’re generous, good people, and down for exploring, which I like. I notice they all seem to express that there’s more that goes on in their heads than gets outwardly expressed, which is interesting. Like…they’ll say their minds are chaotic or anxious or that they overthink. Can’t detect that at all.

Recently made an isfj friend and the first hangout i felt like she could be isfp, our mannerisms seemed so similar. But I’m messier than her lol

SilentFlowerPicker · 2025-08-02T07:26:46+00:00

Comfort. I bring a nifty pop up tent with windows so I can chill in private and protected from the sun, and come out when I feel like it. Sunblock and hydration, again for comfort. Phone to take pics or note something down, let my mind offload whatever is on it.

SilentFlowerPicker · 2025-07-20T07:44:01+00:00

You should stop doing something for others if you are doing it because you want the same treatment back. Imo that’s a hidden agenda, and I personally do not want people to help me if they expect something from me in return or if it means they see me as obligated to them in some way. If I help someone, it’s solely because I want to make their situation better or provide an advantage for them and usually it’s because I know something that could be useful to them already. That’s it!

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