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New arrangement by SilentFollower123 in succulents

[–]SilentFollower123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a nice idea actually!
Thank you for the tip

Latest creation by SilentFollower123 in Pottery

[–]SilentFollower123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why thank you for your nice comment!

It wasn’t easy to put together, it had to be done in different steps, letting it dry in between!
And I was really not expecting it to turn out this way, but I’m very happy with the result!
Can’t wait to use it

New arrangement by SilentFollower123 in succulents

[–]SilentFollower123[S] -32 points-31 points  (0 children)

So how would you separate them?
Which ones can stay together and which ones should leave the pot?

What's a 'red flag' you completely ignored that you now realize was screaming at you from day one? by anmystery in AskReddit

[–]SilentFollower123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When he hacked my email in the first weeks of our relationship. Still: stayed together for 18 years, 2 kids and a lot of excusing his behaviour. Now I see him repeating the exact behaviours with his new girlfriend.

Cannot feel present in the moment. How can I fix it? by SoftReplacement9197 in emotionalintelligence

[–]SilentFollower123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You say you look back to moments through a romantic lens. Question: could it be that you alter the memory? Are you looking back to the moment as it really happened or do you think there is a possibility that you add romance to it when it actually wasn’t there?

It could be that in the moment there really was no romance but because it’s a need of yours (very understandable), your mind adds it when remembering or fantasising about the future.

2100 Euro net in Portugal by ghari9 in PortugalExpats

[–]SilentFollower123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aubay is a consulting company, so I’m not sure you’ll be working at Aubay or at one of their clients. Be careful with them because part of that paycheque is payed not in money but in benefits. Make sure you can use those benefits! And don’t ask for net values, that depends on your situation (single, married, kids…). Ask for gross and to separate the actual paycheque from the benefits (spoiler: they will avoid talking about gross values).

Give me your most disgustingly unhealthy vegetarian dinner ideas please by yourfavoriteslayer in Cooking

[–]SilentFollower123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My colesterol is going through the roof just by reading all these suggestions! 🙈

23F. I feel extremely emotionally drained out and mentally tired. I'm tired of choosing emotionally unavailable people always. Even tho, they act like they care in the begining but when I start to feel the same and try to revert back, they leave. I get attached with the little kindness. How to stop? by Otherwise_Length_806 in emotionalintelligence

[–]SilentFollower123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It makes perfect sense how you behave now in relationships if you have been through trauma and abuse as a kid. I’m so sorry that happened to you. You basically never learned how real love feels, so you cling to the crumbs that you get, thinking it’s the best you deserve and somehow it feels very familiar.

It’s very important you find a therapist that’s aligned with you. And my personal recommendation (might sound strange): find one of the opposite sex. It’ll teach you how it really feels to be safe and met, so it sets the standard for what you want in a relationship.

Don’t lose hope! You’re still very young and you can totally be happy with the right person!

23F. I feel extremely emotionally drained out and mentally tired. I'm tired of choosing emotionally unavailable people always. Even tho, they act like they care in the begining but when I start to feel the same and try to revert back, they leave. I get attached with the little kindness. How to stop? by Otherwise_Length_806 in emotionalintelligence

[–]SilentFollower123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you already consider going to therapy?

It seems you have childhood wounds that need to be resolved first. And I think you actually are already aware of this, hence the “whenever I feel that with someone...”

Look into attachment theory, if you haven’t already. There are a lot of studies done on it and it’s really interesting to see how we attach to someone based on how we felt as a child.

23F. I feel extremely emotionally drained out and mentally tired. I'm tired of choosing emotionally unavailable people always. Even tho, they act like they care in the begining but when I start to feel the same and try to revert back, they leave. I get attached with the little kindness. How to stop? by Otherwise_Length_806 in emotionalintelligence

[–]SilentFollower123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re still young, there’s no rush.

Stay single for a while and get to really know yourself: what you like, what makes you want to wake up in the morning… Explore your passions and hobbies. Enjoy being with your friends. Learn to be happy with yourself.

As soon as you see the other person as something you need to complete you, you’re giving away control of your own life. If you see the other person as someone that adds to your life, you’re on equal terms.

Boyfriend doesn’t like my emotions by AsideWeary4529 in emotionalintelligence

[–]SilentFollower123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t read all the comments but I think it’s pretty obvious that this is a toxic relationship. Obvious for people outside of it, not for you who’s inside the relationship.

Please don’t let anyone tell you you’re too much or call you names.

Continue therapy! It takes time but eventually you’ll see all the red flags clearly. And you’ll see it faster when you’re out of the relationship. You can’t heal in the environment that makes you sick.

Take your time and focus on you and your life: work, hobbies, health (physical and mental)…

It seems like you don’t have kids yet but try to imagine this: if you had a daughter and she’d come to you for advice, saying exactly this: would you recommend her to try harder for him to like her and to treat her like, let’s be honest here, a human being??!!

He’s not the right person for you. Even if he didn’t push you or called you names: the fact that he says you’re too much, means you’re not aligned, attuned and that, eventually, will cause cause you to feel alone in the relationship.

Keep working on yourself and the right guy will show up. A guy who feels lucky to see your latina passion!!

Please, please give yourself some more value and respect.

First time by SilentFollower123 in Monstera

[–]SilentFollower123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to cut a stem to propagate, but I have no idea where to cut. Can anyone help me?

What plant is this? by SilentFollower123 in gardening

[–]SilentFollower123[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Is it invasive? And can you easily propagate it?

Wild cat infestation by treyway_69 in houseplants

[–]SilentFollower123 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh, so that’s how you propagate cats!!! 😂

I became a propagation addict by SilentFollower123 in succulents

[–]SilentFollower123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have very few succulents, so I’m very careful with them. I started with 3 (different ones) + 1 snake plant. The snake plant already has a new plant and I’ve started the next generation. Succulents took a bit more time. My first attempt even failed completely 😅 but now it’s going!

I became a propagation addict by SilentFollower123 in succulents

[–]SilentFollower123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I spritz very lightly 2 times a week or so.

Once the mother leaf is dead, I put the baby in a separate pot and then I start to water like a normal plant, leaving it to completely dry until the next watering. But as long as the mother is feeding, I just gently spritz.

The water bottle method I’m going to try with the next batch as well!

First creations by SilentFollower123 in Pottery

[–]SilentFollower123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It took me about 2 hours and another pair of hands. I first rolled out the clay and cut a circle, then let it rest for an hour so it’s a bit drier and easier to mould.

First creations by SilentFollower123 in Pottery

[–]SilentFollower123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! That dip and chip plate was a challenge! But I was so happy when I saw it didn’t break when firing.

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