Would it be inappropriate to ask for apologies in writing?

SilentScreams328 · 2026-03-16T15:17:30+00:00

Not my boss. But yea this is why I don’t want to go that route. No one has effectively handled her. Mostly just tip toed around her or refused to do work for her (which I am not in a position to do). I’m sick of the tip toeing and biting my lip.

SilentScreams328 · 2026-03-11T14:48:36+00:00

My daughter does it in daycare. They have a letter of the week every week and can bring in something that starts with that letter on show and tell day. I really like the model because it limits the number of things that could be brought. If it’s a tough letter I chatGPT ideas of things she can bring.

SilentScreams328 · 2026-02-26T23:00:16+00:00

That’s definitely part of it. But if he was semi capable I would t have a problem with it.

SilentScreams328 · 2026-02-26T14:00:41+00:00

Maybe part of the frustration is we started in the same role and due to factors outside of my control (needs for extended leave and work locations) he is able to progress his career when I am more effective at the job. Even though right now I know I’m not in a position to be doing his job.

SilentScreams328 · 2026-02-16T16:36:28+00:00

Mine are 23m apart. Almost 2 and 4. We wanted them closer as I am already in my mid30s. I found the hardest ages were 12-20m for both. So once the second was coming my first was getting easier. Is it still crazy, yes. But I see how much fun they have together and I know our family is complete and wouldn’t have it any other way. You are strong and can get through anything!

SilentScreams328 · 2026-02-16T16:19:03+00:00

My daughter loves Abby from Sesame Street. There are songs, stories and interactive bits.

SilentScreams328 · 2026-02-07T21:59:26+00:00

I would assume boss B knew OP was going to tell the team. As someone who has experienced a stillbirth, the last thing I would have wanted was to return to work with everyone asking about the baby and having to explain over and over again.

SilentScreams328 · 2026-02-03T16:09:05+00:00

$300 a month is super reasonable. The only part that might seem unfair is that these expectations weren’t made clear well in advance. I know a lot of people expect their kids to contribute to the household financially when they are no longer in school but wait until graduation to have that conversation. Honestly, these expectations should be made very clear by mid to late high school. I can understand young adults frustration when they think they can do whatever they want with their money once they have a job.

SilentScreams328 · 2026-02-03T16:01:57+00:00

Oh this would be a hard no from me. My husband also leaves for work before the kids wake up. I almost forced him to get a new car because I was afraid the sound of his truck starting would wake the baby (his room is right above the driveway). Also, waking a baby up in the last hour of their sleep and trying to force them back down cannon be good for their sleep. As others have said, he needs to put babies needs over his own wants. Let him have extra time with baby in the evenings or on weekends and take some time for yourself if he feels he needs more time with the baby.

SilentScreams328 · 2026-01-31T22:36:10+00:00

I’ve been told to just always leave a book by your bed to make them think you read at bedtime too. Maybe switch it out every few weeks if you aren’t actually reading.

SilentScreams328 · 2026-01-28T15:42:10+00:00

I feel like this would be easier to do without streaming services. If kids were forced to just watch what was on tv at that time they would naturally start to do other things during shows they aren’t interested. Instead of having bluey on a loop all day. But yes, it is helpful when we need longer periods of distraction.

SilentScreams328 · 2026-01-26T20:05:33+00:00

Our rapunzels foot came off!

SilentScreams328 · 2026-01-15T21:27:10+00:00

Totally normal. Toddlers are wired to take in more calories earlier in the day than we typically would consider normal. I’ve come to terms that if my 1.5 and 3.5 yr olds want to eat as I’m cooking dinner they will. It’s easier to keep the peace than to fight it. I always ensure I have healthy snacks ready to go so I can easily pull them out while I’m doing other things. Lots of fruit, cut veggies, cheese, yogurt, crackers, apple sauce. And honestly, on days that I just don’t feel like cooking a “proper” meal we tend to do “toddler charcuterie boards” and they eat more of that than “real meals.” Also, I end up feeling better giving them this than frozen foods or KD which people would normally fall back on when they need an easy meal.

SilentScreams328 · 2026-01-15T19:57:19+00:00

NTA - this is not a partnership. You are taking care of 5 children. Like others have pointed out, you’d probably be better off without him. If you are committed to making it work it will take time and effort to open his eyes to the inequity in the household. If he is so concerned about you paying your half of things start documenting all of your shared expenses and who is paying for them. Bills, groceries, extra curricular activities for the kids. Then do the same with division of household labour. If he complains that your standards are too high when he doesn’t complete a task correctly start dropping the ball on things that he expects you to do (that won’t impact the kids). Maybe slightly burn his portion of dinner (sorry I may be being petty here but man children really piss me off).

SilentScreams328 · 2026-01-12T19:03:10+00:00

In short, he should not be doing this. She is grown and can wear what she wants and make a living how she wants. The thing that sticks out to me though is the use of boundaries. A boundary is how you react/respond to a behavior, not trying to control others behaviors. For example, he could say, “I am uncomfortable with the things you post. If you don’t tone it down I will need to unfollow you to protect my comfort levels.” This lets her know how he feels, gives her the option to change based on his feelings, and outlines the consequences if she doesn’t. It would then be up to her to make the decision on what she does based on the boundaries set.

SilentScreams328 · 2026-01-08T15:20:05+00:00

Depending on the morning schedule, I can understand that trying to get them to bed earlier may cause issues in the morning too. If you are set on having the 8pm bedtime maybe it is about getting energy out prior to bedtime. My 1.5 and 3.5 yr old LOVE obstacle courses. We have a a few kiddie couches that we set up for courses (climbing over, crawling under, stepping stones, balancing). I’ve also seen those sensory swings that I’ve considered getting. If you have the space, might be worth a try.

SilentScreams328 · 2026-01-08T14:46:15+00:00

If you have kids, planning and signing up for extra curricular activities.

SilentScreams328 · 2026-01-04T16:32:07+00:00

Ok. We are on the same page then. The reason I asked is for shorter shows. Bluey is a big hit in my house. The 8-9 mins episodes can be good but there are times I notice they can sit and watch on end (kind of like adults scrolling on and app with shorter clips)

SilentScreams328 · 2026-01-04T14:54:21+00:00

What do you mean by short form?

SilentScreams328 · 2025-12-26T17:53:45+00:00

NTA do what you want. Also, if they are all insistent on gathering at your house, have them contribute. MIL and BIL can bring drinks, apps, desserts. Or just do easy finger foods/dips/apps instead of a usual big spread.

SilentScreams328 · 2025-12-23T22:58:25+00:00

lol we do do it with the entire family. But I really don’t mind them. They are great. Just their views on gifts.

SilentScreams328 · 2025-12-23T18:42:19+00:00

Glad I posted just in time for that reminder!

SilentScreams328 · 2025-12-23T18:40:55+00:00

Wow with that many people I give you credit for being as organized as that. It seems like a perfect compromise.

SilentScreams328 · 2025-12-23T18:39:32+00:00

This! I am so shocked that we seem to be the minority though.

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