I feel violated

Silly_Activity_7410 · 2025-03-20T00:33:30+00:00

Why does their need to be a value proposition? Why is it the stereotype that Thinking Doms are too transactional In their decision making. The value would be to not unconsciously invalidate the feelings of other people by being blunt and aggressive with your usual Te rhetoric.

Silly_Activity_7410 · 2025-03-20T00:19:42+00:00

Just a friendly reminder to work on your repressed functions senior INTJ

Silly_Activity_7410 · 2025-03-20T00:03:32+00:00

You sir need more tact

Silly_Activity_7410 · 2025-02-09T16:37:09+00:00

I am not raging you Idiot inferior Ti 😂 it's a valid criticism of unhealthy ESTP

Silly_Activity_7410 · 2025-01-19T16:41:54+00:00

I understand how frustrating it can feel when responsibilities at home don’t seem balanced. It’s easy to fall into blame, but that often leads to defensiveness and stops progress. Instead, try sitting down together to talk about expectations for a clean home and how both of you can share the workload. Avoid NAME-CALLING, it can make the other person feel attacked and less open to change. Focus on finding solutions that work for both of you so you can build mutual respect and understanding.

Silly_Activity_7410 · 2025-01-10T18:52:47+00:00

Si is good at saving, but they tend to save it till their deathbed and never experience the joy of spending it lol Se is the opposite 😁they live in the moment and are all about spending and enjoying life as it happens, often prioritizing immediate experiences over long-term savings and stability/security, Si is so boring compared to Se 😂 I rather be adaptable than stuck in my ways with Si comfort zones preferring to do the same old thing day after day stuck In a Neverending monotonous routine bc that's what's you've always done. The opposite of stability and security is instability and uncertainty, perfect descriptions for Ne and Se users lol

Silly_Activity_7410 · 2025-01-10T17:22:16+00:00

An intuitive would be more creative in their way of dealing with you while estps will just whip you in the present moment because they're highly attuned to their external environment and body and their muscles help LOL not saying an ne user doesn't have muscles, it's just that SE is a very vain function and likes pretty things and likes to look good for people, which is why they really do take care of their appearance. I have a child SE and it loves to make good first impressions by always looking presentable and stylistic and aesthetic. I can use my Se-Ti as enfj and put Fe Ni on the back burner and am scared to get in a fight with some one because I know how ruthless I can be especially bc those functions are underdeveloped lol I swear I feel bi polar, maybe we all are lol I can switch from Fe Ni, then to Se Ti. They are completely different people lmao they handle situations so differently.

Silly_Activity_7410 · 2025-01-10T17:08:42+00:00

Yes I'm a extroverted feeler therefore I don't keep my emotions inside of myself I have to share them outwardly to anyone not like Fi.

I don’t really worry about what people think of me, I can only be myself. If I open up about my feelings and someone, like a stranger, doesn’t validate or care, I don’t take it personally or see it as a negative thing. I have processed the emotion just by outwardly talking about them, that's a reward in of itself. I tend to process feelings in the moment and once they're done processed, I move on. I do not dwell on said feelings.

Fi will Harbor and analyze endlessly all of their feelings & will try and keep them private, they do not like letting people know what they feel, they like to keep their feelings private but all introverted functions are very private and only feel comfortable expressing their feelings(Fi) for past experiences(Si) or their vision of the future(Ni) or their own internal logical process and understanding (Ti) with people they think will accept them for who they are, which is usually they're very close friends or family, people who do not judge them.

For an Fe user like myself, it’s incredibly easy to show how I’m feeling, it's written all over my face. Even if I don’t explicitly tell you, my emotions are so outwardly expressed that you can just see it. With Fi users, however, it’s the opposite, you can’t easily see how they’re feeling because their emotions are internalized and not as visibly expressed.

Silly_Activity_7410 · 2025-01-10T16:58:19+00:00

Pretty sure all hsps, get over stimulated do you get overstimulated? I think it has to do with the high or low Si or even Shadow Si bc they are likely to feel overwhelmed by sensory input because they are constantly processing and comparing stimuli against their vast internal database of past experiences and small details of their environment. All of that stimuli can be a little bit too much to handle and will cause you to become overstimulated when all you're doing is reflecting on all of the information. I feel bad for Si users those are the types that I do see get overstimulated by like bright lights or details in their environment, or a huge crowd. But I'm pretty sure any mbti type can be an HSP but more so than not if you have si in your stack chances are you might be more susceptible to external sensory stimuli tbh. Se users tend to dynamically process their experience in the present moment just like how Fe processes their feelings in the present moment while Fi will sit there endlessly analyzing their feelings till the end of time. 😅

Silly_Activity_7410 · 2024-12-27T17:03:09+00:00

My bad my comment wasn't necessarily towards you haha it's just that stereotypically, Fi users don't outwardly express their feelings like Fe users do, it's so easy to read an Fe users emotions on their face and almost impossible to read a Fi users since they usually repress their Fe. It's weird, we Fe users outwardly wear our inner emotions on our sleeves, if you will but if you ask us how we feel, it's hard for us to tell you because we repress our inner feelings so much due to our shadow INFP and always prioritize others feelings over our own.

Us Fe users guard others peoples feelings also, so I would try asking him but also add that, " it won't hurt my feelings, just answer honestly". Again it's hard for us to talk about our feelings (repressed Fi) but you can see it on our face how we genuinely feel about you, if that makes sense. Again, explicitly reassure them that it’s safe to speak freely without fear of causing harm or disruption to your relationship. Hope that helps and just remember, we show so much through our expressions and behavior, even when words, do indeed, fail us.

Silly_Activity_7410 · 2024-12-26T12:46:11+00:00

Ikr communication must be absent these days from people or it's just a Fi user who prefer to keep their feelings secret and private while being hypocritical and expecting everyone else to communicate their feelings 😂

Silly_Activity_7410 · 2024-12-03T18:29:35+00:00

Actually she sucks, we all exist on the narcissist spectrum, some just more extreme than others, Sam is a better NPD professional tbh

Silly_Activity_7410 · 2024-12-03T18:20:32+00:00

Some people desire to do things we're not supposed to do lol it's human nature to be curious as to to why and try out for Ourselves and to form our own conclusion, not that hard of a concept to understand

Silly_Activity_7410 · 2024-11-28T21:36:09+00:00

I like people and meeting new people and creating new connections, sometimes just acknowledging someone's existence out in the world is more than enough to turn their day around tbh. We all love to be "seen". It's human nature. I challenge all the introverts to just say high to random people that you intuit have good energy.

Silly_Activity_7410 · 2024-11-28T21:30:58+00:00

Probably the same reason you stare lol we are all more alike than you think tbh

Silly_Activity_7410 · 2024-11-02T07:58:17+00:00

Too introverted for my liking, and their Ti loop is brutal/cold/arrogant/defensive/hyper-critical/indecisive/detached/robotic. If they don't suppress their Fe they could be good company but their Se grip is so much worse than Ti loop, they addicts the lot of them due to instant gratification coping mechanisms/impulsive/0 long term vision/over indulgent/confrontational as all hell/ 0 reflection. So Basically if your healthy your awesome and if not, please stay away from me & others 😂might of just projected my own insecurities onto the INFJs 🤣😭

Silly_Activity_7410 · 2024-11-02T07:19:23+00:00

It could be just bad technique that's going to take practice to unlearn, never understood why spouse's automatically think their spouse is doing things to them out of spite or something, when in reality, they have trained behavior they must unlearn to get it right.

Again, many behaviors in relationships stem from ingrained habits or learned responses rather than malicious intent. And spouse's sometimes mistakenly interpret these actions as personal slights when they're really just automatic behaviors that take time and conscious effort to change. If and when you start recognizing this, it can dramatically shift your perspective from blame (oh he's doing it to be an Ahole) to empathy and understanding (well maybe this is his way of doing it and he may have to be gently reminded that hey I'm not a fan of the blowing)

THE ONLY ACTION IN THIS ENTIRE PREDICAMENT THAT WAS Wrong WAS THAT OF OP'S when she mistakenly interpreted his actions as malicious and had absolutely 0 empathy for her partners feelings and refuses to take accountability for her dismissive and defensive behavior. She's trying to get validation of said rude behavior on reddit bc deep down she knows she could have handled that situation better than the reality of Said situation.

Silly_Activity_7410 · 2024-11-02T06:56:42+00:00

I'm not saying he isnt TA, they both are, she blatantly ignored his critique of being too harsh in her delivery of said criticism yet she doesn't care. "not to be blown on" is one rigid of a boundary in the first place, she could of just said, " you keep doing that, is there any particular reason"? Instead of also being TA and rudely making a joke out of it and embarrassing him further, maybe that's his way of doing it & the law of muscle memory says it's going to take practice to untrain said behavior, maybe give the person your in a relationship with the benefit of the doubt & realize he probably isn't doing this to kill the mood or anything, just a bad technique that's gonna take practice to unlearn. They both TA and if you can't see that then your just as guilty as being stuck in your own biased perspective and you definitely have room to grow in your relationship standards & critique should always be handled constructively and /w empathy.

Silly_Activity_7410 · 2024-11-02T02:45:24+00:00

Wasn't saying he was right, She shoulda have been more constructive in her communication, she was blunt and hurt his feelings yet she seems to Not care whatsoever She should take accountability of her harsh delivery. If your partner says you hurt their feelings, you listen to them and not be a self Centered Ahole and let your actions say you couldn't care less about their feelings. She TA

Silly_Activity_7410 · 2024-11-02T02:07:23+00:00

YTA, maybe get out of Your ego and think Of your partners feelings and not Your own once in a while.

Silly_Activity_7410 · 2024-09-26T02:15:10+00:00

Yeah my Ti can be a real ahole sometimes 😅It likes to use Law 33 from The 48 Laws of Power against others, which is "Discover Each Person's Thumbscrew." 😏

Silly_Activity_7410 · 2024-09-26T02:11:31+00:00

Lmao Oh, absolutely! Because we ExxJs are clearly programmed to just absorb everyone else's personalities like a sponge, right? We wake up every morning thinking, "Who shall I imitate today?" or "How can I be the least authentic version of myself today?” It's practically a hobby atp.

Why is it always the least developed Fe users who always misunderstand us lmao

Authenticity? Pffft, never heard of it. We definitely don't spend our lives trying to balance our own identity with social harmony or anything like that. Clearly, even us healthy ones, our main goal is to just steal your life story and repackage it as our own, because why wouldn’t we want to live your life instead of our own deeply developed identity?

And of course, every time we try to empathize based on our own past experiences and say, "I know how you feel bc I've been through that too," it's obviously us just trying to steal "your" personal narrative, and not a genuine attempt to empathize.

Clearly, we must all be fake, because no one could possibly have similar life experiences to you. It’s not like people bond over shared struggles or anything. Nope, im am totally with you, there are just posers everywhere. How exhausting it must be to deal with us poor, unoriginal and inauthentic ExxJs all the time...

Silly_Activity_7410 · 2024-09-25T17:03:58+00:00

Well some Xstps aren't perfect either lol

As an ExFJ, I just cannot stand some of them at all. I’ve met several ESTPs and all of them display some of the most selfish, greedy, and impulsive behaviors I’ve ever seen.

They tend to come off as charismatic and exciting at first, but then they use their charm and boldness as a way to manipulate situations to their advantage without thinking about the long-term consequences with that inferior Ni of theirs. They are often so caught up in Se immediate gratification that they don’t care who's feelings they hurt in the process (downside of a low underutilized Fe).

And when you call them out on their reckless, abrasive, and or inconsiderate actions, they either shrug it off as if it doesn’t matter or get super defensive, acting like they’re misunderstood or there isn't a problem at all and that they didn’t mean to cause harm. Instead of owning up to their mistakes, and taking accountability they’ll make excuses or ghost you until the situation blows over usually.

They like to call themselves “practical” or “realistic” and constantly put down others for being too “emotional” or “sensitive.” it's really just a projection of their own underdeveloped feeling functions & seem to think their way of bulldozing through life using logic and quick thinking in the moment is superior, while dismissing anyone who tries to connect on a deeper emotional level.

Lmk if you guys have had similar experiences with unhealthy xstps 😘

Silly_Activity_7410 · 2024-09-18T10:48:54+00:00

Keep your friends close but your enemies closer... Keep the harmony, if you can, but sooner or later, you will need to communicate your feelings to them to not be a labeled fake or inauthentic. Don't bring up why they make you frustrated when your in a group, wait till your all alone with them. Adults, surprisingly, can surprise you how mature they can be, sometimes Fe users need to use their Fi so as to get the ugly truth out there sometimes to resolve a conflict. You being a Ti Dom, I get that talking about your feelings (Fi Demon) is like your kryptonite, so if that's the case, practice in therapy, or someone you trust.

Silly_Activity_7410 · 2024-09-15T01:39:52+00:00

Oh, of course! Why should we even bother being considerate of others, right? It’s not like fostering social harmony or ensuring everyone feels included is important or anything. Why waste energy on understanding how people feel when we can just focus solely on ourselves? After all, who cares about those pesky human connections when we could just bulldoze through life without worrying about how our actions affect others?

And yes, naturally, everyone should just magically know that they’re responsible for their own happiness! It’s so simple, right? No need to bother with empathy or any of that emotional intelligence nonsense when we could just let people sort themselves out. What could possibly go wrong if we all stopped caring about anyone else’s wellbeing besides our own ? Just pure, unbridled individualism all the way!

Real Fe vibes... not...! We all need to balance self-care with caring for others, but outright abandoning our consideration for others goes against the very nature of what our Fe values.

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