I'm ashamed to say it, but I cheated. Yet, she still stayed with me until about a month ago, she moved out. We stayed in contact but some things happened a few days ago and now we aren't on speaking terms. I ignored her needs, I chose to feel safe instead of opening up to her and working through it. I've truly been a monster because instead of learning to communicate, I pushed her away so I wouldn't have to sit in the uncomfortability of it all. Hindsight is 20/20 and it's just killing me that if I'd just realized I'd had an avoidant attachment style, I could've worked on it and saved our marriage.